freaking out

[crazybeautiful]

I'm freaking out. I'm really stressed, tired, anxious. I have alot on my mind....it all started this morning, I slept at my boyfriends house....and I came home and had to go to the bathroom. [img]smileys/smilies_11.gif[/img]That was making my stomac upset (Or I think it was that) I had a couple drinks last night which is maybe why my stomac was sore. I just went to the bathroom again and I have to work in two hours....


I am really worried this is a stomac bug...it's not going away, I'm all panicky, I have my period, I have an exam tommorow...I'm just worried now.


Help, I hate going to work like this...I'm afraid I'll get sick there or throw up there, or faint...or worse.

[gubba]

You are fine...it is a combination of all of the above things. my period causes this and alcohol does too. once you get to work you will feeel better since it will get your mind off of the SV thing.

[crazybeautiful]

I hope so.


I'm on my way to work...we'll see how it goes.

[mistyeyes]

I am going to be honest. I don't think it's such a great thing to tell emets when they think they might have a bug that is definitely isn't one. I think it is more than likely that in your case, crazybeautiful, that it is just a combination of having your period, drinking, and nerves.


But what if someone was afraid they had a bug, and we reassured them they don't have one, and it turns out that they do. I think it is better to say "It's more than likely not a bug, but if it is, YOU WILL GET THROUGH IT. You will be strong, accept your fear, not fight it, and come out better when it is all over."


I just don't think it's such a great thing to give positive reassurance that nothing is going to happen when you could be wrong. It's not about avoiding your fear, it's about confronting it, accepting it, and learning that you are strong enough to overcome it.


I hope I haven't pissed anyone off. I just want crazybeautiful and ALL OF US to get better, and I know that I personally would be worse off if someone told me something wasn't going to happen and then it did. I would feel betrayed and lose trust in that person.

[raindrop]

My mum thinks like you mistyeyes. She refuses to say
"You're not sick" to me. She says "I doubt you're ill", or
"You'll probably be okay". It's so subtle, but it freaks me
out. I immediately say "but you're not 100% sure?". She
doesn't want to reassure me, and have that undermined. It makes
total sense. All I remember from the last time I v* was my
parents telling me I wasn't sick, I just had constipation. I
thought I was going to be fine. And I wasn't. Really
horrible feeling.



My partner will say "you're not going to v*" and "I'm totally sure
you're okay" and that calms me down quicker in the moment. It
makes me feel better really quickly, but maybe it does avoid my
fear. The thought of someone saying "i reckon you'll be fine, but
do you want a bucket, just in case?" would send me into overdrive, but
maybe that's the kind of reaction I need to force me to stop seeking
constant reassurance.



It's a tough one. [img]smileys/smilies_12.gif[/img]

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[gubba]

you know misty...you did not make me upset by saying that, but I guess I like that positive reassurance even if the person doesn't know for sure, that extra reassurance can make talk meout of feeling so bad and maybe even keep me from V*ing. I can convince myself not to V* and I know that for a fact since I have felt it many times and been very close, but I keep telling myself it won't happen. Don't get me wrong..I know if i was real sick, I would V* anyway, but I love people telling me that I will be fine and I think that is actually why most of the people are here...we want an extra shoulder that is positive to lean on...I DO!!!


Why come here if it is not to feel better about the way you feel?? No one here can cure you! No one here can actually do anything for you but make you feel better and understand your fear. We are all supporting each others fear, not helping anyone get over it.

[crimgoddess]

I think I understand what Misty is getting at. It's like when one of your friends come out of the dressing room wearing something completely hideous and asks how she looks in it. Do you say "Great!!!" knowing that is the answer she is hoping to hear, or do you tell the truth?


Sure, everyone asks a question with a specific answer that they are looking to hear in mind. But in this case, is in necessarily in that person's best interest to answer in that manner when you really have no objective answer/fortune telling abilities? Like raindrop said, it does to a certain extent allows the person to ignore the situation, or put off once again confronting the fear.


I 100% agree with Misty when she says:


&lt;&lt;But what if someone was afraid they had a bug, and we reassured them they don't have one, and it turns out that they do. I think it is better to say "It's more than likely not a bug, but if it is, YOU WILL GET THROUGH IT. You will be strong, accept your fear, not fight it, and come out better when it is all over."&gt;&gt;


To me, this is providing support without providing false hope or making assumptions that may or may not be true. I think this type of support and ACCOUNTABILITY, along with the notion that there are other who know how you feel is what gives this board the potential to help. Not CURE by any means, but at least put someone in the mindset to begin/continue the process, without reinforcing avoidance.


*amber*