Need some anxiety relief,,son is sick

[tanadd2002]

Hi again...Well, my worst fear has yet happenned this week end. My 4 year old son woke up in the middle of the night last night V*ing..we made it to the toilet just fine..don't ask how I read his mind and just knew he was going to do it...but I did...he woke up this morning and was fine, ate some breakfast, drank and played all day. Then we put him to bed tonight and he V* again...and yet again...I just knew it was coming.


I asked my hubby what came out and he said the same thing as last night...Cheetos. This of course struck me as odd, because he had cheetos the night before as well and only got sick once last night, and I am hoping no more tonight. He went straight back to bed both times...


Can anyone please help me relieve my thoughts of this being a SV and maybe just Cheetos induced?

[stacyl]

Well, I have never wrote to anyone on here, and just became a member the other day. But does your son always eat before going to bed? How long did he eat before he fell asleep? It dont sound like a SV to me, as he wasnt sick today.Let us know what happens.

[suze]

Doesn't sound like a sv. Not sure what's causing it - don't know what cheetos are LOL (cereal?), but I do know that my four year old can do this - throw up once in the night, be fine next dya only to throw up again the next night. Apparently she has a 'twitchy' stomach, and when the digestive system slows right down at night, and she still has food in her stomach, then up it comes!


Try not feeding him at least a couple of hours before bed.


Oh, and well done on getting through it all!Edited by: suze

[stella9]

Let's see, if I am reading this correctly. Two nights in a row he wakes up v*** and two nights in a row he had Cheetos. It sounds like he can't eat Cheetos. Quite frankly, they are not healthy and it could one of the oils, chemicals or colors in the Cheetos that he is reacting to.


Stella

[doxilover]

That sounds very odd to be fine during the day and then be sick again during the night. Seems like the tummy bugs are getting weirder and weirder. There is one going around here where the incubation period is 1-1/2 weeks. The kids at the babysitter's had it the week after Christmas while we were out of town. The babysitter got it last Friday. My 4 year old son got it this past Friday when he was with his dad for the weekend. Now I'm waiting for the "shoe to drop" on me this coming weekend when my husband is out of town and I'm home alone. I have been so so so so anxious about it. I SO hate feeling like this. I have been praying so much for God to take these anxieties away from me but I still worry. I keep telling myself if it happens, it happens and I will get through it. But it's not working. I will worry. I've barely been eating anything and I've been on the verge of panic attacks a couple of times.


Kim

[tanadd2002]

Both nights he ate cheetos, which is an orange cheesy snack...like cheese puffs...


Anyway, he seems to be fine now. But do you think thats what is wrong with him? That is was that snack that upset his tummy? He only got sick one time on Saturday and then once last night.

[doxilover]

BTW, have you called your doctor to ask about this? Being fine during the day and just getting sick at night seems very strange. When my son has been sick in the past he's been sick for a few hours and thenit's over. I would call the doctor and run it by then to see what they think.


Kim

[tanadd2002]

I know how you feel...being anxious about getting it. I feel the same way all year long. I have emet so bad that every night before I go to bed, I say to myself "I hope my sone doesn't get sick tonight" Those are my last thoughts every night...Ugh..I hate being like this. I of course haven't had much sleep this week end. I slept in a seperate room on Saturday and again last night because my son was laying on our bedroom floor. I had to put a fan in the room with me so that I could make sure that I couldn't possibly here anything in my bedroom...just in case he got sick again.


I think I am about to lose my mind over this. I can't deal with this anymore. I don't know what's wrong with me, that I feel so incapable helping my son and not being such a nervous wreck. I need some sleep, I need a break....Sometimes I feel like I shouldn't be a mother...No mother would be this bad at being a mother...I wish he would never throw up again...Everyone tells me to get used to it..Kids get sick all the time...but I just don't think I will be able to do this all the time...So stressed...so tired today..sorry I sound like a whiny baby

[tanadd2002]

I called the Doctor and they said since he eats cheese and drinks milk fine, that it couldn't be the Cheetos. She said it sounded like he was fighting off a stomach bug. How in the heck could this be possible for him to be fine during the day and V* once at night and then go back to bed. So now I guess its time for the ol' Rubber gloves, Lysol and Clorox wipes...I am freaking now!

[tanadd2002]

Anyone out there still?

[violet]

hey hun,im around just reading what has been said,to be honest it doesnt sound like a bug to me..


If he ate the snacks at the end of the night before her went to be both nights maybe he has a little trouble trying to digest them,maybe a little to heavy for his stomach at night?


How are you at the moment?


xVx

[tanadd2002]

Well, I am freaking out of course...hubby just called and said he has diarrhea now. I am on my way home, I have to stay with him this afternoon so he can get back to work. I wish he could have just gotten sick in one day and be done with it..my luck for him to continue this into 3 days. I hope it isn't contagious. I guess I am just going to die now.

[violet]

hun listen.you arent going to die now...


Your hubby may be feeling a little stressed/tired/under pressure due to this situation at the momebt,that may have set off his bowels.


