why cant this phobia just be accepted?

[rhi*]

heyapeeps, hav had a rly s**t day so am coming on here for a moan (hope u dnt mind)


y cntthis phobia just be acepted by people? my dad and my brother have always thought i was silly or stuped for having this phobia, i can remember them being like this for almost as long as i can remember, wenever the subject is brought up all they do is go on an on at me about it. saying how i could cope if i tried n wot am i going to do wen i hav kids etc etc, but i wish they wud just understand tht i having them go on at me isnt goin 2 help me get over it,.............all i need is their support! [img]smileys/smilies_06.gif[/img]


for instance last nite we were all watching 'ima celebraty get me out of here' on there they had to do lots of tasks, my dad n bro were goin on about which one theyd b most scared of doing etc, n they asked me wot mine wud be, n i sed id rather do n e of them then be in a room of ppl being s**k. then it all started! [img]smileys/smilies_07.gif[/img]i sed to them tht every1 has phobias, some r just different to ovas and none of them shud be thought of as silly!!


i no they love me to bits, and i love them both so much, i just wish they wud just accept tht ppl hav different phobias.


i wish that everyone wud accept this............and just because this phobia is one that alot of ppl wudnt be bothered about doesnt mean they shud fink were silly or pathetic, or whatever else they fink


A PHOBIAS A PHOBIA, IT DOESNT MATTER WHO YOU ARE, OR WHAT PHOBIA IT IS, WE SHUD ALL SUPORT EACH OVA WITH IT!


*thinks*.........if only people were so nice.........................[img]smileys/smilies_01.gif[/img]

[samara's on tv]

I agree with you. No one laughs at my sister because she's afraid of spiders. Well actually I laugh at her...well not really AT her as much as I laugh at her reaction. But I accept the fact that she's afraid of spiders and won't kill them. In turn she tries to accept me and my phobia. Both my mom and my sister are afraid of spiders...and I don't NAG them about it. Sometimes people just need to grow up.


~Monica

[pretty polly]

I hear you *rhi!
Its like has been said before...when you hear someone has got a
phobia against, say, grass, for example, you think what? how can
you be afraid of grass...strange person!! They are then feeling
exactly how you are feeling now! I'm not sure people think we are
silly or pathetic, they just don't understand the depth and the
strength of the feelings that we have. They don't know how scared
and anxious we get - they think we have a mild dislike of v*! Little do
they know!!!

[Babydoll]

you know, I have never gotten that reaction from anyone, and if a person knows me well, they know about my phobia.. actually most of my friends love me regardless, don't understand the problem, yet are sympathetic enough to realize that its a serious issue and they support me.


In fact, some of my friends have wierd wierd phobias, so trust me, WE are not that abnormal. One of my friends is afraid of black toilets, to the point where she aviods them at all costs, and other is scared to death of sliced bread, and Ive never evers een her eah a sandwich. I just had a friend yesterday tell me he was scared of cotton balls and got over his fear by facing it head on, and yes, he was totally serious - and totally normal otherwise.


like the last poster said, these pther phobias may seem funny or silly to us, because we dont deal with them like they do. I should mention that alot of my friends are psych majors like me, so they find it all interesting.


I always stress that it doesnt matter if people understand your phobia, its whether or not they show enough respect to you and not make fun of it.

[wing]

I know what you mean, when I start to panic, my mom gets all "Stop being ridiculous" AND then after I calm down its like "I understand" I'm like "WHAT!?" I had a talk with my mom as she keeps telling me to "why can't you just TRY to get over it?"


I'm like "Dont you think I didn't already? Dont you think I'd be rid of this already if It was not a phobia? Its a phobia." She started ranting how she's scared of things but she faces them so I bring up the topic of Centipedes. [img]smileys/smilies_04.gif[/img]I asked her if she'd like one to crawl on her and why can't she let one crawl on her. (My mom's terrified of them) so she says "Okay fine, Its just that...I dont know why you're scared of something like that.." I'm like "I dont know why you're scared of centipedes so much" Victory for me until next time lol. But I know what you mean. I love my parents so much as well but ehh.