Hi everyone! I was talking to my husband last night about my emet and trying to explain to him how much I fear v*. I told him when I am exposed to someone with an sv, I feel like I am a character in the movie "Alien" who has been infected with the alien baby and is just waiting for it to come bursting out. That's how I feel, like it is a life or death scenario. He asked why I feel so strongly about it, because he doesn't see v*ing that way. He assured me that although he does not *like* to v*, it does not bother him that much and he knows it is soon over. He said when he does take care of our son when he is v*, he does wonder if he will catch it too, but he feels it is more important to comfort and cuddle with our son than worry about getting sick himself. He has even slept in our son's bed after our son has been v* to comfort him and he has caught sv's that way twice in the past couple years. He said he always thought of it as a thing kids got, not adults. Then I pointed out to him that he did get it too, so that can't be true. He did agree, and said he is careful about washing and disinfecting. But in the end, he is not worried about catching it and v* too, it is just a part of life. How can one be so nonchalant about it? It almost sounds like he likes to v* to me or at least does not have the healthy fear he claims to have of it. I am so frustrated and I fear that he is not as careful as he says he is. Do any of you have spouses/partners like this?