Is this IT?? Please help!

[aar13]

Lastnight after a fun filled day with my 5 year olddaughter, she was getting ready for bed and said she had to use the bathroom. It started out normal, but towards the end it looked as though she had a little d*. Of course I started to worry and asked her if she had a belly ache and she said no and went to her room. A few minutes later she called me in and said that her belly did hurt a little bit. Well, of course I started having a panic attack because my stomach was not feeling so well either and was so scared that we were coming down with an sv*. I was up most of the night not feeling good myself just waiting for her to come out of her room and have to v* or me having to v* either but we made it through the night. I finally fell asleep around 4am and she got up at 8am. I heard her washing her hands and the toilet flush and then she came into my room . . . . said she still has d*. She's been up now for about a half and hour and says she feels fine and her belly doesn't her but I'm freaking out because my stomach still hurts and I'm scared we are coming down with an sv*.


Do you think that if either one of us were going to v* that would have happened already since v* usually comes before d*???? Or do we still have a chance that one of us, if not both of us may v*??? I am soooo scared and totally freaking out right now!!!


By the way, we are having a surprise 50th birthday party for my mom this evening and I am the host since my dad and brothers are not the "host" type. We have a little over 50 people coming and I'm so nervous that this is going to ruin our day.


HELP! I am so scared that we have an sv* and that it's just the start and will get worse! It will ruin our whole day that has been planned for weeks.

[lilyann]

Hi Alissa! Could it have been something you both ate? Usually that is the case when you both come down with d* at once. In my experience, when it is an sv, the child gets it first then a day or two later it spreads to others in the house. It could be that since your husband has been away, your anxiety has made you feel the way you do and that is spilling over to your daughter. Kids are very perceptive and pick up easily on our emotions. Being the host for this party probably just magnifies things for you. All those people, probably alcohol, kids who may not be well. I bet you will both be fine. Especially if you don't make a big deal out of your daughter's d*. Asking her over and over will just stress her out more. Hang in there!!


Heather

[gubba]

My 4 year old son always feels yuck and I know it is because I constantly ask him if he is o.k. I know I am making it worse. I will tell you that your party is what is making you feel gross. I had a big party for my sons birthday here at our house this past weekend and I felt N* all day and even after it was over from stress. My son did end up V*ing after his party, but it was from too much junk.


I am certain that an SV would have been more complicated for you both by now rather than just a little D* and some tummy aches.


FEEL BETTER and enjoy that party. I hate that I was so freaked out and could not enjoy my sons party.

[aar13]

Thanks Heather!


I usually don't get d* from worrying or anxiety and the way my stomach feels right now makes me think that it's got to me an sv*. Cahley and I ate nothing at all even close to similiar so I'm not sure it could be anything we ate either. She is still fine though, she had breakfast and is acting normal. She hasn't gone to the bathroom at all again either. I hope it's just a thing that lasts a few hours and all is ok. I'm just so woried about her v*ing at some point. You are right about one thing though, I need to STOP asking her if she feels ok and if her belly is ok because she picks up on my anxiety.


Cross your fingers for me! Thanks for your support.


Alissa

[hippychick]

I think it is stress about the party that is making your stomach hurt etc. Also whenever I know someone in my family is sick I get an automatic stomach ache out of fear. She could have D* for any reason, just like adults. Sometimes food makes it that way, sometimes it just happens for not obvious reason but because you are stressed over the party you are stressing over her illness and thinking you have it too. Whenever it's near by birthday or christmas I get stomach aches because I don't want to ruin the day and my nerves start acting up. I think you're both fine. Good luck with the party!

[suze]

Alissa, try not to worry, d* doesn't mean a sv and it's inlikely the tow of you would have it at the same time unless you'd been around someone else with it. If your daughter is feeling better then she's not going to v* now - these things get worse before they get better.


I agree with the others, the anxiety about the party, lack of sleep, and the worry generally about getting ill WILL give yu a stomach ache. When my kids have had a sv, I feel sick for a week, although it's always psychosomatic and Idon't get ill as a general rule.