Now your son didnt have any d* and if it is a bug your hubby is only having d*,as remember kids have weaker digestive sytems from us adults which may tend to have different affects on them as they do on us.


Im very sure you will be fine hun, if you need me im on msn as [email protected].


all in all I dont think it is contagious hun,~*~hugs~*~


xVx

[tanadd2002]

Thanks for your support. I am home with him now and he says he feels a little better. My son was the one who has diarreah, not hubby...so maybe it is a bug. I am so tired of being this horrible mommy...I got on the phone today and started calling Hypnotherapists and therapists to see if I can get some resolution to this, cause this is the season for tummy bugs and I am sure this won't be the last episode this year.


If only I had a way of knowing if it is contagious, then I think my nerves would be lots better...lol


Again thanks for all your posts and don't mind me if I sound crazy...I am sure I can sound a little overboard.

[crystalmom]

You aren't crazy. None of us moms are. I think the same things before going to sleep "please don't let him get sick tonight'. It is hard, and uncomfortable, and unbearable at times, but remember that you are still going. Still being there. You are still being 'mom' no matter what. That is true strength. The one major thing you fear right now is your child. And yet, you love him and nurture him when he needs it most. You are stonger than you think. Be proud of yourself, not belittling.


<<<HUGS>>>>


Crystal


PS....please remember this if I write that my son gets a sv, b/c I'll be saying the same thing, and feeling the same things as you!!!!

[crystalmom]

PPS....I pray that my son gets a sv when he with his dad.


The phone rang this mornign phone that phone number and I wouldn't answer at first b/c I thought, he got a sv, and the ex wants to bring him home! NO! Turns out, it snowed last night, and he wanted his winter boots...lol


Crystal

[suze]

Hey Tanya, you're just a normal emet mum. The majority of us, every night, will hope that tonight isn't the night. I look at my kids every night, just to check they're acting "normally". If neither of them eat as much as usual, it worries me hugely and I'm on edge all evening and through the night. I tell you, I've lost count of the number of times I've lost sleep over this. The only time I really relax is the couple of nights a week they're at their dad's.My daughter was sick one night when she was with him, but as his hygeine isn't up to my scrupulous standards where v* is concerned, my son caught it and threw up three days later,when he was with me. And I live alone so had to deal with it, clean it up and everything...ew! I did it though, but worried like crazy for the next week waiting for "my turn"!


Now, just cos your son's got d*, it doesn't necessarily mean this is a sv. Something has irritated his stomach, so his whole system is a bit out of sorts anyway. The v* didn't sound like a virus, more just a normal childhood 'twitch' - kids are sick for many reasons, not all of them are contagious. He's v* a couple of times, and a bit of d*, even it was a sv, it sounds v mild, which would mean your body probably wouldn't notice it.


My daughter can throw up for all sorts of reasons, and has d* a couple of times a week. Saying that, one loose one doesn't mean d*, so if it isn't continuing, then you're probably in the clear.


Keep us informed and good luck!

[tanadd2002]

Wow,, you guys just made me cry. This is the first time I posted on here when someone was actually in the middle of having a V* bout, so I really needed to hear some support and you guys came through wonderfully for me. What I find so disheartening is the way my mom and husband act when they see my reaction to this. Mom makes fun of me telling me I need to just suck it up and deal with it and acts pretty much annoyed and my hubby gets mad at me and tells me to relax, he will be fine. :Eyes watering up again:


But it is so nice to hear that I am not the only one who reacts this way...and its reassuring to hear that I am doing the best that I can under the circumstances. I could have stayed at work and had my mom come watch him, but I am trying to face it and do what moms do best. Thanks guys so much! You don't know how heart felt hearing from you is!

[suze]

Tanya - there are so many people who just don't understand this phobia. When things have calmed down, why don't you get your husband to look at this site, to see how common it is, he may never understand but you might gain some empathy.


I, like you, came onto this site when my kids were sick, on November 20th. I remember it well cos it was my birthday. I was up all night with my son v*g, my daughter chippedin one lot too, so as not to be outdone by her big brother! It was the first time I had had to deal with it alone since I separated from my husband earlier in the year. It was the one thing I was dreading, but I coped. OK, so I don't want it to happen again, but when it does, I'll get on with it like last time.


You shouldn't be made to feel inadequate by your mum and husband - what you have done over these past few days is amazing and you should be proud of yourself. Even if they don't see it that way, we do here and hearing of how you coped will inspire many other mothers on this site. Good on ya!

[jennyleigh1975]

My daughter had something very similar to this a few weeks ago. She v'd once Sat. night, was fine all day Sun and Mon. and then Mon night in her sleep, she v'd once. We cleaned her up, changed the bed, and she went back to sleep. No more v* all night long. All Day Tues. she was fine. She ate, drank and played around like nothing was wrong. Then, she v'd in her bed that night. Again, only once. All day Wed. she was fine. She had some diarrhea on Tues., but that was it. Our doctor said it was a "viral infection" and that "they had seen alot of it in the office." However, no one else in our home caught it, whatever it was.

