Does it ever go away?

[jenn1234]

I hate being an EMet sometime I tell my self I am going to make myself
V* so the fear will stop or I tell myself next time I feel sick I am
going to let it go. But ya right I would rather die when I am in the
moment of feeling Ill. I hate it. It is so dumb. Does it ever stop has
anyone goten over it. My mom tells me just do it and you will see its
nothing. Makes me so mad to have this control my life. I want to have
kids in the next few years but I cant becuase of emet. I am deathly
affried to have kids. Becuase of the morining sickness and being in
labor and feeling sick and not being able to get away becuase I would
be stuck in the hospital bed giving birth. Does anyone have answers to
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[falon_17]

jenn, I know how you feel. When I'm feeling good it makes me mentally stronger and I think "so what if I get sick? I'll get through it, I won't be scared anymore, even if I do v*." But then when I actually feel ill, it's a different story. It's like I become paralyzed with fear, and I get depressed that I've let myself down again. I don't know how to fix this emet, wish I did, but I know that there are some people on here who have been "cured" through therapy, meds, etc. So I think there is a way to get rid of it, we just have to keep trying and we will find what works for us. I am still searching, but I feel like I'm getting close. Being active in my church has helped me tremendously. There's something out there to help you too. Try everything, and don't give up. And don't let anything keep you from having children. If you want them, go for it. I have one and the joy they bring is greater than any fear you will ever experience. Kids do get sick, but they are healthy, happy and funny more often than they are sick. And there are LOTS of moms on here who never v* while pregnant or in labor. I'm one of them. Allowing your emet to keep you from accomplishing what you want is something you may always regret. By pushing off the fear and doing what you want to do one step at a time, you are curing your emet for yourself.

[neesy]

I am one of those - I didnt have any sickness during my pregnancy nor was I sick whilst in labour.


When I went in to be induced, I was sharing a ward with 3 other girls and one of them was very friendly. We got talking and then she suddenly said that she was in there because she had gastroenteritis and got taken in hospital for it. Well I froze and panicked - I suddenly didnt want her near me and I was so afraid I was going to show myself up in front of her.


Well, when I went into labour and she was so nice to me she gave me a massage and everything and was fantastic help to me. I didnt come down with anything!


I do try and think of all of these positive thoughts when there is something going around - not everyone catches every bug!


Please don't let this horrible phobia ruin your chance of having the wonderful feeling of having a family who will give so much happiness and more good times than the bad times of this phobia.


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