Try and realx and forget about this, it sounds like nothing other than your daughter being a bit loose.Both my kids get this from time to time, and yes I always worry! If it was anything bad your daughter would have v* during the night or at least have been up through the night with d*. You're in theclear, enjoy the party.

[madisonsmom]

I think you would have been sick my now. SV's usually come on quick. Your belly probably hurts because you are stressed.


How are you feeling?

[aar13]

Thanks everyone. I am trying to calm down . . but she actually has had a few more trips to thebathroom. I don't think she is feeling quite up to herself by the way she is acting, but she is really trying hard not to go down for the count. She's been to the bathroom 3 times now since she got up but it's just a little each time. She said her tummy feels ok but she mentioned that she feels out of breath. I'm still really scared it will get worse and she is going to v*. But again, I'm hoping that since it's diarrea since lastnight and she made it through the night that she'll probably be ok. My stomach actually started bothering me lastnight before hers did and then when she started with a belly ache mine of course got worse. Now I'm worried if I should actually take her to the party or not???? She is so excited for her Grammy's party and has kept it a secret for so long and she would be heart broken if the couldn't go. UGH! Things like this always happen at the worse time. Like I really needed a panic attack today!


Thanks everyone for the wonderful support! I'll keep you posted!

[neesy]

Dh doesnt always come with sickness so try not to worry - it could be she has an excited tummy in anticpation of the party tonight - and you a nervous tummy in anticipation.


I am sure all will be fine - enjoy the party!


Neesy x

[SimplyMe]

I think if v* were to be involved it would have happened by now, especially in a 5 year old. She isnt' an emet and she is a child so the likihood of her doing it would be greater than yours and it would have happened well before now. Plus she went the entire night OK. Sometimes it's just like my Mom calls it "a cleaning out" or it could be any of the other things mentioned. Yours could be nerves or because of the suggestion of your daughters d*. Is the party going to be at your house or at a place you feel "safe" if not maybe that is bothering you, if so than that can be soothing to you that youw ill be ok. Plus it seems when anxiety is like this you think you won't make it thru whatever is planned but when the time comes it will be fine. Hang in there!

[aar13]

Well, she insisted that she was hungry again and wouldn't take toast for an answer, so I gave her cereal with milk as requested. She ate it about 45 minutes ago and seems to be fine so I'll guess I'll just continue to wait and see what happens.


I on the other hand have not been able to eat anything yet today which is not good for me because I am 6 1/2 months pregnant. I know I need to eat, but I'm just so scared that my stomach isn't right either since it's been hurting off and on. I'm also panicky because I don't want this to turn into v*ing for either one of us tonight. Nightime is always the worst time for these things to happen and since she went to bed with a belly ache lasnight and didn't get sick I thinkshe'll be fine . . . . but I still have it in my head that something is going to happen later on!


I have kept myself busy cleaning the house all morning and preparing for my mom's party tonight, but I still can't stop thinking about it. She has been fine, watching tv and playing games with me in between my cleaning, but I'm still just very anxious!


I am just hoping that this was a quick bug with d* only and that she'll be fine! Usually people start with v*ing first and then d* comes later at the end, right? I could swear a few years back that my pediatrician told me that d* comes towards the end of the virus. I hope thats the case!


I have to leave at 2pm EST to gather last minute items for the big party, then go decorate at 3pm and the party is 4-8pm or so. I just hope all goes well! I'll keep you posted! Thanks so much for a good place to come for support!

[aar13]

Thanks again everyone. It's now past noon and she's been d* free for about 2 hours . . . everyone I've talked to seems to think maybe she needed to "clean out" or it could just be a little bug or something she ate. I beg to differ because I have THAT kind of stomach ache myself. But hopefully the worst is over for both of us - I've been keeping both of us busy this morning to keep our minds off of not feeling so great. Sometimes I think that she is feeling sick and just doesn't want to say so because she wants to go to the party, and then other times I think that she is totally fine. UGH! I hate this - the anticipation and anxiety of just waiting for v* to possibly start. Why do I have to get so panicky and worried about it? Most people could care less. As much as I would prefer d* any day, it still sucks because I am then worried the v* is coming later.


