Have to vent

[sillygirl]

My therapist just left me a message that really ticked me off. The last time I saw her was 3 weeks ago. At that appointment, she started talking about how she thought I was pretty much "cured" which I know I'm not. She helped me with my OCD, but I don't think she ever really touched the emetophobia. I do feel like I am doing better, but I attribute a lot of that to myself being determined and trying on my own to get over this.


So, I had an appointment scheduled for this afternoon, but I have two Christmas parties to go to this week, plus my husband is graduating from college this weekend, work is absolutely crazy at this time of year, not to mention getting ready for Christmas. Needless to say, I am a little busy. On top of that, being pregnant, I have very little energy. I called her at 7:00 this morning on my way to work to cancel my appointment (which was at 5:00 tonight). She left this snotty message about how in the future she needs at least 24 hours notice because it really screws up her schedule. Maybe I am just experiencing the preggo crabbies, but she really ticked me off when she made it seem like I was inconveniencing her. She knows I'm pregnant too, so she should know how exhausted I am and I explained in my message to her what I had to do this week! Ugh. I don't think there will be a next time. Why should I keep paying her when she isn't even touching the real problem? I am supposed to call her back and reschedule, but I don't think I will.


I know this is kind of a pointless post, but I had to get this out. There is no one at work I can talk to about this, and it is driving me crazy! Maybe now that I got it off my chest I will be able to concentrate on work.

[beadgirl]

Ew ! what a brat! What if you had to cancel because (god forbid) you were sick! You can't very well give her 24 hours notice for that! I think I would be finding someone else to be my therapist. I have had therapists that were like that too. I hate the ones that have that "holier than thou" complex because they know you need them. Good luck!

[mjewell]

The therapist I saw a year or so ago didn't touch my emet either. he said something like oh yeah, phobias are common among people with anxiety disorder. I seriously wonder if he even knew what emetophobia was because he never mentioned it again.


He gave me "techniques" to use when having a panic attack. About $800 later I decided it was a waste of time...especially after I found out my insurance didn't cover it.

[japa]

sillygirl, it sounds like this therapist is not going to be of help to you. As annoying as it is, you are probably going to have to seek out a more helpful one, one that will address the emetophobia specifically. I have had one therapist who sucked, and two who have been very helpful. My friend had three who sucked and has finally find one that works. It can just take time and effort, unfortunately.

[samara's on tv]

I've had therapists like that. I hate them! My last therapist I had to give 24 hour notice if I wasn't going to see her. That was a problem because I have stomach issues and so sometimes I don't know if I'm going to feel sick 24 hours before hand. I would say DEFINATELY find someone else. It's hard to be in therapy if you don't click with the therapist. Find someone that makes you feel safe, not someone who leaves you snotty messages. A good therapist will understand if you have to cancel at the last minute.


~Monica

[2jo2]

I like my therapist and find she's helping me with all my problems, but she has the same policy! She has a little stack of papers in her waiting room that talks about it, saying she requires 24 hours notice to cancel an appointment, or she charges you for it!!! I know that having people cancelling left and right can screw up a schedule, but there have got to be exceptions, right?? Thank God I've never had to cancel, but I have thought about what she'd do if someone was ill.

[pianolover]

My therapist says this on his card too - "24 hours notice required for cancellations" - but the one timeI came down with a fever and cold and only called him about 2 hours before my appointment, he was so nice about it. I wish that all therapists would be understanding people who recognized extenuating circumstances like yours, sillygirl, but I guess this is not the case! Sorry you had a bad time with her [img]smileys/smilies_06.gif[/img]

[chicajojobe]

I have a similar story which my mom told me that I think might make you feel a little better.





Back when she worked as a florist she took half a day off once because
she had a doctor's appointment and they kept her in the waiting room
for three hours past the time of her appointment. Well eventually she
had to leave to get back to work so she did and called the next day to
reschedule, and make sure they didn't charge her for the visit!


When the receptionist heard that she'd just left she said "Doctors are busy people, you should have waited!"


Well to that my mom's response was "Okay then, next Valentine's Day he
can just tell his wife that he couldn't get her flowers because I was
waiting in the doctor's office!"

[beadgirl]

That's GREAT! Kinda like that seinfeld episode where he asked the telemarketer for their phone number so he could call them back at dinner!