How can I force myself to help someone who is sick?

[Minnie21]

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[amie.essex]

Hello and welcome,

The way you describe your reactions and feelings are exactly as I feel and behave.

I am 26 and have two little girls and I struggle so badly when they get ill. I literally have to force myself to be in the same room. I cant kiss or cuddle them and offer them comfort as I should - I just completely panic and feel like running. How awful is that when they are my children and I love them so much. It makes me feel terribly guilty.

Have you told people how you feel or spoken to a doctor at all? I had a really bad time a few weeks ago and finally asked for help - I'm on a waiting list for treatment for the phobia plus anxiety and OCD (all caused by the emetophobia).

This phobia effects my whole life and puts limits on everything I do. Like you I dont drink or socialise much etc and I'm very careful about what and where I eat. I too get the heart racing sweaty palms panic feeling often. And I should have shares in bleach!!!

Being on this site has helped me in that I dont feel alone or like such a freak and has given me the courage to admit to this phobia and tell people just how it affects me. I hope it helps you too xx

[asianeko]

This site is definitely a huge help!

Working up to a point where you can help her is giant. The fact that you want to is already a leap beyond some of us. I always feel bad when my boyfriend is ill due to drinking (which really isn't often, but it's happened) and I can't help him. At least you stayed in the house, I slept in the car!!

You are definitely in the right place for help Welcome

[j.shinay]

I know exactly how you feel!!! I good friend of mine was about to get s* in a classroom, and instead of staying with her I literally bolted out the door and down the hall. I felt really guilty afterwards, but she told me later that she understood. If you make sure you surround yourself with people who understand, maybe get some help and very slowly start to feel better, maybe then you can begin to help your girlfriend :-)