Newbie really in need of advice:(

[hoopla]

Hi, I'm Jennie and I'm 15. I really need some advice from somewhere-I've had emetophobia for 3 years now, and it's taken over my life. I am now having panic attacks anywhere and everywhere, more and more frequently. Recently, while on holiday I had my worst one ever-I had to stop the car 5 times on a short journey. I can't go on like this, it's too bad. I know other people might have it worse and cope better, but I've had enough of always being a burden on everyone, and always being the 'weirdo' because I never stop panicking long enough to be normal. I don't know what to do-I go to counselling( been going for over a year now), and I'm on antidepressants, but I haven't had the nerve to tell my counsellor because I'm too embarrassed, and we're approaching our last session. When push comes to shove, it's me that has to sort this out, and I just don't think I'm strong enough. Thanks for letting me ramble all that-if anyone has any advice it would be greatly appreciated,
Take care everyone,
Jen

[youngemet222]

Hello, Jennie. Welcome to the site! Sorry- I personally do not have any advice because I am too emetophobic and need help myself. So, have a pleasant experience as a member of this site.


Peace. LiZZy

[Jenneh]

hello Jennie! welcome to our family


i know u say that ur too ashamed to talk to ur counsellor,but would it help if u took along some information on emet or smthing? prove to her that what ur going thru, does actually exist? or maybe u wud lke to jsut write it down, so u donty have to say it to her.


but i wud urge that somehow u get it across to her, because u dont have to go thru this alone. i think when ur feeling as desperate as u are now, u need some guidance, from a counselor, or in my case a social worker. it IS possible to get rid of this phobia, or at least get control over it.


ur certainly not a wierdo hun. no one here will ever think that of you. do ur family know what ur going thru?


Jen xxxxxxxxx

[izzybee]

welcome to IES. I'm 15 too and know how tough this phobia can be, especially at a younger age.


As other people have said, I think its best that you tell your counsellor about the phobia - because otherwise they cant help you deal with your phobia, or help you with it. I wouldnt be too embarrassed about telling your counsellor about your phobia. They are there to help. But if you dont feel like you can do it now, or if you dont have a trust in your counsellor then thats ok. Some of us have been through many counsellors and therepists untill we find the right one that we can open up to and dont feel embarassed or shy talking to them about stuff.


There are some information sheets on the treatments sextion that may help you if you decide to tell your counsellor. If not, as you said, its hard to deal with this on your own, and would probably be for the best if someone knew about this phobia or you started thinking about treatment for it.


Hope to see you posting soon

[buttercup]

TELL YOUR COUNCELOR!! And if she doesn't understand, find another one who will. Trust me, it is so important. When I was seventeen I tried to get help but I wasn't open about it (also I didn't have a very good councelor, but that's another story) and as a result they treated me for depression, which did nothing in the long run. YOu are lucky, you have a chance to fix this (or atleast improve it greatly) while you're young. I know it's hard, but wouldn't you do anything to be free of this? There are some good information sheet under the treatments section, print it out and take it with you to help you explain. You'll be soooo glad you did.


Welcome to the site, everyone here is very nice and of all different ages and backgrounds.

[sunshine16]

Hello Jennie! Welcome to our family. I hope that you find all the help and support you deserve here. It's a wonderful place, and we're always glad to have new members! By the way, I am Laura and I'm 13.


I don't really know if I can help you much with your question, but I agree with everyone else, tell your councellor. If you don't, you could ruin this great oppertunity to get over emet.


Once again, welcome to the site! Hope to see you around the fourm.

[babyblubug01]

Welcome to the site i am 15 too! w00t on the 15 year olds!!

[wing]

Lots of 15 year olds...here's another.

[mbs730]

Okay
I'm 29 and I am telling you that I have had emet for 25 years, yes
since I was 4 and its done nothing but hurt me. I want to face this
phobia so badly but so scared to and dont know how to even do so. I am
more phobic of others being sick around me, not so much myself unless I
am n like last night was a disaster for me. Of course I didnt have it
in me to actually v but wanted to badly and face this. I know you are
scared to tell your counsellor, I have been there and you are afraid of
your counsellor not helping but you just never know. You MUST tell your
counsellor and if he/she isnt going to be helpful to you, then its time
to find another. Unfortunately it may take several to find to be the
right one for you but you never know, maybe this one is fine. You dont
know until you find out and you MUST tell your counsellor about the
emet! He/she wont think little of you, and if by chance if the worst
were to happen and he/she did then its time to find another. You gotta
forgive me here, I am kinda tired but I hope you understand what I am
saying. You must tell him/her about the emet. That is your first step
to helping you deal with the emet better.



Best of luck

Miriam

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[sweetanya]

Welcome to the site!


Tell your conselor.It's really important. For now, if somebody can help you, it's probably your conselor. You need to talk about all that and this counselor can maybe give you suggestions about your emet...

[izzybee]

wow - go 15 year olds!!!

[Melikasa]

Well not to sound like a broken record but since it is important to repeat important information


TALK TO YOUR COUNSELLOR HUN. I am not sure what you originally went to your cousellor for but this may be an important issue to bring up. I have found that the emet has been a root problem to all my other phobias and problems. I have also suffered from agoraphobia, social phobia, depression and it all started from emet.
I am 25 and finally getting this under control. I am by no means 100% cured but I am happy to say that I did it so far with anti depressants, prayer and the support of my husband. I know it helped tremendouly to find this site AND information I have looked up, because now I know I am not alone. I have been able to explain to my family why I was likeI was when i was younger.
Know we are here for you. As someone said above me it is important to tell your counsellor and make sure they understand what it is you are going through. If they don't it will also be a good idea to find a counsellor that will understand and be sympathetic.
Best of luck hun and welcome to the site.

[hoopla]

Thanks for replying everyone, it's really great to get so much suuport even when you're brand new to the site. I'm so glad I'm not alone too!
Take care guys!
Jen X

[faliraki]

I'm 33 and you guys are making me feel real old now!!!


Welcome to the site, I too cannot give much advice as I am not receiving treatment as am am stupidly still clinging on to the belief that I can cure myself!!!


Just know that everyone here is really supportive if ever you want any help or advice, or just someone to talk to.

[Melikasa]

well who knows you may be able to. I haven't been to a counsellor because I can't afford one now. I spend extra money on my baby and donations. I have to say though that I have been doing well. MaybeI am just a freaky case, but I have had it since I was a toddler.