Meeting another emet!

[ontariogirl]

I finally met "sparky" Helen on Thursday. We have chatted on the phone and decided to meet. I was excited. I was more nervous of getting lost than having a panic attack while being there. She welcomed me with a huge hug and showed me where the bathroom was and the sliding door that leads to the deck if I need fresh air. I found that funny, how a emet knows that you would like to know where the bathroom is and where to go for fresh air. We talked about everything. I am really glad that I went to meet her. We connected right away with our fears and our life stories. WE have come to the conclusion that we have to stop with the what if's? Everyone thinks that way. What if I become sick in the car? What if I catch the stomach flu after being around someone who has it? It is hard to change the thinking to a positive one, like I am going in that car and can't wait to get there. We all have done positive things in our daily lives that we really don't see. We see the negative. After spending about 3 hours there that flew by I feel that I have a friend in my life who has a huge impact on me. I thank her boyfriend for answering questions for me to. If there is someone on this forum that lives by you try exchanging phone numbers, talk on the phone and when the opportunity arises that you can meet go for it. I am telling you it is the best feeling sitting across from someone who knows exactly what you are going through and vice-versa. Hopefully in the summer Helen will come to my place and stay for a couple of days and meet my family.

[donna1216]

Rhonda, that is great!! I am glad you got to experience that!! [img]smileys/smilies_01.gif[/img]

[kate1966]

Rhonda, that is so awesome...I have also met someone on here that lives fairly near me and we are planning on meeting sometime this spring...and I can't wait....i know i am going to just love this person and we already talk on the phone all the time.....and like you said....actually being with someone who is pretty much just like you...is going to be awesome!!!!!!!!!!!! I am glad you got to experience that and are feeling so good about it. Hope you are doing fine and everything is going good for you....talk to you soon...K[img]smileys/smilies_02.gif[/img]

[redapple]

i'm so happy for you guys! it sounds like you had an awesome trip and visit. [img]smileys/smilies_01.gif[/img]
i know that it's very comforting and i agree that everyone should meet
other emets given the chance. my twin and i both have it and i
don't know what i would do without having her to talk to.

[harmonygirl72]

I agree! I have met a lot of people from here in person...sadly, only one still posts (you know who you are!), but I love having so many friends that I can totally relate to! I'm always up for meeting more!


Mary

[silver]

My boss happens to be an emet too..She also has IBS so her and I can talk about things openly. She recently told me that she hadn't really told people about her fear because she felt stupid and was so happy when I brought it up. We talk openly about things and it really helps to have the support and friendship.

[ontariogirl]

It is great, a great feeling. I told her that when she comes at least I will have medication on hand just in case. Feels good that you can talk openly to someone who can relate.

[helenhd]

wow i'm kind of excited that there is another Helen on here lol

[ontariogirl]

Wow another Helen!! Only one Rhonda so far!

[sparky2004]

LOL!


Meeting Rhonda was amazing! I was very excited and a little nervous at the start, but once I could place a face to that soothing voice I hear on the phone, I totally relaxed. We have so much in common,and somany goals we both want to achieve. I still cannot get over how soulful Rhonda's eyes are. You can tell someone has a lot of inner strength just by looking at thier eyes. Not only is she a beautiful woman outside, she's beautiful through and through. If you guys could just see a picture of her and look at her eyes, you would know what I'm talking about.


The hours flew by....it almost felt like it was only about an hour that we spent together. I was only running on about 3 and a half hours sleep, lol, but I wouldn't have missed it for the world. By the time Rhonda had to go, I was almost walking into walls, drained from all the excitement. I think Rhonda and I can both say that aside from meeting a good new friend, we have both found another powerful weapon to use against our fears.


If there is someone in this forum who lives close to you, exchange numbers and talk on the phone. Support eachother. Reach out and grab that person by the hand. It is an experience you will never regret, and cherish forever.

[neesy]

I think that is great! I am so glad that you have met and it has all worked out so well. Having this site is great but to also have someone to talk to a meet face to face that knows your fears and understands them is fantastic.

[s_snow]

You are all in USA , Canada, South Amerika.


I cant go there, its to far from me [img]smileys/smilies_06.gif[/img]

[ontariogirl]

That is so sweet Helen, thank you.

[donna1216]

Maybe we should do topics on regions/areas where we are from and see if there are people close by!!! Like, I live in Kansas City, so I will start a topic "Mid West USA" or something if everone thinks it is a good idea, I don't want to do it if everyone thinks I am an idiot!!![img]smileys/smilies_01.gif[/img]

[jennyleigh1975]

Donna, I think that is a great idea. No one thinks you are an idiot!!!!

Kate-I can not wait til we plan our get together for the spring. It is definately something I am looking forward to!!!! Im also glad we talk about things besides emet!!!!

