My daughter v*d last night

[peachykeen]

And it's thrown me for a loop! She was playing and acting fine all
day - in fact, we started potty training (she's 26 months old). Last
night around 8:30 she ran over and asked my hubby for a glass of
milk. He told her to ask me, she did, and I told her she could if she
gave me a big kiss. She planted one right on my lips (she's such a
sweetie). Drank her milk, then pointed in her mouth and said her
teeth hurt. Then she v*d her entire glass of milk. She started
crying, hard, and v*d three more times - once on the sofa, then
twice in the bathtub. Even though every nerve in my body was
screaming for me to run away I sat in the bathroom, got her
undressed, and rubbed her back until she calmed down. Then I had
to make my hubby take over with her while I cleaned up. After she
was dressed she wanted me, not my hubby. I sat with her on the
sofa for about 10 minutes, rubbing her back and stroking her
forehead. Then I just couldn't do it any longer and made dh take
over. I took our younger daughter (11 months) into my bedroom
and hung out. This really upset my older daughter, who wanted me
with her. Eventually she fell asleep, slept all night, and is a cheerful
little girl this morning. She's had some juice and been playing - she's
singing a song to her baby right now. Do you think she has a sv? If
she does we're all going to get it - she was sharing a fork with the
baby, she kissed me and my hubby on the lips about 10 minutes
before she v*. I'm just in such a panic and don't even know what to
do with myself. My hubby is about to leave for work, but his mom is
coming over to help me this morning.

Why do I have to live like this? I feel like such a failure as a mother
- when my baby wanted me I had to leave her alone. My hubby said
she was confused and upset, that she would hardly talk to him and
just kept asking where I was over and over. It breaks my heart -
she deserves so much more than this.

[donna1216]

I know how you feel--whenever my kids are v'ing and my hubby is home, that becomes his job. My girls have gotten used to this, your's will, too!! My kids are not bothered by it anymore, Haley is such a mama's girl and will not let Greg do anything for her, but when she v's, she knows that he is the one who is going to take care of her!!!

[jennyleigh1975]

Donna, my children are the same way!! They know when they v* that its daddy that is primarily going to care for them. My children dont seem to be bothered by it. They know that I am here, but just not as hands on with it as their daddy is.

peachykeen, I hope all is well with your daughter, maybe the milk just didnt set right in her tummy. Keep us posted.

[curly wurly]

Poor you Peachykeen


If your daughter seemed fine before her milk and is fine now then hopefully it wasn't a sv. My 2 year old son has v*d after his milk before, then again just minutes afterwards in his cot, but by the next day he was fine and nobody else caught it. When my children do have a sv, they are always floppy and sleepy the next day and not very cheerful like your daughter is today. Try and stay calm and good luck.


You are definately not a faliure as a mother. I always feel so guilty when I do not cope well with v*, but the fact we feel so bad shows just how much we really do love our children.

[aar13]

I'm so sorry to hear about what happened, but the good news is that it doesn't sound like a sv*. Maybe she just drank her milk too much or too fast and it didn't settle well. If she made it through the night witout any more v*ing she shoudl be ok.


I know how you feel about feeling quilty and like you are a bad mom - but believe me, you are not! It's just so hard for us to deal with these things and it's totally out of our control!


Hope all is well today, keep us posted!


Alissa

[stella9]

It does not sound like a sv at all. She was fine, drank milk, v** and then was fine, slept the night and is now okay.


Who knows what it was? She is 26 months. Two year old molars?


Stella

[gubba]

peachy...i am so sorry. I am not on here all the time anymore and I just saw what happened. I know how you feel, but oddly enough, my son who V*'s a lot knows that I clean up and daddy takes care of him. now, when he feels bad,he always asks for both of us, but he knows that I clean and go away and daddy takes care of him when he is not well..I don't feel like a failure as a mom, I feel like a fool for letting me allow this F*ing phobia get me to the point where I am not able to be a responsible adult. I know exactly how you feel and that fear that lives in you all day and for a week wondering who is next. I hate this and nothing can make it easier until we can rid ourselves of this phobia.


we need to excahnge numbers so we could talk.

