my weddingday is tomorrow!!

**Margaret** · 08-19-2004, 01:26 PM

Hi!

Well, tomorrow is the day! My weddingday! You can imagine how nervous I am right now! It is 10 pm now, so in 12 hours it's all beginning.

To be honest I think I had the worst nerves yesterday. We are planning a ceremony outside in the woods and a party in the garden after it, and yesterday the weather forcast was not too positive. They said 'it's gonna rain on friday'. So we got an email from the location that they were thinking about an alternative room where we could held the ceremony and the party INSIDE the building. I panicked because I didn't want to do it all inside, because I feel inside there is a greater risk that my phobia will ruin it. So all the nerves built up and I cried releasing all the tension of the days before!

Luckily I was able to pull myself together and talked to Daniel about it. That really helped. In this conversation I also realized that there are a lot of other possibilities between 'going through the ceremony without fear' and 'canceling the ceremony because I'm too afraid'. For example I can postpone the ceremony if I feel too much nerves at that time.

I also realized that it's not like I'm only a victimn of this phobia.I know when to expect him and what to do about it. I know that it will pass and I will feel calmer afterwards. It's a game on which I know the rules and have a tactic for. It may have some controll over me, but I also have some controll over him. So bring it on [img]smileys/smilies_02.gif[/img]

This morning we had to sign our prenob (is that the right word for papers which let us have our own finances). I had some nerves but I managed. And I figured: if I can do that, I also must be able to say 'I do', it's not harder than that.

So luckily all day I could keep myself calm. But it is becoming closer and closer. Now I do feel a lot of nerves but somehow they are different than my emetnerves. The emetnerves I feel as tightness in my troat and quick thinking in my head. This nerves are like butterflies in my stomach.

Anyhow... Wish me luck!

**mbs730** · 08-19-2004, 01:29 PM

GOOD LUCK AND CONGRATS!! I LOVED my wedding day and SAVOR every moment
of it!!! The tough stuff happens AFTER your wedding day! Heck it sure
did, my car was stolen off my drive way[img]smileys/smilies_04.gif[/img]
That day I wasnt laughing but got it back 4 days later in one peice
right before we left for our honeymoon lol. I guess someone desperately
needed to take a ride somewhere! At least I learned that a car alarm is
invaluable haha. Okay I'm scaring you right? Sorry! Anyway its going to
be fine! Enjoy it! It wont happen again!

Miriam

**trickyvicky** · 08-19-2004, 01:34 PM

Margaret,I wish u all the best for tomorrow,i'm sure things will turn out fine.U seem a really positive person and i'm sure like u say the aniexty and phobia is like a game,u can beat it.....It's just so great to c a positive and happy post on here,and that even thou the phobia can rule our lives at times we can still lead normal lives...I wish this for me soooooo much,i'm 32 nearly and want children but i'd like to be in WEd-lock and that means finding a guy first......But i will be thinking of u and hoping the weather stays fine for u....U willl have to keep us updated on how things went....

Take care and good luck

vicky xxx

**Hale** · 08-19-2004, 01:36 PM

Awwwwww Margaret! Good luck! I am sure it will be a brilliant day and I hope that you will post some photographs on your website. I think every bride and groom get some nerves before their wedding day, it's just that emet causes us to think thoughts thatmany people don't think of. I will be thinking of you and fingers crossed the weather be ok (I know you will cope whatever). Anyway, congratulations and I wish you and Daniel all the best for the future.He sounds a star, just like you!

**crazybeautiful** · 08-19-2004, 01:39 PM

GOOD LUCK AND CONGRATS!

be sure to tell us all about it!

<3<3<3<3<3<3

**kmarie** · 08-19-2004, 01:52 PM

It has been a year since my wedding day!! Time really does fly.

you will wake up..and have butterflies..but they will be good ones!!

I thought for sure emet would come into play on my big day..but it didnt..i was to excited and busy to even think about it.

honestly..my wedding day passed SO fast i dont rememebr some things..so throughout the day take some time to stop a savor!!

you are gonna be A-OK..and the wedding will be spectacular i am sure. we will want to see some pictures!!

good luck!!

**youngemet222** · 08-19-2004, 02:21 PM

Congratulations!! I hope it goes well (or went well)!

Be sure to tell us about it!

Peace. LIZZY

**Babydoll** · 08-19-2004, 02:24 PM

oh my goodness! have the best day ever... and night( hehe)!!!

**sage** · 08-19-2004, 07:49 PM

All the best of luck and blessing and happiness and joy, Margaret!

I'm sure you'll be okay - you're so strong - really. You have all kinds of coping skills - you just never give yourself enough credit. Once the butterflies are over at the beginning, you should really have fun and enjoy the day. It will be so nice!

We have an expression here in Canada: "happy is the bride whom the sun shines on, but wealthy is the bride whom the rain falls upon"....lol....maybe that's brides without a prenup, huh? lol!

Congratulations and best wishes!

**Jenneh** · 08-20-2004, 05:52 AM

WOW!! congrats hun!!!

hope 2morro is perfect for you. i really do.

Jen xxxxxx

**sarahx** · 08-20-2004, 06:28 AM

Im not sure if you are already arried by now or not lol

But good luck, hope everything goes/went well!!!

Sarah xxx

**rachel_81** · 08-20-2004, 11:16 AM

Ooooh, good luck, it really is the best day! Let us know how it went[img]smileys/smilies_01.gif[/img]</font>

**buttercup** · 08-20-2004, 06:27 PM

Hope your wedding was wonderful I'm sure it was. My wedding day is a day I cherrish...it is second only to the birth of my son!

