Question...if anyone has time?

[wing]

um..i have a question...i mean if anyone is not busy or anything but no one HAS to read it and stuff. dont want to bother anyone..


Well here's the story first...I told my friend about my fear... last week... (when i first found out the name of this fear) ...the first time when i told her she said "No offense but GET OVER IT!" So i tried explaining what i found on it and she said "stop reading that stuff! Close it now!!" Okay so i closed the windows but..I was telling her about it still and she stopped telling me those things but then she startedtelling me how she was afraid of the dark when she was younger and how she was afraid of other things too and that she got over them. I'm trying to tell her "its not that easy". I told her that and she said "your just not trying hard enough. Have you thought about that?" and so on...but my question is...


How can i explain it to her better? She says that she understands but i just want to tell her "No! you dont understand!!!" but i dont know how to say that a bit kinder...She even wants to be a phycaitrist (i'm really horrible at spelling please forgive me) when she gets older.


Sorry for taking up anyone's time..Edited by: wing

[sweetfreak]

Do you want the truth? There was nothing wrong in the way you tried to tell your friend about having emet.


If it were me, I would tell her that if she wants to be a psychiatrist, she has a lot to learn before she becomes one.


A good psychiatrist would listen with at least some understanding of what you had to say. So would a good friend. I know that seems harsh, but I believe it to be the truth.


Peace.

[wing]

*Nods* I get what your saying. But for some reason she believes that every obsticle in life can be jumped over with effort. She believes trying and trying until your limit. (We had a problem withthat "trying" thingtoday and i ended up crying) Your words are true. I thank youfor your time and words. I will try telling her straight out and see what happens. I know if i can do that she'll be better ...i think. (i dunno why but i always cling to hope and that everyone in this world is nice. Not very good is it?)Edited by: wing

[Melikasa]

Well she isn't wrong in that but that is HER strategy and every obstacle CAN be overcome somehow but it will often take time and mind and body have to be prepared.
It isn't as simple as just saying ok I want it gone with most people those that can do it bravo to them.
I hope that with some time that your friend can understand that what you have is real and that by coming to the site and researching your problem is a what you need to help get ideas about getting better.
I don't think you can be any more straight forward than you were and maybe if you can print off the page that sage wrote up to help explain emet to family, friends, teachers and doctors will help out.
As long as she is there to support you if you need her then she doesn't have to FULLY understand. My husband doesn't get it he thinks that because I know what it is now that I should be able to just calm myself and have it gone. His support means more to me though than having him know and understand fully at this moment.

[jennyleigh1975]

Where do I look for this write up on explaining emetophobia to family, friends, docs, ect. I would love to read it. When I was at the hospital a few weeks ago having my gallbladder surgery, I told the nurse that I have emetophobia and she didnt even know what it was. Go figure ........... LOL

[wing]

Melikasa: [hehe i have the same real name as you] Anyway...Thanks, but can you point out where the page that Sage wrote? if you have time Edited by: wing

[sweetanya]

I told a bit about my phobia to some of my family members and to some friends and the answer of everybody was: you can go over that, it's easy!!! Oh yeah...so easy.... .... But i realized something...How can somebody understand what we live if they never had a similar phobia? It is impossible? How you can go in the skin of somebody else if you never lived what this person lived? I think that it's not because they don't want to understand and try, but they are not able in their mind to figure out a little bit of what we live every second of every minutes, of every hour of every day.....


Marie

[sweetfreak]

I told a bit about my phobia to some of my family members and to some friends and the answer of everybody was: you can go over that, it's easy!!! Oh yeah...so easy.... .... But i realized something...How can somebody understand what we live if they never had a similar phobia? It is impossible? How you can go in the skin of somebody else if you never lived what this person lived? I think that it's not because they don't want to understand and try, but they are not able in their mind to figure out a little bit of what we live every second of every minutes, of every hour of every day.....


Marie

Marie,


So well said! But, everybody has their own problems and insecurities. Many of them refuse to look at their own and so can't relate to other people's. In some ways I look at my emet as a positive thing because it makes me think about what others may be going through in their everyday life.