I posted this question sometime ago, but I thought I might try to get some more answers.


do you guys have any correlation between your desire not to loose control ( emet) and orgasm problems?


I can see how these two are related because they both involve giving up control, and letting your body do what it needs to do.


here's my problem : I have never had an orgasm. not with a partner, not with myself ( lol). I dont think actually getting to the point of orgasm is my trouble, its just the letting go, I seem to have some sort of mental block up. The want, and desire is there, I just seem to hit an alarm system when my body feels that urge to let go, and instead of doing so, I clentch my muscles and will not allow it to happen. I think my main reasons is because it is an unknown feeling for me, Im kind of afraid of it.


does anyone else have/had this issue, or could say something that might give me a "light bulb" moment so I think about it as not loosing control, but gaining something?