3 days ago my close friend was telling me that her sister had the stomach flu, and that she was up all night helping her. Then the next day her mom was up all night getting sick and my close friend was helping her. Yesterday my friend wanted to go to the beach with a couple of friends, and i said i didnt want to go because i did not want to catch what her family has. (she knows about my phobia). She told me that she had stayed away from her family all week because she knew that i would avoid being around her if she did and it hurts her feelings that i didnt want to go because of her. She told me that i manipulated her into being scared of vomiting. and she made me feel horrible about not going to the beach by saying,"you always say how you want to get over it and here is your chance." and things like that. Is this a good friend? did i really manipulate her into being afraid or is she just saying that? Should i be mad she did that or let it slide?