**HDogg** · 08-20-2004, 09:22 PM

I'm sure you are already married by now, but I hope your day was the happiest in your entire life. Mine sure was. We will be married 2 years on October 19th. I think your wedding day is one of the few that emet can't possibly ruin. From the time I woke up on my wedding day, until the time I went to sleep, I probably only thought about emet once--when I was eating my dinner. But I was fine, and the day was so magical and amazing, that I will remember it forever. Congratulations and best wishes for the happiest future!

**Margaret** · 08-21-2004, 04:40 AM

Hi girls!!!

Well, I'm a married woman now! It all went very well. Allthough in the most part of the Netherland it was raining, where we were getting married it wasn't, so we could have the ceremony we wanted. In the morning, while getting ready I wasn't doing so great. I was getting more nervous and nauseaus by the minute. 5 minutes before going I had a panic attack,a big one, I even had to gag from it!!! But mostly that means for me that Iam more relaxed afterwards. So I was. And soI could do the ceremony far more relaxed than I hoped!

The ceremony was great. It was great to see all our friends and family being happy for us! There in the woods!

Than our photographer took some pictures. Of course we don't have them yet, but my mother also made some with our digital camera:

The day went by fast. I talked to a lot of people. Everybody was happy and enjoying our party and the buffet we had. It was all very relaxed. After dinner I didn't feel so good. I think it is called reflux: the feeling you have when you feel like burping, but when you try to let air escape it hurts. I went to my room, and only lied downfor 5 minutes and noticed I didn't feel it at all when I was laying down, so that gave me hope for the night. So I went back because I didn't want to miss the party.

When it was 11 o'clock we went to our room and talked, and read the cards we received en did what you are supposed to do in your wedding night [img]smileys/smilies_02.gif[/img]. I didn't sleep very well in the hotel room, but luckily I didn't get nauseaus from lack of sleep and enjoyed the breakfast we shared with all the guests who had booked a room.

And now I am home and very happy! It was a relaxed day, even for me (well after the panic attac)!

(edited: I noticed A LOT of spelling mistakes. Sorry for being so careless, I hope it is better now).Edited by: Margaret

**Jenneh** · 08-21-2004, 05:06 AM

oh my gosh.. you look absolutely gorgeous.

im so glad ur day was a success...

GO YOU!

Jen xxxx

**trickyvicky** · 08-21-2004, 06:15 AM

Margaret,I'm so pleased the day went to well for u and the pics look great.What a lovely setting....I've always worried about getting married as i hate all the fuss and attention,so i can imagine it could be over whelming,but i think u did brilliant,pat on the back for u.I'm so glad the weather held off for u....U look so beautiful and pretty in your pics,i hope the years ahead for u are going to be special,just like the day of your wedding....

Vicky

**sunshine16** · 08-21-2004, 07:04 AM

Wow Margaret, you look wonderful. I am so happy that your day went well and I know that its a day you will never forget. I hope that you and your husband are blessed with happiness, joy and good times for all the years to come.

Good for you, Hunn! [img]smileys/smilies_04.gif[/img]

**Galadriel** · 08-21-2004, 07:53 AM

Hey Margaret!

Omgosh you look GREAT!! I LOVE your dress! You two make a very cute couple!! [img]smileys/smilies_04.gif[/img]Im so glad you were able to enjoy your big day, and that emet took a back seat for the most part. Its a day I am sure you'll remember with fond memories. Congrats!!!

**rhinoseri** · 08-21-2004, 09:00 AM

Congratulations! I'm glad that it went well- sounds likt emet didn't ruin the whole thing for you, which is great!

**NCsmile6** · 08-21-2004, 07:24 PM

OMG!!!!! Margaret!!!!!!

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!![img]smileys/smilies_04.gif[/img]

((HUGS))

Youare an absolutely GORGEOUS bride!!!! You look SOOO happy in the picture!!!!I am so happy for you and your husband!!!

Best wishes to you both!!!!

I also LOVE your dress!!! You look just like a princess!!!![img]smileys/smilies_01.gif[/img]

**mbs730** · 08-21-2004, 08:07 PM

CONGRATS MARGARET!! You looked absolutely STUNNING!!

Miriam

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**Margaret** · 08-22-2004, 02:55 PM

Thanks you guys! For all the support before and gratulations after my wedding!!! Edited by: Margaret

**buttercup** · 08-22-2004, 05:19 PM

Wow, you looked beautiful, what a great dress. I'm glad your day went so well, now the real fun begins

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**Hale** · 08-23-2004, 05:18 AM

Congratulations!!!! The pictures are lovely, you look so happy and your dress is beautiful.

**rachel_81** · 08-23-2004, 08:19 AM

You looked lovely[img]smileys/smilies_01.gif[/img] The happiness just shows on your face!</font>

**sarahx** · 08-23-2004, 09:08 AM

Awww what a loverly dress! You looked fab! Im glad everything went well! It gives me some hope because i am planning to get married next year and am worried about emet ruining it! But you have proved it can be done!

CONGRATS!!!!

Sarah xxx

**Margaret** · 08-23-2004, 10:48 AM

Thanks for all the compliments! You know this dress was made by my aunt and my mother?! Don't you think that is just fabulous?

The dresses I wore at the store were beautiful too, but soooo expensive. The dress I liked was 1500 euro, without the extras like gloves etc. With the extras it was 2200 euro!!! So I asked my aunt if she want to makeone for me,because she is very good in these sort of things. I was a little bit worried the first few times I had it on, but the last time I had it on I couldn't believe how good it turned out! And next to that it didn't cost as much, I also was very proud that I wore a dress that was made with love...

**Jenneh** · 08-23-2004, 10:57 AM

the dress was made???

stunning

xxx

**sunshine16** · 08-23-2004, 07:31 PM

Wow is all I can say.

Your aunt is talented!

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