HELP! Doesn’t want to go to school!

[lulli100]

Hello there, I'm new here. My daughter had a bad experience and now
refuses to go to school unless I am with her (or my wife). About ten days
ago a tough boy in her (1st) class vomited several times. She's says she
found this terrible and panics at the idea it might happen again. We're lost
for an answer. Do we have to go to school with her until she's out of
college?!

Appreciative of any response,
Vincent [img]smileys/smilies_11.gif[/img]

[crimgoddess]

Hi Vincent- how old is your daughter?


Have you explained the situation to her teachers? Maybe they can arrange it for her to have the seat closest to the door, so if anything like that *does* happen again, she can easily escape.


That, and maybe sit down and have a talk with her to explain really what vomit is, why we do it, and although it's pretty nasty, it's something that we really can't control. That, and bring attention to the fact that, that was only one day out of the many that she has spent/will spend in school. It's something that happens rarely, and although it may have been scary its not likely to happen that often


Maybe instead of going with her, tell her that she can call you when she gets nervous (during recess, lunch, etc)- but that it's important that she goes to school by herself to get an education.


Good Luck!


*amber*

[e-lizabeth]

I had a similar situation with my 6 year old this past summer and the first thing I did was phone my therapist. Get your daughter to a therapist as soon as possible!!!!! You need to figure out what exactly panicked her about it. I'm sure it was terrible, but the sooner you get her help, the better.

[gubba]

Hopefully you can get her help and make it where she doesn't turn into all of us. We are so fearful of V* and that avoid it as well, but you hate to have it ruin a kids life. Get here help and figure out whyit freaked her out so much. I have no clue why it scares me so much, but maybe if I had nipped in the bud the first time I went crazy over it, this would not be like it is.


Sitting near the door is a good idea and using that GERMX stuff makes me feel better too, but try and get her help now since it just began and maybe you can end it. If you do, please tell us how it worked, so possibly we could benefit too.


Good luck and maybe tell her about all of us, but not if you think this will add fuel to the fire. This is the most supportive group of people on here that you will ever find and while we aren't therapists, we are a warm body who understands exactly what she is feeling.

[japa]

I would recommend having her talk to a therapist too.


If you can't afford the therapist, then you will have to just talk to her about it.


I wonder what you have said to her already about it??? It's true that you could explain to her about how throwing up is not anything to fear and that she is safe and fine.


What is it that she says is frightening to her specifically?