what do you think about bulimics?

[nadine]

im sorry for coming in here.. im bulimic but i know someone who suffers from emetophobia. .. imagine a friend of yours was bulimic and youd find out about it.. how would you react? what do you think about bulimics in general? the person does NOT know i am bulimic.. i just cant tell her, im horribly afraid of her reaction.


again, im sorry for coming in here, i know its not my place to be, since i am not suffering from emetophobia. i cant refer this person to this site, either, since she doesnt speak english.


any opinions would be greatly appreciated!


regards,


nadine

[curly wurly]

Hi Nadine


If I had a bulimic friend I would try and support them as much as possible as long as they promised not to v* anywhere near me. Since theV* would not be contagous that would help. I think if I suddenly found out a friend was bulimic I would be very scared, but not just because of the risk of v*, but concern over my friends health. I had a friend at school who was anorexic. I never saw or heared her v*, but I tried to help her and it did not affectour friendship. Unfortunately she then suffered from manic depression and had to be hospitalised. She would not contact any friends and you can imagine the shock when I heared just months ago in the local paper that she had died at the age of 31.


If your emetophobic friend is a close friend then I suggest that you tell her. She will probably be very supportive and may be able to help you during difficult times. I hope everything goes alright for you and you are eventuallyable to overcome your bulemia.

[chicajojobe]

If I found out a friend of mine was bulimic. I would mostly be afraid
that they would be in danger of permanently damaging their health.



Obviously since I'm an emet there would be limitations to how
intimately I could support them. I wouldn't be able to be there to hold
their hair back.

Also I suppose that there would also be a mental limit as to how much I
could really understand why they are the way they are. I mean they
actively force themselves to do something that I, not only fear, but
would do anything to avoid.



Mostly however, I would want them to get the help they need so that be in good mental and physical health.



Good luck with your bulimia. I hope you manage to recover.



PS: I have no problem with you being here. Like bulimics, emets often
consider their problem something which is a deep dark secret. We spend
a lot of time worry about what people will think of us when they find
out about our phobia so, somehow it sort of even things out to know
that there are people out there who care about what our opinions would
be.


Edited by: chicajojobe

[violet]

My Girlifriend is bulimic and has been for about 6 years now...


I dont deal with it to well but I love her and il doeverything I can to support her thorugh this as she does the same for me and my emet.


If she is a close friend and you do think that it would benifit you from telling her about this then go for it.


xVx

[purpleteacher]

I have an eating disorder and I'm not *bothered* by bulimia at all. I am very concerned about it and I know the dangers, but the physical actions of it don't bother me. I am concerned, but I don't really flip out about it -- as I know many, many, MANY people who have bulimia in the purging and non-purging forms. I know bulimics in real life, in addition to online. All you can do is be there to support them and not critize them. It is really hard to deal with as a friend and I know it must be hard to deal with if you have the illness too.

[tanyarn]

With me personally, I' am not afraid when someone vomits, or should I say if I know I can't catch it from them, say if they were drinking or had f/p, I would not be afraid of them v* However, if it is a s/v I panic cause I know I could potentially catch it. Every emet is different. Some are afraid when other v* but not themselves etc. Your friend may be my type, if she knows the reason someone is v*ing because of bulimia it may not affect her.

[SimplyMe]

One of my best friends is/was bulimic. We had lost contact for a bit and when we met up again she was so thin and later told me she had gone thru a rough time w/ bulimia. She had already been "treated" so I didn't have the knowledge when it was happening but she would worry me when she would start talking like she may go back. Not because of the vomiting but because she was really bad off from what she had described and I didn't want to see her have to go thru that again. I think if you approached it gently your friend would understand. Then again it depends on how bad her emetophobia is. You know her. Overall I personally would want to know and would want my friend to get help for HER sake not my phobia. Good luck! Edited by: SimplyMe

[nadine]

hello everyone!


thank you very much for the responses and not being bothered by me being here. i am always afraid people will get angry and yes, just like some emetophobics, im scared of being rejected because of my .. lets call it "illness".


i appreciate all of your answers, thanks for taking the time!


love


nadine