[lil_trooper]

Hey Everyone,


I'm new to this site...this is the first post i found about emet, so I thought I'd write my story here. A bit about me... I'm a 22 year old female living in the city of Toronto, Canada. I have lived with emet since I was about 4 years old. It has controlled my life in horrible ways, but I'm glad to say that I've over come half the phobia. In the past I would have rather been stabbed to death than vomit myself...but I've overcome that and that's another story... Now it's other people I have to worry about and I can't seem to get over this part. Here's where it gets complicated. I just started my career as a police officer. I'm loving every bit of and I've been on the job for about a month. The bad part... I deal with everything from drunks, druggies,bad caraccidents or crime scenes... all of which are scenarios that pretty much involve vomit. It's bad because if I go to a dead body call, I'm paranoid that my partner is going to be so disgusted at what he sees or smells, that he is going to vomit. Or the alcoholic is going to be so drunk that he's going to throw up. Or the drug user... catch my drift? No one has done it so far, but I'm counting down the days until it happens and lord knows how i'm going to react. Today I had a close call... I was locking up a prisoner in the holding cells. The holding cells have maximum security so EVERY door is locked tight and then your in this room with doors everywhere for female cells, male cells, the breathalyzer room etc. all to which are locked. Well I was lodging a female young offender and in the next room was a drunk guy who another cop pulled over for drinking and driving. Well he was having a breathalyzer done and he had to blow into our machine. He was blowing so hard that he was making himself gag. I could hear him, and even though he was in another room with the door closed, I started freaking out because all the doors where locked and I had no escape route... and we were in the basement. I managed to hide my fear so the other officers wouldn't notice, but this is something serious and I need to get over it ASAP. It has a lot to do with officer safety, especially if the s*** heads I arrest catch on that I'm an emet. Oh the games and the fun they will have with me, making my life at work a living hell. If one of them threw up in front of me, i don't think i would be able to arrest them. I also fear that if the guys on my shift find out, none of them will want to work with me because of this issue. I certainly wouldn't want to trust someone with my life if their fear of something affected their work perfomance that could involve me and my safety. *sighs* this post is getting really long, but i had to vent and was wondering if any of you guys have tried to get over this phobia... i don't really have a choice, i need to get rid of it now.


Lil_trooper

[samara's on tv]

You are so lucky to meet someone off this board. I wish I knew someone from Cleveland Ohio that I could hook up with. As far as it goes, I don't know ANYONE with Emetophobia. I did know this one lady (Who was teaching a class I was taking) And I missed a class once and lied and told her I was sick, the first thing she asked me was if it was my stomach...I said no that it was just a cold. I never followed up on that by asking her if she was an Emet but I was thinking that maybe she was. Anyway, if there is anyone from Cleveland reading from this feel free to contact me!


~Monica

[happyteacher]

lil trooper,





I live in Toronto too! You are not alone! I go to a great therapist downtown. If you are interested inhis name private message me and I'll let you know.


It's nice to know there is someone else in Toronto with thesame fears!


Welcome!


happyteacher

[ontariogirl]

I need to get this off my chest. For all the people who have jobs such as office jobs, firefighters, police officers, ambulance attendants, doctors, nurses, college students, university students and teachers & any other jobs that I have missed. To all the mothers out there who are stay at home Moms or working Moms.
To all the females and males out there.
We have this phobia, and we all agree it sucks big time! I want you all to look at what you are accomplishing or have accomplished.
Being a parent isn't easy (emet or non-emet) and when our children are sick we panic and freak out, we feel that we are a bad parents because of this phobia. We are not bad parents at all. We are there for our kids. We do the littlestthings such as run them a bath after they have been sick, we sit beside them when they are sick, bringing them water, juice whatever they want. We tend to see the negative not the positive of what we have done. Look at what you have done this far.
I am speechless when it comes to emets being nurses, doctors, ambulance attendants, police officers and firefighters because that is what I wanted to be. Out there in my community helping others. But I couldn't the phobia held me back. You have no idea how proud I am to see emets holding these jobs. I kick my ass because of the phobia, I am 40 years old and can't hold a job. When I see my friends who are cops, nurses and ambulance atten. it burns my butt. You had the power to go and trained hard for these jobs.
Look at the positives in your life or drown yourself in the negatives

[ontariogirl]

Instead of saying I can't, say I will. Instead of the what if's, do it.
We can do it

[falon_17]

Hi lil_trooper, welcome! My stepdad's also a police officer and we live in a pretty small town, there are only 4 officers, and they are all like uncles to me. I have a special place in my heart for police and firefighters (my bf's a fireman).


From what I've heard from my stepdad, he does occasionally have to deal with people v* in his car and he gets stuck cleaning it up *yuck*, once someone even had d* in his car!! All I can say is that maybe exposure to it will serve as therapy to you and you will be desensitized to it. I guess that's a big part of police work...learning to "de-tach" yourself from emotional or scary situations. I'm sure if you have the will and strength to do this job, you can deal with anything that comes your way! Good luck and know that we are here if you need anything!