OT -- Work Question......Advice??

[californiagirl]

Being that I appreciate your guys' opinions and advice, I'd like to ask your advice on another subject: Work.


Ok, I am a freelance paralegal, and work has been slow. So, I started looking for a regular, stable job. I am picky though (I know, it's wrong), but I won't work for big corporations, due to too many "office politics" and crap, nor will I work for offices with lots of people in cubicles. Not that it's wromg to work in these places, it's just that I am not happy doing so. I applied for this job outside the legal field, and for the training they wanna fly me to Riverside, CA (about a 1 hour flight). I met with the owner of the company last Monday and Tuesday for the interview process. They pretty much hired me on the spot, but took from that time to now to tell me they'd fly me out there this coming Monday. They were supposed to call me with more details today, but I haven't heard from them yet, and it's 10:00pm here. Here are the issues:


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*One-person office (me only) * not in legal field


*Part-time flexibility *conflicts w/hubby's workschedule-&nbsp ; ; ; ;


we have only1 car!)


*Relatively easy work * after picking up hubby afterwork, we'd be getting home late nightly


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[tcsarah]

I'm probably not going to be much help here but what I'd probably do is go for it, give it a few months and if you don't like it leave. It may be that you wouldreally enjoy the job, so not earning a big wage would be worth it so long as it gave you enough money to get by on.


I don't think it's very nice of your hubby to pressurise you and make you feel inadequate - if your daughter is at home all the time you have your role as a mum/teacher, which is a full time job! However if money is tight I can understand your husband's concerns about you not having a paid job, but he could go about things in a nicer way.


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Good luck with everything, let us know what you decide to do!


Tracey

[SimplyMe]

I have questions lol leave it to me lol. How many hours per week would you be working? If you are afraid to fly how long a drive is it? Could you explain that to them? Is the training just one day or would you be gone a few days/week?


Depending on these things and how you feel about them/the possibilites,I agree w/ tcsarah that it's worth a shot, if you don't like it you can always leave. Good luck and let us know how it goes!

[purpleteacher]

It sounds to me like you need to write out a list of priorities. Then compare your list of priorities to the pro's and con's of the two jobs. Another factor to consider is what job would advance both you and your family.

[californiagirl]

I don't think it's very nice of your hubby to pressurise you and make you feel inadequate - if your daughter is at home all the time you have your role as a mum/teacher, which is a full time job! However if money is tight I can understand your husband's concerns about you not having a paid job, but he could go about things in a nicer way.

You're right, he is rather insensitive. My daughter is homeschooled, and I help her alot. I cook great dinners and keep the house spotless, so you're right, I DO "work" FT. As far as the $$ situation, we aren't destitute by any means: we have a beautiful, very large home, nice reliable car, and we are able to pay our bills every month and still go out to dinner and have fun on occasion. It's just that he has this "thing" about me working, that I have to. I feel that even if we were rich, he'd still insist I work. I am the only one who takes care of the homefront---he does nothing basically. I have scoliosis, my spine is curved, and I am in constant pain, but still clean our 1500 square foot house from top to bottom and do all of the errands. I get paralegal work, but not as often as I'd like. He does make me feel bad and guilty. Oh, and when his kids were staying with us a couple years ago, I was the only one caring for them, took the to the Dr., even was the ONLY one who attended their school conferences, and their HISkids!!! Well, his son is a jerk, and his sl*t daughter tried to break up our marriage because I insisted that they follow our rules. His kids totally s**t on me after all I did for them. Their with their mother now, thank goodness!! I'm rambling, but what I'm trying to say is that he doesn't take into consideration what I do around here, he just bases his love for me on my ability to work FT. He even says that when I get a job, then I can have some say-so on certain things. Totally unfair, considering all that I have done and do now.


SIMPLYME~~~


How many hours per week would you be working? about 20-25


If you are afraid to fly how long a drive is it?about 6 hours


Could you explain that to them?I probably will


Is the training just one day or would you be gone a few days/week?One or two days


PURPLETEACHER~~~~


That's great advice, I will do that, thanks!!

[tcsarah]

Your husband really needs to start appreciating you more! I bet he is one of those guys who think housewives/homemakers sit on their backsides all day watching daytime telly. Maybe you should go on strike for a few days, lol - don't clean up, get him to make his own dinner, do his own washing, ironing etc. He'd soon realise how much work you do! I remember reading about a lady in a similar boat to you - totally unappreciative husband who thought she did nothing all day, and what she did was wait until he got home from work and then did all the jobs around the house, that way he got to see exactly how hard she did work!


I'm sorry, just had to say the above, I know it doesn't help whatsoever with your decision. Just one last thing - don't let your husband force you into something you really don't want to do, if you are comfortably off he really has no grounds, so if you make the decision not to take the job don't feel guilty. You are a good wife and mother.He could do with a stint on that wife-swap programme on tv and be landed with one of those women that don't work and don't look after their homesor hubbies either, he'd soon see how lucky he is to have you! [img]smileys/smilies_04.gif[/img]


Tracey

[californiagirl]

TCSARAH~~~~


Thank you for your reply and nice words[img]smileys/smilies_02.gif[/img]


Hey, a strike sounds like a good idea!!!

[californiagirl]

Well Crap!


I just talked to the Manager, he offered me the job, and said that I'd have to be in California for a week!!!!! I am having a very hard time making a decision here..........