Failing....:(

[Galadriel]

Hey all,


Man I feel so stressed right now I could cry. I started college monday, and man several of the classes are hard, and well the one that is REALLY hard is Im starting beginning French. Now, this is BEGINNING French (designed for people with NO knowlege of the language) and already its day 3 and we have a quiz tomorrow and I have to know how to count to 69, how to do the alphabet, how to do vocab words, and Im like dyin here. I know I am going to fail, because theres no way I can just learn all of that. The thing about French is it sounds different than it looks. So Im really stressed about that. Im hardly eating anything because I dont have time, Im exhausted also. And guess what? Dad is really pushing me to get a parttime job too. Honest I dont know how people do that. Well, Im already so stressedI could cry, and I can only imagine what it would be like with a job added to that. I fear I would have a breakdown or something. I mean I know I cannot handle a lot of stress, I just dont have a high tolerance. If it gets to a certain point, I start to break down. Ihave tried to tell dad how hard french is, and that Im not havin a good go of it, and you know what he does?He laughs at me. I mean really he doesnt listen orcare. I feel like if I have any concerns or problems, I cant talk to him about them, because he belittles them, and treats them as nothing. Hes done the same with emet and other things too. Man I just am so fed up, this is gonna be a rotten semester. I wishit was over already.

[mbs730]

I
am sooo sorry that you are going through this. I know this is going to
be tough but you are going to have to tell your dad off in a tactful
way that is if this is too much for you. You dont want to stress
yourself out to the point of a break down. Maybe you should distance
yourself from him for a while. Is that possible? I have a low tolerance
for stress too, so I totally sympathiz and empathize. I really have no
idea what else to suggest because if I was in your situation I would be
in the same boat Maybe the further along the year goes the less hard
for you it will be. You just never know. Sorry I couldnt be of much
help



Miriam

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[Galadriel]

Hey there,


Well, the last time we "talked" about it it basically ended in a yelling match because he just got so mad, he was actually frightening he was so mad. I just dont know how to tell him this, because he wont listen. If i told him I had a low stress tolerance, hed laugh in my face. I can't distance myself from him either, I mean I live with him, and theres no way i could work fulltime and college fulltime and get a place to live. This just makes it VERY hard, and well, I dont know waht to do, maybe after I just hit the breaking point, then dad will listen, but by then it will be too late.

[Jenneh]

galadriel: its impossible to expect u to beable to learn all that stuff within a matter of days..... i bet eveyrone else in ur class is feelin the sme pressure. if u do badly on .. whenever u have that test.. you can say " well miss/Mr that was rather an impossible task to do!" because it simply was.


as for ur dad, well, i still ahve no words to explain. im speechless wen it comes to him. i only hope that one day it twigs in his head.


Jen xxxxxxxx

[Galadriel]

Hey Jen,


Thank you for your kind words. [img]smileys/smilies_01.gif[/img]The thing is tho, that pretty much 80-90% of the class has had some previous french experience, so they are doing good with it, which isnt really fair, since its meant for beginners.

[sweetpea]

hey babe dont fret give me a smile. stress is a nasty piece of work and people like your dad dont need to shut you out you are a stronger person than he is. he oviously cant cope with the fact you are stressed. get some pennies together and buy some lavender scented candles nice bubble bath and some chillin tunes. the hot bath will relax your muscles. maby take your french book and read it in the bath with no distractions xxx

[sarahx]

Im sorry ur goin through this rough time (((hugs)))


I found french really hard also.. so dont worry about not doing well, it will sink in with time. I am sure, as jenneh said that lots of ppl in ur class will feel the same.


As for you dad, im stumped, my parents had a hard time coming to terms with how i am but they never once got mad or put me down in anyway. I hope he realises one day soon beofre it takes its toll on u. remember we are all here so post lots to keep ur stress levels down! If u ever wanna chat on msn im [email protected]


Sarah xxx

[sweetanya]

I,M so sorry it happens to you...If you told that before, i would be able to help you. ( I speak usually french you know) I'm leaving for work right now, and i will be at home in....5hours....So i guess it will be too late for you. But if you are still awake, i can help you if you want. email me and i'll try to help you! [email protected]


Hope eerythig will be ok for you...


Marie

[2jo2]

I'm sorry you're going through that. I know how hard college can be and how much stress it causes, and for you to lack the support of your parent on these things is sad to me. The only language I've taken is spanish, which is easy because it's really related alot to English. But what helps me is repetition, flash cards, that kind of thing. It's unrealistic to expect you to learn all those things in 3 days, but some college professors do that... they think their class is the only one you have. I encountered that many times, and alot of the time I had to make priorities and some things just didn't get studied for. Sad but true. Just try not to give up on yourself. Stress can be a good thing, a way to keep yourself on task. You can do this! And try if you can to ignore your dad, if you succeed without his help, yay for you!

[Galadriel]

Hey there!


Thank you all for your support! The thing is, well French is rough, and Im gonna talk to her tomorrow and ask if its going to be this pace the whole semester, or if shes going to slow down some.


About dad, well, to be quite honest, I think he doesn't approve or like me being with William, and well I think really whats behind this is him trying to limit my time so that I can hardly talk to him. I don't think its a money issue. I remember clearly him telling me last year (this is my 3rd year in college) that it was OK that i didnt work because college is a fulltime job, and the ONLY difference between now and last year is William being in the picture, and he has gotten a lot more hostile about it recently. I just hope it all works out, I dont know how it will, but hopefully it will somehow.

[-celeborn-]

I hope youre doing well today honey


I know the stress your dad puts on you is terrible added to college.


