Fuming - OT

[sillygirl]

So, this may sound stupid, but I am so upset right now. One of the sales people I support just bought football playoff tickets for the other two people on the team I work for. Granted, I am not a huge football fan, but the point is he just spent at least $200 on each of my coworkers just for the heck of it. What did I get - nothing. I don't mean to sound petty or anything, but why should I bust my butt to support someone when I don't get anything for it. The other two people do exactly what I do (well, one does, the other is our supervisor). There are only the three of us, so it wasn't like there were a bunch of us left out, just me. And he gave them to my coworkers right in front of me!!


I think what ticks me off more is a bunch of things leading up to this. About 6 months ago, my manager took a trip out to see one of our customers who I work with on a regular basis. It wasn't until right before the trip that I learned that my coworker (that does the same job as me and that was hired after me - I trained him) was asked to go. I was never asked. I have never been on a trip like that. Then, there was this committe set up for process improvement. The only people on it are the managers and guess who? The same guy who went on the trip. I am a kind of quiet shy person, but I am tired of doing the same job without any of the rewards (I get paid less than him too by the way).


I think this ticket thing just really set me off. Maybe it's pregnancy hormones getting to me, I don't know. Am I wrong in feeling this way? If I wasn't pregnant I would probably be looking for another job right now. I doubt I would have any luck, though, right now. I am going to have to stick it out until after the baby is born. I just want to cry! Damn hormones!

[sillygirl]

My day just keeps getting worse! I just got home and one of my dogs peed all over the kennel that they are both in right now. It smells so bad, it makes me n* when I walk in the room. Both dogs were laying in it so they are covered. They need baths, but they both weight about 80 pounds, so I can't life them into the tub or anything. My husband is at work and wasn't planning on coming home for lunch. I feel so awful! I am sitting here crying! Why does this day suck so bad?!

[tayda]

awww.. take a few deep breaths hun.


I don't blame you at all for feeling the way you do. (I would speak to this person) but reherse it first (as you may become heated and say stupid things.... I was kind of like that when I was preggo).


If not, then suck it up until after the baby is born... take whatever leave (if it's paid) that you can... go back... and if nothing changes... then begin to look for a new job.


That's not right...

[2jo2]

I know where you're coming from there.... I get treated likethe red-headed stepchild at work (professionally speaking). I work for an electric utility, but I'm a civil engineer, and all the others are electrical engineers. I have my professional license, I have 7+ years of experience, etc. but I make now after all this time the same as what the electrical engineer that was just hired right out of college started at. I state my qualifications (I'm not shy about asking for what I feel I'm rightly owed when it comes to my career) and get told all kinds of excuses. I do make a good living, love what I do and all that, but it's the rest of the bulls*** that gets to me. Stuff like you're talking about: favoring the others, scrutinizing my jobs and expenses, more of favoring the others.


I think it was extremely unprofessional for the sales guy to give them thetickets in front of you. That's just rude. Does the guy have it in for you? Is he always passive aggressive like that? I think you're justified in feeling like you do. What always makes me feel more powerful in situations like that is to try your hardest to be happy (even if you aren't, make it look like you are), do your work, put in your time, and go home. Don't participate in his head games, because wtf - who has time for that!!?? Those types of peoplemake work difficult, but don't let them see they're getting to you. Then after the baby comes, say so long a$$holes, I'm outa here.

[sillygirl]

2jo2 - that's just it - I don't think the guy does have it in for me. He has never once done anything like this. Actually, I take that back. WHen some of our customers came out for a visit, he took the guy I work with golfing with them, but I don't golf so I guess that's why. They did at least invite me to lunch afterwards. Wait, now I am rememberingother things. There was a birthday once - I don't remember whose - but everyone was invited but me. I guess it has been going on longer than I realized. Maybe I'm just too naive.


We get pretty good maternity leave coverage - 100% paid for six weeks, then I have 5 weeks of vacation I can take after that. If I start at another company, I may not get that good of maternity leave. I think I will just really start getting my stuff together, reworking my resume, etc. Then as soon as the baby comes I am actively looking. I am going ot take this as a learning experience: you have to watch your own back, especially when you are a woman. I need to be more assertive about what I want/deserve. At least I'm young enough to move on, and I haven't wasted too much of my career working for such horrid people.


I am going to announce my pregnancy tomorrow. My boss knows and a few people I am better friends with, but that's it. Since I really do no tplan on stayin ghtere long, I;m not going to worry anymore about it affecting any potential raises or promotions. I already know there won't be any anytime soon.