Bad start to the day

[curly wurly]

Well its my daughters 6th birthday today and everything is going wrong. My husband complained of feeling ill yesterday then woke up this morning with a fever and headache. My 2 year old son is off colour and would not eat his breakfast. He had a massive tantrum when we dropped my daughter at school. I am so worried he has picked up a sv at toddler group on Wednesday or maybe he just has the same as my husband. I really hope we don't get any V*.


I feel like a really bad mum as I have had to cancel my daughters birthday tea party as my mum was going to bring my sisters children. My mum is currently having chemotherapy so we can not risk her catching anything also it would not be fair on my sisters children. I just hope my daughter does not catch it as she has a roller skating party with her school friends tomorrow. I do not like this time of year at all.

[suze]

If it's anything at all, he's likely to have something similar to your husband which doesn't sound like a stomach thing. There are so many viruses going round at the moment, but most of them are your run of the mill cold/flu types, not stomach viruses. My kids have coughs and colds, even feverish illnesses,quite frequently, but they don't get a sv that often. The chances are it isn't a sv.


And being a mother of a child prone to tantrums - in my experience, kids who are ill don't throw tantrums, they cry and get clingy. Tantrums take a lot of energy and if they're ill then they can barely muster what's requred! Also if his stomach was in anyway dodgy, he probably would have thrown up during the tantrum. Try not to worry.


Sorry abut your daughter's party. You'll be able to make it up to her once everyone else's better.


Hope you're OK though, I know it's a worry.

[curly wurly]

Thankyou Suze


I am sure everything will seem better tomorrow. I have managed to upset my husband as I keep asking him how he feels and it really annoys him. I just can't help myself. My son does not seem too bad now just a little bit pale and tired. He has eaten plenty of fruit so I am sure he does not have tummy ache.


I have arranged my daughters tea party for next week and hopefully the skating party will go ahead as planned tomorrow. I just wish I could stop worrying. I lay awake all night worrying in case my husband was going to v* even though he only has twice in the 10 years I have known him. I just seem to be so irrational as soon as something does not go how it should. But I will pull myself together and still make my daughters day special.


Thank you once again.

[suze]

LOL, men! I know what you mean though, I'm on constant alert when things like this are going on. If your husband doesn't feel sick then try and forget it, he'll be fine.


I too go completely irrational when anyone is ill or even if they don't seem to be acting their normal selves. I don't know the answer but you're not alone!

[curly wurly]

Thanks for your reassurance suze. I love my husband so much but he really does not understand about my phobia. Also he works away in the Merchant Navy for 3 or 4 months at a time so he does lead a very different life and has to do everything his way on the ship. When he comes home he still likes to organise everything. I am quite shy and usually just let him do things his way, but when he is ill and I try to care for him he always gets wound up with me and says I smother him.I wish I did not worry so much but I guess I always will.

[neesy]

Me too - Do you find that you start thinking that they are not telling you they feel sick because they know how you will react. Its just a vicious circle isnt it?


I feel terrible when some is ill with any sort of stomach bug because I have no sympathy whatsoever for them although I try and be over sympathetic with any other illness so make up for it!

[curly wurly]

Its good to know I am not alnoe.


My husband seems a bit better now so I am certain it is not a stomach thing. I think my son has probably got the same thing though he has not got a high temperature yet. He has started coughing a bit but does not seem too bad. I am suere everything will soon be fine and hopefully after a good nights sleep I will stop worrying quite so much.

[curly wurly]

Now my son has a fever and is very lethargic. What a day! I really hope my daughter does not get it. I have a bit of a headache and do not feel fantastic but I think it is probably just worry. I just hope my son does not v*. Whenever my daughter gets a fever she always v* so I really hope she manages to not catch it.

[suze]

I know it's hard for you at the moment, but it doesn't sound like a sv so that should take some of the pressure off, I hope. My daughter also throws up when she has a fever so I just keep her dosed up with stuff to keep her temperature down. At the first sign of her getting lethargic, give her what you can. I tend to give mineboth paracetamol and ibuprofen when their feverish,which means you can give them something pretty much every 3-4 hours.My GP said it's absolutely fine to do this for 24-48 hours as a fever does make them pretty miserable, as you know.


Why not let your son snuggle up with his dad in front of the tv and try and keep yourself busy. And of course post here if necesary - I'll be popping in off and on throughout the day if you want to chat.Edited by: suze

[curly wurly]

My son is sleeping at the moment, but when he does wake up t.v. sounds like a good idea. The only trouble is he is so much of a mummy's boy( probably as his dad works away so much) so he will not leave my side especially when he is ill. He is being very good though, just cuddly so I do not think it is anything too serious. I have dosed him up just to be sure though. My husband seems a bit better and is eating quite well so it must have just been a little virus which should not last too long. I'm sure my daughter will be fine she's normally quite tough. I still keep panicking everytime the phone rings in case it is the school. I have just baked a birthday cake for my daughter so I am sure we will still have a nice evening and she has got her roller skating party to look forward to tomorrow. I just feel a bit guilty that she is not having the teaparty she was looking forward to tonight.

[suze]

Aw, don't feel guilty, make a fuss of her tonight and then when her party does happen, she'll have an extra thing to look forward to. You did the right thing, so don't feel bad about it.


It's a good thing that your husband is eating, that must make you feel more relaxed. And remember, men and illness don't go so it might not be as bad as it first seemed!!


Take care.

[curly wurly]

Thanks for your advice Suze.


I feel much better now my husband does not seem so bad. My son has woke up a bit groggy but I think I am just about coping now. I can not wait to collect my daughter from school. She issuch a sweetheart. I will make sure she has a lovely evening and I can not wait for her skating party tomorrow. I have not been on a pair of skates for about 14 years but I can not wait to try again. Thank you again for your support. It has really helped.

[suze]

Anytime! Hope you enjoy the skating - I'm sure you'll get the hang of it again. Enjoy the kids tonight too - mine are with my dad tonight and even though I'm looking forward to a peaceful night lolling in front of the TV, I still miss them hugely, I just never get used to it.


I'm sure this morning was just a little hiccup, things always seem worse when you have to cancel plans, but it's for the best. Enjoy tonight and the rest of the weekend.

[californiagirl]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY to CURLY WURLY's little girl!!!!


You all have FUN skating tomorrow!!!!!!Edited by: californiagirl

[curly wurly]

Thanks californiagirl


My daughter had a nice birthday and is really looking forward to skating tomorrow.


My son is still a bit off colour and would not eat his tea, but he did eat some ice cream so he can not have a tummy ache. My husband is almost back to normal but is keeping me awake with the loudest snores ever. Looks like another sleepless night, but I do not mind as I am not worrying about v* tonight, well at least not as much as I was last night.My husband can snore as much as he likes as long as he is not ill.


Its strange how I am suddenly thinking rationally again after being in such a state this morning. Thank goodness we have not lost this site as being able to discuss my worries and being reassured has really helped me get through today. Thanks!