Having had my AIP triggered by stress and nearly dying, I know that causing unneeded stess is just something that a man should not do to another person.


The thing that really is terrible is I dont even see how you could possibly work on your issues, like the emet, while youre living with youre dad.


I know lots of times you seem to be overwhelmed with his behavior. I just dont know how anyone could be working on getting better in that environment. Its hard enough to work thru things when its peaceful, let alone when your living with someone hellbent on breaking you down.


I want you to know that I am never giving up on you. You have this short time of school left, and then it will be over and you wont have to deal with your father as you do now.


When college isnt an issue and your not in your dads house, maybe we can find the peace you need to have in your life in order to focus on the things you want to fix about yourself.


DONT GIVE UP !!! [img]smileys/smilies_01.gif[/img]


I know that sounds easy enough to say, honey, but dont let your dad win this. I know you. And I know that you are the sweetest, kindest, most wonderful woman Ive ever met and I know that you can overcome all the things in your life in time.


It probably wont be while youre living with your dad. I know I had to be in my own space before I was able to get past the damage mom and the step father caused me. It took a long time, but I forgave them both and have been able to have at least a decent relationship with mom.


It angers me sometimes that you have so many folks that are so narrow minded around you. It almost seems impossible to be in a situation where you have not a single person to confide in. I can see why you turned to folks on the internet to get some support. And I know you get it in here. There are some wonderful people in here like Sage and Kmarie and others that are so very wonderful and supportive. But I know that in your heart you want dad and family to be there too.


Laura, I know sometimes you feel like Ill give up on you over your issues. But I promise you I wont. Over the last year, Ive fallen so much in love with the person you are. I know you think that the emet consumes so much of your life that its all I can see, but its not that way at all.


I know someday it will be gone and I can tell that you are going to be the mostwonderful companion ever. Even now you are the most fantastic person Ive honestly ever met.[img]smileys/smilies_01.gif[/img]


I love you and am so very proud of the person you are. Youve nothing to feel ashamed about honey, altho Iknow you do, the emet isnt your fault just as AIP isnt my fault. We just try to deal with who we are and try to change what can be changed to make our lives better.


You are such a great woman and person. I dont always fully understand emet, but I know my own issues... like the vertigo....how consuming it can be... how frightening... I can only imagine what you all go thru with the emet sometimes.


I hope you know how much I love you.


For the rest of you with emet or whatever else you suffer from here on this site, you are always in my prayers. I know some of you have pretty hard lives over things, and I hope and pray at some point in all of your lives you find some peace.


william








[QUOTE=Galadriel]


Hey there!


Thank you all for your support! The thing is, well French is rough, and Im gonna talk to her tomorrow and ask if its going to be this pace the whole semester, or if shes going to slow down some.


[b]About dad, well, to be quite honest, I think he doesn't approve or like me being with William, and

[Eternity]

Okay, first french. Numbers are easy because like us they only count one to ten, then its twenty one to twenty nine, thirtyone to thirynine etc. I'll try n write them how they sound, not how theyre spelled.
1- Urn
2-Der
3-Tres
4-Catre
5- Sank
6- Sis
7- Set
8- Wheat
9- Neuf
10- Dis
11- Ons
12- Doos
13- Tres
14- Cat oars
15- Cans
16- Says
17- Dis- Set
18- Dis Wheat
19- Dis Neuf
20- Vant
Then it goes vant-et - urn (always a 'et' (and) before the number one, dont ask me why) n then vant- der, vant- tres etc.
30- Tront
40- Caront
50- Sankont
60- Swassant
This http://www.single-serving.com/French/TB/numbers.htmlshould help with pronunciation.


This http://www.single-serving.com/French/GP/alphabet.htmlfor the alphabet.


I expect ya can find sites to help with ya vocab words too, whatever they may be. Luck.

[Galadriel]

That was about the sweetest post Ive ever read in my life. [img]smileys/smilies_01.gif[/img]


I know it gets hard, and I dont mean to gripe, I just get overwhelmed sometimes, and don't know where to go, and really the only place I can go is on the internet. William, you and the people on here give me the support and caring that I have been lacking my whole life. It means a lot to me. I love you too very much, and I know we're gonna be graet together.


Well, good news is Ive managed to get out of French!! YAY!! Had to talk to about 10 different people but I got out of it and am now in a class that I think I will actaully enjoy, Philosophy. That does help me a lot, I feel not so overwhelmed anymore and feel somewhat better about things.

[party_boi3423]

Hey Galadriel.


I understnad what your going through - i hated french when i started it, although it becomes clearer when youve learned the vocabulary and how to string sentences together etc. If you need a hand, ive had great practise at french. ive been to paris and they understood what i said which is obviously a good sign lol. If you need a hand, just email me or post again!!!


God Bless, Chris

[sbias]

I was gonna say something, but I got to william's post and went [img]smileys/smilies_03.gif[/img], no seriously I got to his post and went [img]smileys/smilies_03.gif[/img], in fact if I had a mirror I would probably still be going [img]smileys/smilies_03.gif[/img]. What a way to cheer someone up. Honestly . May you both enjoy your lives together, you both seem a lock for one another. That made me happy, I think I will go tell more jokes in my little joke thread.


[img]smileys/smilies_03.gif[/img](LOL) Stephen

[Galadriel]

Hey Eternity and Partyboi!


Thank you both for the help! I appreciate it. I want to say tho that i DID get out of French, so I don't have to learn it anymore!! But I very much appreciate your willingness to help. Thats somethin Partyboi that you can speak well enough to get by in Paris! Well, (and this is the last french Im speaking!) Au revoir![img]smileys/smilies_02.gif[/img]