I hope your son gets better soon. Im glad that your hubby steps up and takes care of him when he's sick like that, I dont know what I would do without my hubby to handle it!!

[tanadd2002]

Thanks again...I guess when it comes to this..I don't feel like a real mom..Ya know, the mom with the cape and S on her back for Supermom...I feel like a chicken...I am always jusdging myself to everyone else and how they would handle this..I know I can only do what I can do..I just wish I had a fear of flying or spiders or something like that, something that was different than this....

[suze]

Er, I'm scared of spiders and flying too...LOL[img]smileys/smilies_04.gif[/img]

[tanadd2002]

LMAO...I didn't mean in addition too....

[gubba]

Yesterday we celebrated my sons 4th birthday and the people left our house and within one hour my son was V*ing. Too much junk!!!! I have worried all night and day that it would happen again and I realize that if it does, we will deal with it, but I can tell you this..if it is an SV which it may be, it sounds like as an EMET you could ward it off and miss it with only getting D*. You know, a mom is pretty strong when we need to be and I panic after he is sick wondering if I can get it and then I think about how selfish that is and I get a little better. How can we all think about ourselves when these little guys are sick? I know how we do it since my EMET thing is worse now that I have a kid, but I am trying so hard so that my son will never have this phobia or even know that it exists. I want him to have a normal life and this phobia SUCKS!!!


Sorry your son is sick and I hope he gets better and know that even if the Dr. says it is an SV, it may not be and could be anything.

[tanadd2002]

I know exactly what you mean by being selfish...I feel the same way and it helps with dealing with him, but it still doesn't do anything for my fear. I made an appointment today to go see a hypnotherapist. I am going to try that seen as my own things aren't working. As much as I love talking to you guys on here, I would feel so much better if I weren't dependent on you guys,,,ya know?


I want life to be easier for me, I want to be normal...as if there is any such thing...lol


Son still says tummy hurts but its better...he still has diarreah....but he is in good spirits..I wish I could make it go away for him

[purpleteacher]

One day while teaching 2nd grade, some of my kids shared a HUGE bag of Fire Cheetos and then they all started V*. It was horrible... I mean, I had 10 kids V* and they were doing it in the trashcan (that was placed outside of my door with the door shut). I started sending them to the nurse, but the nurse sent them back and eventually the principal came down and lectured my class and told me I could no longer send ANYONE to the nurse --- just let them V* and get back to work. It was horrifying...


I had to sub the same class the next day and the first thing I told the kids that morning was NO CHEETOS at lunch- no exceptions! The day went fine and nothing happened.

[aar13]

Believe me, you are far frombeing a bad mom. I am the same exact way and I think most of us emet moms are. It's sad that we feel like such horrible moms at times, but we really cannot help this fear that we have.My mom anddad make fun of me about my fear and my husband isn't too supportive either. They all feel the same, that I need to suck it up and deal with it.


How is your son now tonight? It doesn't sound like the the sv* because usually it's a few hours or more of v*ing and/or d* involved, but hey, you never know because these sv*s are so strange lately.


I hope all is well with you and your son now. I too am praying every night that my 5 year old doesn't get up in the middle of the night. It is my VERY worst fear and it happened back in November and I was in total panic for over a week. I just pray it doesn't happen again this year - HURRY UP SUMMER!

[e-lizabeth]

Today I didn't send my daughter, who's almost 7, to school because she has lice - for the 7th time (but that's another horror story altogether). So she went to my mother's for the day, and went out for lunch with my mother and my sisters, ate wings, fries, and a fajita, and then hung out at my sister's house for a while. So when I get to my mother's at 5:30 - and we have to be home for a 6:30 appointment with "The Lice Squad" - my wonderful and very understanding mother says, "I have to tell you something. Did you see the pile of puke on the sidewalk in front of my building? Well, it was her. But she's been fine ever since, and has been begging me for food all afternoon. I'm sorry that this will panic you, but I thought I had to tell you."


Seems that on the way back to my mother's, she started feeling really hot and "carsick", she said, and as soon as she got out of the car, she threw up in two spots, and then immediately felt better. She told me she'd been scared, but my sister and mother said she didn't even cry, that she was cool about the whole thing. And indeed, she was in fine form all evening, joking around while she had a two hour lice treatment.


Am I scared of tonight? Absolutely. Am I scared of myself, my husband and my 14 month old son getting it? Totally. But yet, at the same time, I feel shockingly calm.....I guess my therapist will get an earful when I see him on Friday.

[HDogg]

Wow Elizabeth! Your daughter's almost 7?! I remember when you told us she was 4. She grew up fast! Seems like you handled the situation well. I remember having lice once. It was awful! I hated all the treatments. Ugh.


But anyway, to the OP, I hope your son is okay now. If it is a bug, it sounds like a mild one. If he only v* twice, in two separate nights, the odds of an adult (especially an emet adult) getting it is very slim I'd say! I hope things are better now!

[e-lizabeth]

yup, heather, she'll be 7 in april. and the baby is over 14 months already. the old saying is true: the moments drag, the years fly.