there is one thing that particularly irritates me, which i've been reading about lately on this particular forum, and that is codependency. as a male "emet" i am expected by modern times toprovide for a woman and take care of her. at the same time i mustmanage to do the same for myself. i have no problem with that, but it's additional stress to a male in generalbecause he is seen in the world's eyes as a pillar ofstrength and fiscal responsibility.maybe this sheds a little light on why a male feels more inadequate, insecureand obligated to hide his phobia from the outside world.i am willing to bet a female emethas a better chance of entering a relationship via support of a healthy, strong, competent, and wealthy male who can bend over backwards for her than a male does from a woman because of the said gender roles already etched in stone.how can we buy nice cars if we can barely keep jobs let alone take you to a restaurant if we're concerned about how the meals are prepared?what pisses me off is the fact some of the women who suffer from emetophobia on here are whining about never finding another man quite like a previous lover that"took care of them". some of us have yet to find that protective unit once. when will the guys be taken care of? when will they have their heads rubbed in dire situations, betreated to chocolate covered pretzels, and receive invitations to go on luxurious cruises? reciprocity is no longer present.