For Suze

[violet]

I made this earlier for suze as well she was having a lil bit of a difficult time last night with her lil one.


See I do think every single mother on here are the best mothers,you see we have emet so if someone is ill or does have the feelings of being ill then we do everything we can to help yourself not get ill and you not get ill either.


See we are brilliant people, we do have the power to be amazing people,just this holds us back but we still try push through it try get there...


Better than some people who dont,who dont try who dont manage to do things like this in there live.


I just wanted to say thankx to Suze for all her help x


xVx <3

[emms]

I agree! We should all be rewarding each other for miraculous acts of bravery and heroism we didn't think we were capable of. Bravo!

[hippychick]

I agree. The home I brought up in wasn't the best one, the things I went through no child should do and I honestly believe from the bottom of my heart that as long as we are trying our very bst that no one can put us down. As long as you are coping the best way you know how then you are doing the best for your children. I once met a woman who had anxiety about going abroad and taking her kids out and as a result carried around SO much guilt with her. I told her also to try and let that go because as long as you love and do what you personally are able kids will appreciate it, especially in the long run. Xxxxxxx

[crimgoddess]

SUze.......You know I think you're the bestest! Let me know how your son's homecoming went


Catch ya on MSN when I'm done marking some badly done quizzes....oh, we have a far ways to go.


*amber*

[suze]

Aw, i blushing now. Violet, you are such a sweetheart! You know what, I'm gonna dedicate this to all the mums out there who go to hell and back with worry about v*g kids. The hardest time is when they are ill, but even the majority of time when they're well, we worry about if and when it's going to happen!


I just got on with it last night. Lost alot of sleep waiting for the second time though...which never happened thankfully! I always left my husband to deal with it, but since we separated, I've had no choice but to sort it myself. I hate it, but my maternal instinct takes over and there's no way I'm going to leave my child alone. Believe me if you're reading this and wonder how you'd cope on your own, honestly, you just do. When there's no-one to turn to, you find reserves of strength - then you get on this site at 3am and chat to Violet and Amber - a real tonic, thanks guys!


I agree with hippychick, all you can do is your best as a parent, and providing you show a child love, listen to them when they're down, spend time with them, even if it's just curled up in front of the tv with them, then you're doing a great job. My son arrived a home today after a week in Canada with his dad. He's a lucky kid and has so many experiences behind him already, but you know what, despite the trip of a lifetime, i felt his relief when i scooped him up in my arms today - he was home. I've not done much with him today, i let him play his video games, watch WWE on tv etc, just let him relax. Kids need that security so they can truly be themselves. I know I'll never take him to these exciting places, but I also know he'll never love me less because of it. He hero worships his dad cos he thinks he's fearless. He knows I'm not (he had to call in a neighbour to remove the spider from the lounge - LOL!!), he sees me get angry, upset, frustrated, all those normal adult emotions which he'll experience himself one day, and he will know they're normal and won't be ashamed of feeling them. These are simple lessons we can teach our kids about life which require little effort - we can all do them despite this phobia of ours.