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[purpleteacher]

Honestly, it sounds like something you ate. Is there any chance your body just didn't agree with dinner? You could have also had more fiber than usual, too much caffeiene, stress, or almost anything else.

[lilyann]

Alissa--Hope everything went well and you and your daughter are fine. I know that being 5 1/2 months pregnant myself that my resistance to v*ing has been greatly compromised. Before this one I was able to go 11 years without v* and now I have done it twice in the past month. It's just the nature of being pregnant I guess. Well, let us know how everything went!! Heather

[nicki]

I think it is the excitement of the party. when i was younger i saw my dad about 6 times a year. Before each time I would get d*, partly because i was excited, partly nerves. Hopefully that is all it was.


I hope you enjoyed the party.

[aar13]

Hi everyone! Well, it's 9:05pm and we just got home from the party! The afternoon went well, and it seems that my daughter is OK for now. Every once and a while she gets a little sluggish and seems that she doesn't feel well but overall she seems ok.


My mom was so surprised and it was great. I'm just home now and worried that she will v* during the night. That's always my biggest fear! And I noticed thata lot of kids have spuratic episodes of v* and or d* throughout a few days - I just REALLY hope that's not the case with her because I don't want to panic anymore. I am exhausted and really need a good night's sleep and I know that Iwon't be able to count on my husband (he's not her father anyway) if anything should actually happen in the night.


Thank you all for being so caring and supportive, it truly helps and I couldn't stay calm without coming here for help!

[andee]

Hi aar13,
Hope all is well. I can totally relate to your story. It is so hard to figure out kids. I have an 8 year old and a 3 1/2 year old. Finally the 8 can tell me what is going on. But I still drive her crazy asking her if she is o.k. every 15 minutes (or less). I know it is not good. I am also afraid she won't tell me because she knows it will freak me out. She sort of did that once. As for my young one, he will say when he is sick but will also say it for no reason. Talk about panicking. And he once "got sick" at day care, right before X-mas, just once, and I went over the edge. But he stayed at day care and rested a little and wound up fine! A little d* later but not much. I can never figure them out. Hope your daughter is o.k. I think you are past the bad stuff!

[aar13]

Well, just when i think that my daughter and i are ok, my husband says that he has really bad stomach pains and he feels very n* and like he could v* anytime. So I'm now panicking and freaking out - pacing around the house and really anxious. What if he is getting the sv*? What if the worst of it for me and my daughter is coming . . .that her d* from yesterday wasjust the start and my stomach ache yesterday as well?!?! UGH!!!! I just want to run away!!!!! Why does this have to happen and why do I have to be so scared of it?

[purpleteacher]

Hopefully it was just something your dh ate. Please keep us posted...

[sillygirl]

If your husband does have a sv, then you and your daughter probably had it yesterday. Try not to worry, but take all of the usual emet precautions.


My husband gets that way a lot depending on what he eats. I freak out every time, of course, but most of the time it isn't anything contagious and he rarely actually v* from it.


I hope you all feel better soon! Let us know how you are all doing!

[aar13]

My husband made it through the night without v*ing, but today he does have a little d*. Just great!! And now my daughter's d* is gone, but she woke up this morning with a sore throat, headache, and a slight fever. UGH!!! When will this end???? I am pretty sure that the 3 of us must have had a mild sv* and now she has caught something else. I just hope that it's the end of the sickness for a while. Colds and stuff don't bother me as much as I hate high fevers, v*ing is just what puts me into a huge panic!





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[purpleteacher]

I can handle colds without a problem. Fevers are okay, as long as the person is still conscious I cannot handle ANYTHING GI related without freaking.

[falon_17]

How's everyone now? Recovered, I hope?

[aar13]

Well thank you to all for getting me through this and all of the support. My husband is fine now, my daughter went to school today since she had no fever and her head and throat stopped hurting. I have been feeling a little off for the past few days, but nothing I can't deal with. I just can't tell whether it's due to my being pregnant or if I have some sort of sickness that I'm still fighting off.


Let's hope this is it for a while, but with my luck something else will come up. I just hope and pray that the next illness doesn't bring any v* or d*!!!! February is peak time - ugh, I dread the anxiety!!!


Thanks again all!