My little vent...

[sarahx]

You may know that i havent been very well lately..? Well its got a bit worse, i dont feel too sick though but my stomach is cramping so bad i havent had any sleep these past two nights. My boyfriend couldnt get any time off work to help me look after our daughter. I asked my mother to have her today for a few hours so i could get some rest and she said no! She said that if she started by having her once then every time i felt a bit sicky i'd run to her and ask her to babysit!! The thing is in all the time ive had emet and suffered from nausea, IBS, stress, agorophobia etc i have NEVER not even once asked her to have my daughter. Of course my mum has looked after her a lot beofre, when shes offered to... then the one time i ask her to she says no? Its made me realise that she still doesnt understand this emet like i thought she did. She thinks im not really ill and im jst emet-ill if u get me. I told her that i didnt even feel sick!! Im exhausted and im struggling to look after my 2yr old. Theres nobody else to help... i have no friends... my boyfriends mother is away on holiday. My boyfriends just started his job so he couldnt get the time off.


Im just so upset that my mum thinks this way? I could understand it if i had asked her in the past but i never have. I think i genuinely have a bug or something... i am going to the doctors tomorrow to find out cause i have lost 5lb which isnt good seen as i was only 7st to start with.


Sorry this is so long i just needed to get it all out...


Sarah xxx

[Jenneh]

7 stone?!? blimeh... thats not very much...


every single person on here seems to have pretty un-understanding parents as far as i can see!


not lookin after ur little daughter for a few hours to give u a break, is just.... crazy... ur tired and run-down, i expect its not a proper bug... just tiredness... if ur mum had ur daugher so u cud sleep, i bet u'd b on ur feet again soon.


im so sorry, i wish i cud come and look after the little darling. shame that i cant really!


depending on what ur daugher likes to do.. why dont u try plonking her infront of the tele with some colouring and a video.. and go in ur room and RELAX. try some relaxation techniques or sumthing.


i expect ur very very uptight and its not helping you to be running around after a kid all the time... i dont kno wot else to say... wish i cud make u feel better.


Jen xxxxxxxxxxxxx

[chloe]

Just wondering if your little one has a friends that she could go and play with for a bit while you rest or let her have a nap in the afternoon in your room with you - so that you can sleep while she is?


I wish we could babysit for you....Dating - online is possible but not babsitting- online...YET!!

[Melikasa]

Im lucky I have a neighbour with an 18 month old as well and we both get a bit of a time out while they play.
It is unresonable of your mom I think but in a way I can see where she is coming from. You may know in your heart that you aren't going to be calling on her every other day but maybe she doesn't realize that. Sometimes things are taken out of context. In her mind she will come and help you out and then believe that you will call on her everytime you are feeling tired or off.
On the other hand maybe she feels she didn't get help raising her kids and thinks you shouldn't need help for one 2 year old.
I don't know that is just a thought. I wish I had a suggestion for you as to how you can make her ralize that you are exhausted not from emet but from the whole child raising thing.
Have you tried taking a nap when your baby goes for a nap? I have found that that helps me out when I am feeling wiped.
BIG HUGS I really hope that you are getting along better today hun

[mbs730]

I'm so sorry. I'm lucky in this way too. Is there anyway
you can find someone who is recommended to watch your daughter because
you really do need to take it easy!! Have any neighbours that you
trust? I'm sure you can find a name from somewhere. Wow I really dont
know what to suggest



Miriam

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[Jenneh]

Sarah, wen u read this, how are you doing now [img]smileys/smilies_06.gif[/img]?


tke care


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[sarahx]

Im still not happy with my mum.. i really have nobody else to look after my daughter!!! My one friend works everyday and i dont know any of my neighbours. Sad really i spose.....


Thanks for replying to me moaning tho, itmeans a lot.


I went to the doctors today and ive had gastroenteritis!!! The doctor sed he was suprised i hadnt v*!!! So i guess emets are good at stopping themselves from v*??? But the bug only stays alive about 4-5days so im feeling a bit better today ), even managed to go out with my family for lunch yay, was great. And i found the wedding dress i want... its light purple.. my fave colour!


Sarah xxx

[Jenneh]

oh my word... whats THAt?!?


welldone fr getting thru it tho!!! make sur eu tell ur mum and put her in her place!!


Jen xxxxxx

[nat10]

im sorry about what you are going through, i have the same problem when i feel ill but thank god i have lots of family i can ask to look after my son. its a shame your mum doesnt understand, my boyfriend doesnt either but my mum has always been understanding since it started when i was 5, i hope you are feeling better, be strong. xx