death of a friend

[bexcelica]

my friend john died two nights ago and ive been really stressed. i
almost v* the day i found out he had died from being so upset. ive been
dizzy and n* off and on for the last 3 days, and im so scared to go to
the wake and funeral tomorrow bc im afraid ill pass out or v* or
something. if i get upset or cry or anything my entire chest tightens
up and it hurts so bad. same with my stomache. im afraid to cry because
it hurts. literally. i didnt go to work today and im going to my
boyfriends house. but im so afraid.



http://www.recordonline.com/archive/...27/news-bsobit -01-27.html



thats him

[pianolover]

I'm so sorry bex, I never know what to say to a death of a friend or family member, except that it does get better with time. But in the meantime...it is so hard. My condolences and hugs.

[californiagirl]

[img]smileys/smilies_06.gif[/img] I'm sorry......you have my condolences.

[x hannah x]

I am so sorry bex, I can't imagine what you're going through, But I know you can be strong and we are all here for you.

[curly wurly]

I'm really sorry to hear your sad news.

[tink]

I am so sorry Becky. I know how much it hurts to lose someone close to you.

Take care of yourself, hun..

--Kim

[gubba]

Sorry for your loss..it is so awful to be close to someone and have that taken away. Just know we are all here for you and not just when you feel N* or V* but for support on anything.


Feel better

[kellybean]

I'm really sorry about your loss.

[mjewell]

That link didn't work for me and I tried to look it up from the Obit page but I'm not sure which John it was.


Anyway, I am so sorry for this, it is such a shock when you lose someone young (I'm assuming he was fairly young? How did he die?)


I lost more than my share of peers and friendsin high school and college to tragic unexpected deaths. It's such an unreal feeling when you hear the news, and the grief that comes after is just horrible. It really seems unreal...sometimes I forget some of those people died, and I will just be thinking about them and remember...oh yeah, they are gone. And it is the weirdest most awful feeling. Ugh.


Well things will get better with time, not much consolation now I know. Best wishes to you and John's family and friends.

[mjewell]

Oh, I also wanted to add that i was unable to attend one of my friend's funeral who died in a drunk driving accident. I was just so upset to the point of feeling nauseous that I wa afraid I would vomit or pass out, same as you...Now i kind of wish i would have gone, but I know that feeling too. Funerals rank right up there with hospitals and airplanes for me.

[SimplyMe]

I am so sorry! See how you feel tomorrow you might surprise yourself and be able to go. You and Jonh's family are in my prayers.

[samara's on tv]

I'm sorry for you loss Bex. When I was in highschool a friend of mine was shot to death. When I found out I was just like you, N* and crying and everything. I went to her memorial service, and I felt good doing that. But I under stand this must be so hard for you. My condolences.


~Monica

[rubysoho120]

Im sorry. Never a good thing to go through. My best friend is
dying in the hospital right now from her anerxica. She is only 20
years old. I thought we would grow old together and have
babies and they would play together. Im sorry about your
friend. I wish you the best. The sick feeling is from being upset,
jut take it slow, dont forget to eat and try and relax a little.

[s_snow]

I'm sorry,you have my condolences.


hope you feel better soon

[tayda]

Aww, Honey, I'm sooo so so so sorry to hear that. If you need to talk we're all here for you. Does your chest litaerally feel like your heart is breaking? I never understood that term until it happened to me. I hope that you have a support system to lean on throughout this. GL

[2jo2]

I'm so sorry for your loss, Becky. Jon sounded like a wonderful soul. I hope you can find the strength to go to the funeral. Hugs to you.

[crimgoddess]

Sorry about your friend bex- the link didn't work for me either, but I'm sure if he was your friend he was a wonderful guy


Whenever a friend of mine passes, I always try to justify not going to the memorial....but usually end up going. As sad or worried as you may be right now- it will give you closure, and allow you to be in the company of others who are there because your friend touched their lives.


*amber*

[aar13]

I'm so sorry to hear your bad news and I totally know what you are going through right now. My boyfriend and his bestfriend died suddenly in a car accident 9 years ago and to this day I still remember like it was yesterday how that felt and how much I hurt inside.


You are grieving - and those are the symptoms of it. Anxiety, shock, and severe sadness all balled up.


Keep your chin up and stay strong and you WILL get through this!

[bexcelica]

thank you guys so much. i wound up going to the wake and it was the
worst experience of my life. there was a line outside the funeral home,
but all my friendswere there. i went by myself, and i wound up seeing
my best friend standing in line and i waited with her. we went in
together, and as soon as i saw him i startedballing, which in turn my
friend started crying. they couldnt have made it any sadder. they had a
tv next to his casket with a video of him singing anf playing the piano
on it (he was a singer) and it was so weird. like, i was looking at
this video of him alive and singing and having a great time and then i
looked over to the left and saw him lying in his casket. it was so
weird hearing his voice when he was lying there. they had him in his
pajamas. it was a creamation, so its so weird to think of him as just
dust right now. i saw one of my friends, mike, cry and i have never in
my entire life see him cry. it as nice though, to see everyone, to hug
everyone and to be there for eachother. he died of an enlarged heart,
he had a massive heart attack. so, he didnt suffer, but it was just so
unexpected.



i still dont think its true, but its better now. i didnt v* i didnt
pass out, but i have feel anxious and n* for the last 5 days.



thanks to everyone. i just feel so bad for his girlfriend................

