It ruins everything this phobia!

[neesy]

Today I went to a football match. I was just settling into the game when I heard the guy behind me say to the guy next to him was sitting behind my son say 'do you feel better now?'. Well that done it for the whole of the first half of the game, I was totally on tenterhooks, turning round every five minutes to make sure he didnt look pale, or was sitting quiet or anything, hoping that my son wasnt sitting too close to him whilst he was leaning forward or anything - just a complete nightmare.


I felt so much better in the second half when I saw him come back with a burger! That made me realise that he must be ok.


Its such a shame that the first half was totaly ruined for me - and to be honest I dont even know why he felt ill - first instinct was that he felt sick! Aaahhhhhhhh


I HATE THIS PHOBIA SO MUCH![img]smileys/smilies_07.gif[/img]

[crystalmom]

I agree wholeheartadly. This phobia does suck....[img]smileys/smilies_07.gif[/img] It never ceases to amaze me what my brain can come up with, from the most innocent comment made by someone else. Or that there are more 'Pepto-Bismol' commercials on tv.


I'm with ya though, it sucks, royally!


Crystal

[purpleteacher]

Awwhhh!! First of all, congrats for being able to sit through the first part of the match without leaving. I probably would have been frantically searching for another seat and or would have left (saying he had just V* behind me or something). If the man had left and then come back and I heard the comment, I still think I would have felt spooked and would have put on my hand sanitizer.


But you did make it through and you don't know if the man had just had too much beer before the game or had gotten car sick on the trip to the game or possible had to just "use the bathroom" and his friend was teasing him (male toilet humor).


I hate it when I think I know something, but I'm not totally sure - because then my panic goes into overdrive because of the "not knowing"... argghhh... But you didn't leave the game and that means a lot to both you and your son!

[ontariogirl]

It sucks plain and simple. I drove past the school today and apparently I had a meeting to go to at my son's highschool that he will be attending in September. I missed it, didn't go. If I knew about it I would have sent his father. I hate crowded room with all those germs. My son will be taking a bus in September, it is about a half an hour to get there. Now I am thinking great if he gets sick at school I have to drive there and bring a puking kid back home.
Again I hate it!

[asagao]

This reminds me of the time when I was stressed out over the winter season. I decided to go to the gym in my area to relieve myselffrom the unwanted stress. Upon entering, the first thing I heard was someone singing "nausea, diarrhea, pepto bismol" over the radio in an operatic voice. It was a silly advertisement. Another time I was going to Alabama on my first plane trip to see my sister. Before I boarded, I had to use the restroom, and as I was leaving the stall I overheard a conversation between two men talking about how one of their wives ended up getting sick on another flight. As you can see that really calmsthe nerves, so I popped in a Promethazine and an Ativan afterwards to get through the whole shabang. I swear God can be a prick, and if it's not God then evolution is a bitch.


I can't say I enjoy football, but I've been in similar situations such as that. The best thing to do is to concentrate on the game rather than worrying about someone eating a bad hotdog from the concession stand. It's so easy to put in words, but when you discipline yourself and put things into practice it will get easier overall. What I personally feel we need to do is abandon these "what ifs" and replace them with "so whats"in order to make necessary reparations. Life goes by so much easier.

[asagao]

Due to my OCD I must correct one minor error in a sentence. Shabang is shebang.

[purpleteacher]

It sucks plain and simple. I drove past the school today and apparently I had a meeting to go to at my son's highschool that he will be attending in September. I missed it, didn't go. If I knew about it I would have sent his father. I hate crowded room with all those germs. My son will be taking a bus in September, it is about a half an hour to get there. Now I am thinking great if he gets sick at school I have to drive there and bring a puking kid back home.
Again I hate it!

Awwwhhh.... That will behard on your sonand for you! A half-hour car ride when you are sick isn't a good feeling for anyone [img]smileys/smilies_06.gif[/img]

[neesy]

Thanks for your replies. Ontartiogirl I really feel for you, I would feel exactly the same about a half hour journey or any journey come to think of it. I have got to my mums before after work and my son has been laid out on the settee and the minute I walk in I say 'do you feel sick?' the answer has always been no he has had a headache, but the initial thought in my head is 'oh no, I have to take him home feeling sick!'


But on saying that, there is a big possibility that you will never have to go and get your child when he is ill. Have you ever had to collect him from school before through illness and if you have has it been an sv? Try and think on the positive side and fight part of this awful phobia.


Whilst sitting at the match yesterday, all I wanted to do was move away but I thought I can't drag my husband and son out so I will have to sit here, and although I was very agitated during the first half of the match I kept on telling myself that it would be ok, and the likelihood of him having an sv was minimal.


We must try and stay on top of this as much as we can! It is very hard I know, but I have had to make sure I push myself to do certain things in life otherwise it could take over me and stop me from doing a lot of things and enjoying my life as I should.


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[lilyann]

Yes, this phobia does suck!! We automatically think of v* when somebody says they do not feel well, but in actuality it could be anything. The guy at the game could have been talking about something that was not even sickness related. Maybe their team made a good play and he was asking his friend if he felt better because the team was doing better.....It could have been as simple as that.


I agree with asagao, we do need to replace the "what ifs" with "so what"!!

[japa]

"and to be honest I dont even know why he felt ill - first instinct was that he felt sick! Aaahhhhhhhh"


And to take it a step further, you didn't even know that he was ill at all.


Just think about all of the contexts in which the question, "do you feel better now?" could be uttered. So many of them need not even have one single thing to do with sickness. Maybe the guy just finished a verbal rant about how much he hates his boss. Now his friend asks him, "do you feel better now?" I'm sure if any of us thinks for even a minute, we could fill a page with many others. Edited by: japa

[angel13]

^ Yeah, that's true japa! He could have just put on a jacket, and was asking if he felt better as in being warmer, or something - who knows!


But I'm right there with you neesy, its awful when you overhear someone mentioning feeling sick, or anything vaguely similar - it sets the emet wheels in motion, and it can ruin a whole day [img]smileys/smilies_12.gif[/img]You are so right, though - you have to keep pushing yourself to do these 'risky' things. Its the only way to get on top of this phobia, and feel good about yourself when you do them and come away, unharmed. Keep aiming for little accomplishments in your life: you stayed for the whole match, so you did well, even though your instinct was to get out of there.

[ontariogirl]

When my son goes to highschool in September and if I do get that phone call I will have to deal with it. I look at it this way, when my oldest son was in highschool I didn't get the phone call to come andget him, only when he broke his arm in 2 places. So I think my thinking patterns will change into positive for now. This wont be happening for another 7 months.
I am trying to stop with the what if's? I am telling myself that I am dealing with today not tomorrow.
Make sense?