[gubba]

Oh and I forgot to tell you...the V* when they tell you their teeth hurt is a sore throat. My son finally told me it feels like your teeth hurt and it was a sore throat that did make him V* and then turned into the chicken pox 2 weeks later and he did get the shot at 15 months...Oh well...just wanted to make you feel better and know that it is probably not and SV but a sore throat instead and milk is pretty heavy on a bad throat.


Hope you mother in law was good help..I know she has been great for you in the past. Does you husband work near home? Can he get home at some point in the day? I know my hubby works about 6 miles away and the traffic is bad, but when I am a mess with panic, he does come for a lunch or a few minutes.

[SimplyMe]

Aww, I'm sorry. I agree w/ the others tho it was probably just the milk didnt' sit right. Especially since she is cheery today and hasn't done it thru the night or agin today. You are a wonderful mom! You were there for her, you took care of her while it happened and directly after. That is more than I think I could do. Plus removing your younger daughter was a good mom tactic, in the event it was a sv (which now doesn't seemt aht way but then you didn't know) you don't want her sister getting it. Don't be so hard on yourself, your hubby was there and handled her, she's happy today and healthy you're doing your job and doing it well!

[carlie]

I've been there too. It's a horrible feeling to want torun away from your sick child.Weird thing is like the others said, it's not hard for me to clean it up, but I'm petrified of holding them when it happens.


The good news is that it doesn't sound like a sv. My kids are never cheerful when they have them. Alwaysvery tired and clingy.


It's hard, but we're alldoing the best we can.

[andee]

Hi Peachykeen,
I know exactly how you feel. I have 2 kids and feel like a horrible mother when I cannot take care of them. I was convinced that my daughter at 18 months was scarred because I left her in the living room when she got sick. But a good friend told me that is why there are 2 parents, to help each other. Also, as your children grow you can explain to them how you feel about this whole thing in an easy way and reassure them that Daddy ( or someone else) will take care of them, and that they are ok. Mine are 8 and 3 and I still tell them that. I also tell them how brave they are when that happens. Don't feel too bad. They are resilient!!!

[purpleteacher]

Maybe she didn't feel well to begin with so she asked for milk, knowing it would help her tummy feel better by V*??? I know that if kids really sick with something, anything dairy should make them sick. That is what they always tell when I have kids complaining of a tummy ache at school. If they drink their milk and they are fine, don't worry about it being a SV or something like that. If they get sick after lunch and have had milk, they probably need to go home because the tummy was hurting because of something else.

[aar13]

Hey Peachykeen!


How are things today? Let us know as soon as you can. I hope everything is OK!





Alissa

[peachykeen]

Thanks for the support - she's fine. She had a wonderful day
yesterday, ate well, played well, slept all night last night, and is fine
today. Just one of those fluke things, I guess.

I've been in therapy for a few weeks now, and I really see an
improvement with how I dealt. My therapist is wonderful, and really
challenges my thinking patterns. For example, I usually have no
problem cleaning it up but have a big problem being there with her.
But I was able to be with her and comfort her - albeit for only 15
minutes, but that's an improvement over none at all. Also, before I
went into a cleaning and bleaching frenzy I stepped back for a
minute and thought "What would be the rational thing to do, and what
would be irrational?". I cleaned the tub where she v*d, cleaned the
mess up, and just wiped major things like the phone, remotes, and
doorknobs. But I didn't bleach the entire house like I usually do. I'll
admit, it was very difficult not to, and I felt a bit uncomfortable all
day. But I HAVE to challenge myself in small steps if I want to
overcome this. I can beat this!! And looking back on all of the things
I did or didn't do, I feel strong and empowered - I acted like a
rational person would (for the most part) and I'm still here and
healthy!! I feel quite proud of myself, and I think I'll go dance a
small jig of glee. [img]smileys/smilies_04.gif[/img]

[aar13]

Well good for you, that's great. You live near me if I remember correctly???? Maybe you could share with me the name of the therapist you are seeing. I too would love to overcome this damn phobia that I HATE so much!


Glad to hear your little one is OK!


Alissa