Hurt Feelings....

[silver]

Hi All!!


This has nothing to do with emet, but I am really upset right now with something that my boss did. Usually I am able to blow things off with what people say to me, but I am really hurt by this because my boss and I are friends. Anyways, last week during our staff meeting we were talking about different group behaviors and for all of the ones that were negative such as the "stage hog" she kept laughing and directing it towards me. She did this for each negative one that we discussed. I am not sure if she thought that she was being funny or if she was just being mean for the heck of it, but it really hurt my feelings. Another coworker even stood up for me and said "that isn't what she does." Right now I am not sure how to take it and I am wondering if I should say something to her about it....Any advice???

[babygap5]

I would be very upfront with her and ask her if she was specifically meaning you, and if she was, why she didn't just discuss this with you in private? If you are friends, this should have been something that wasn't discussed in a group meeting. I understand you feeling hurt, if you don't say something now to clear the air, it will just keep staying with you and you will grow to resent her very much. It's possible that it was a misunderstanding in some way, but you need to stick up for your feelings. Good luck.

[SimplyMe]

How good of friends are you? I would do as babygap said and in a mature and maybe even joking way bring it up. She may have just been "picking" on you because you are friends and assumes you think nothing of it. On the other hand if she does feel these things are true like babygap said she should have talked to you in private. I know your feelings are hurt, mine would be too. I hope you talk to her and get this straightened out so that it doesn't have to bother you anymore.

[purpleteacher]

It sounds like your boss is being unprofessional. If something needs to be addressed like this, it needs to be addressed privately - not publically.