[bexcelica]

Musician, 23, dies of heart attack
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By Brendan Scott

Times Herald-Record

[email protected]



I am the entertainer and I've had to pay my price.


The things I did not know at first I learned by doing twice.


- Billy Joel, "The Entertainer"


Washingtonville
- At 14, Jon George didn't know a thing about music. But he couldn't
just sit in the crowd as his dad assembled a Beatles tribute band to
raise money for their church.


"I threw him a tambourine and told him to find two and four," his father, Wayne, recalls.


Jon
found the beat. He also found a love for music many years older than
himself as the youngest member of Twist &amp; Shout, which went on to
become one of the region's leading '60s-era cover bands.


He
couldn't read music, but he learned to play "Brown Eyed Girl" on
guitar. He learned to play Billy Joel's "Scenes From an Italian
Restaurant" on piano. It was the sound Jon loved, the raw sound of
rebellion.


On graduation day, Jon put his piano skills to the
test, playing Green Day's mellow "Good Riddance (Time of Your Life)"
for Washingtonville's Class of 2000.


But as the song's final
chord faded, Jon unzipped his gown. He adjusted a harmonica brace that
had been hanging around his neck and broke into Billy Joel's "Piano
Man," complete with the part about "the businessmen slowly get stoned."


The sea of mortarboards erupted in cheers. The principal was clearly upset.


"The crowd just loved it," said Georgann Goulding, Jon's English teacher. "He was like an imp."


I am the entertainer and I know just where I stand


Another serenader in another long-haired band.


After
graduation, Jon went solo. He grew his hair out. With Wayne as his
manager, Jon's keyboard and full baritone became regulars at local
night spots, like the Captain's Table, the Olde Erie Brew Pub and
Loughran's.


As his repertoire matured, so did Jon.


He and
his girlfriend moved into a Goshen apartment. He studied to become an
art teacher. He drove to California with a guitar and a pup tent just
to dip his toes in the Pacific.


Meanwhile, Jon was also
rehearsing with a band called The Rivals. On Jan. 20, the band rocked
Bourbon Street of Monroe. Jon told his father he thought it was the
best gig of his life.


"He was right on the edge of this thing taking off," Wayne said. "He was right on the edge of the dream."


I am the entertainer. I bring to you my songs.


I'd like to spend a day or two, but I can't stay that long.


Jon George died Tuesday of a massive heart attack caused by an enlarged heart. He was 23.

[curly wurly]

My thoughts and prayers are with you bexcelica. I know it must be such a hard time for you. I hope you soon feel a little better.

[wing]

I'm sorry to hear that Becky. u_u You have my thoughts.

[mitch04133]

I am sorry to hear of your loss, my thoughts and prayers are with you and his family...

[tcsarah]

I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your friend. My thoughts are with you.


After my mum died somebody gave me a poem which I found comforting, I've included it below in the hope it will bring some comfort to you. Take care.


Tracey





All Is Well

Death is nothing at all,
I have only slipped into the next room
I am I and you are you
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.
Call me by my old familiar name,
Speak to me in the easy way which you always used
Put no difference in your tone,
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household world that it always was,
Let it be spoken without effect, without the trace of shadow on it.
Life means all that it ever meant.
It it the same as it ever was, there is unbroken continuity.
Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near,
Just around the corner.
All is well.

By Henry Scott Holland (1847-1918)
Canon of St Paul's Cathedral

[tanyarn]

Sorry to hear about your friends passing.


I too lost a friend and had a terrible time dealing with it because it got me soo upset. I cried for a week straight so you could imagine the headache. I just tried to relax and calm down. Thats basically all you can do. Just try to relax. Maybe some anti-aniexty meds?

[mjewell]

I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your friend. My thoughts are with you.


After my mum died somebody gave me a poem which I found comforting, I've included it below in the hope it will bring some comfort to you. Take care.


Tracey





All Is Well




Death is nothing at all,
I have only slipped into the next room
I am I and you are you
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.
Call me by my old familiar name,
Speak to me in the easy way which you always used
Put no difference in your tone,
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household world that it always was,
Let it be spoken without effect, without the trace of shadow on it.
Life means all that it ever meant.
It it the same as it ever was, there is unbroken continuity.
Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near,
Just around the corner.
All is well.

By Henry Scott Holland (1847-1918)
Canon of St Paul's Cathedral

That's a really nice poem. It made me cry.

[snowangel]

I am so very sorry about your loss. So sorry....

[trinity_13]

Bex, my thoughts are with you, in my experience you will never forget him but timewill make it easier to remember him without so much sorrow....





Tracy that poem is lovely, very comforting