my daughter has a stomach ache

[curly wurly]

Today started off much better than for over a week. Everyone in my family was feeling better after the flu and my sv. We had a fantastic family day baking cookies, flying kites and painting etc. Then, after putting my son to bed I played a game with my daughter. Just as we were finishing my daughter became restless and then those dreaded words, "mummy my tummy hurts!" Well then I went into panic mode questioning her if she felt like she was going to v*. My whole body turned cold and I could not shaking. I even made my husband put her to bed as I was too scared incase she was to v*.


My daughter very rarely complains of a stomach ache. The last time was back in October when she had a sv. In fact 9 out of 10 times if my daughter does complain of a stomach ache then it is something. It is almost 4 days since I started with d* before my sv so I was just starting to relax and think it was over. Now this happens. Yeyt another night of lost sleep.


My daughter said she was alright when I kissed her goodnight but I wonder if she said this to try and please me as she does sometimes say what she thinks we want her to say. She has been in bed for 4 and a half hours now so I hope it would have happened by now if it was going to. I am probably worrying about nothing but I feel so scared it will happen. Why can't my house be illness free just for a little while?


I have not been able to visit my mum for so long as she is having chemotherapy and can not be exposed to infection. She is always a big help when the children are ill but I cannot have her at the moment. I miss her so much but know she will soon be well. I feel selfish for worrying about a little tiny stomach related illness when so many other people have much worse to cope with.

[madisonsmom]

Well look at it like this. At least you have already had it. You wont get it again. Hang in there!


Let us know how you are doing!

[curly wurly]

Thankyou Madisonsmom


I know I cannot catch it but unfortunately I am more scared of others being ill rather than myself..I think after 5 hours it would have happened by now. My daughter is sound asleep so hopefully it was just a little ache which was nothing. If it is the start of a sv I know I will have to be strong as my husband is off on a course in Germany for 4 days starting tomorrow. But hopefully my daughter will be fine.

[madisonsmom]

If its been that long I am sure she will be fine.


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[curly wurly]

Thankyou for your reassurance.


I know it usually happens quickly with children but still I get all irrational and just wait for the worst to happen instead of staying calm and thinking normally.

[purpleteacher]

Maybe she was hungry or something... Hopefully she will be okay. It could have easily been that dinner didn't set perfectly on her stomach or that she is upset about something and isn't quite sure how to talk about it yet. Keep an eye and ear out. You are doing a great job so far and do keep us posted on things... I admire your courage for being so brave about this SV and flu.

[ontariogirl]

How is your daughter. I remember with my kids when they complained of tummy aches, half the time it was constipation, that can makes kids feel blah. With so many flu's out there you just never know.
Let us know how she is??

[curly wurly]

Thankyou purpleteacher and ontariogirl


Well my daughter is absolutely fine today and has not complained at all of tummy ache so it was just one of those unexplained childrens tummy aches. This is unusual for my daughter though and seemed too much of a coincidence after she had been exposed to the sv I had. But I was worrying for nothing as usual.


What really upsets me is all the time and energy I use up worrying about my family being ill and all the lost sleep. That energy and time could be so much better used by enjoying my beautiful children and husband.

[purpleteacher]

I am so glad you know your daughter well enough to know that she usually doesn't complain and that you take her so seriously. An observant parent isn't always easy to find! Good for you I know your daughter will be grateful for your loving observation later on down the line. I'm really glad to know she is much better today and back to her good old self.

[curly wurly]

Thank you purpleteacher


Your help and support always helps. Yes, I suppose I do know my daughter very well and take what she says seriously, so I should also believe her when she tells me she is fine and not sick instead of continually asking her. Today I have tried really hard not to ask and apart from once first thing this morning I have managed to not ask her, after all when she did have a stomach ache she told me straight away. I am so scared that I will ask her so much about feeling ill that eventually she will not tell me when she is ill.


Why does emetophobia cause so many irrational thoughts? I love being a parent and try to protectmy childrenfrom everything. I try so hard not to stop them enjoying and participating in childrens groups and activities, but the emet makes it so hard sometimes. I owe it to my children to get some help and stop emet making me act so strange. I wish I could be stronger for my children

[stella9]

I am glad your daughter is better. I know those horrible words "my tummy hurts" or "I feel sick." When my kids say "I feel sick" I cringe, shake and become paralyzed. Then if they say elaborate further with, "I feel sick with a stuffy nose" or "I feel sick 'cause my head hurts," I become immediately relaxed and can handle anything. I hate this thing.


Stella

[happyteacher]

curly wurly,


I guess irrational thoughts is the nature of the beast. Thinking of all the "what ifs" and rehearsing what has always happened to us is what makes this phobia a phobia. I'm going to therapy to stop this cycle. I haven't gotten rid of it yet, but I have these obsessive thoughts much less frequently!





happyteacher

[ontariogirl]

Have you ever noticed how drained you get when you worry if your child will be sick? Once they complain of a stomach ache the panic sets in. We worry too much, not sleeping, not eating properly. We end up like zombies and then our little ones say I am fine now. We aresleep deprived,and at times tea bags don't help the bags, our stomachs hurt because we don't eat properly. We have got to change this.[img]smileys/smilies_25.gif[/img]