The reason I’m here!

[*jen*]

I've never thought about looking for a group online before now. I
feel like such a terrible mother. I've been babysitting for my
friend because she lost her daycare. On Tuesday she called and
asked if I'd watch her son. Well an hour before he was supposed
to leave he threw up all over my couch. I panicked and sent my
son to watch tv in my room while I tried to deal with his friend.
I managed to get him cleaned up, crying the whole time!, and called his
mom. She asked if I could keep him for another hour! I said
no, he needs you, come now. Well last night my son woke up at 4
am sick. My husband went and took care of him, while I somehow
managed to clean up a bit and do laundry. My husband (who had to
go to work early this morning) stayed with him and everything while I
hid out in the living room. I was dreading 9am when I knew he had
to leave for work. By that time my son was asleep, but I sat
there beside the monitor getting a sick feeling in my stomach everytime
I heard him move around. When he finally woke up he was back to
his usual self, but I was so scared of getting too close to him,
because I was worried I might catch whatever it was he has. I'm
so glad that I have such an understanding husband, but I feel so
awful. I wish I could just get over this, especially when it
comes to my own son!

[Hale]

Please don't feel like a bad mother. I think if your husband wasn't there then you would have stayed with your son because you obviously love him very much, but you didn't have to do it so you let your husbadn because you felt he would deal with it better. there is nothing wrong with that. You dealt with your friends son - that is a huge achievement. Please don't be so hard on yourself. I am sure you made sure you washed your hands thoroughly and cleaned everything up so you have a good chance of being fine. I know its hard but stay positive, don't be too hard on yourself and remember we are here for you.

[dord]

Jen,


I think you should be very proud of yourself for cleaning up the child you were babysitting! I have no doubt if your husband had not been there you would have taken care of your son. Don't worry about being around your son - I really doubt you would catch anything from him as we emets wash our hands and I think Mommy's have a protective barrier when it comes to taking care of sick children and husbands. Be kind to yourself - you took care of someone elses sick child and that is huge for an emet!

[*jen*]

Thank you both for your support, I really appreciate it!

[cheerio]

Ooh, I'm not sure how I would feel about having to clean up someone else's kid. It's bad enough when it's your own. The nerve of your friend asking for at least another hour. My daughter just got over a SV from yesterday and I know how you feel. But believe me, if your husband wasn't there you would have found a way to deal with it. I use my husband as a crutch sometimes which is probably bad. It certainly doesn't help me get any better. Anyway, with each v* episode I feel more and more confident that I can get through it. I don't like dealing with it, but I manage to get through it and so will you. It's also kind of a high when it's over with because with an average of one SV a year, I can kind of relax fora bit.

[mistyeyes]

I think any mother with emetophobia is truly amazing. I am 34 and have made the decision to never have children. Emet is part of the reason, but I also have others.


As long as you are being the best mother you CAN be, you are doing a wonderful job.

[suze]

Good on you for cleaning up another child's v*! You should take that as a sign of real strength! I always left my husband to sort the kids out when they were sick, but we separated last year and I had to cope 2 weeks ago with mykids' sv. And do you know, I did cope! It was the one thing I had dreaded, and I didn't sleep a wink, waiting for each v* to happen, but I coped! Ok, so I never want it to happen again, because the thing is, you never know when it's going to happen. If I knew, I'd be prepared, it's the lack of control over it which bothers me.


Anyway, when your crutch is gone, you can cope - you did with your friend's child, and dealing with your own is definitely easier. And I didn't catch the sv - both my kids had it within days of each other but I was fine. You will be too. Good on your girl, you're coping far better than you think!

[*jen*]

I am so glad I found this place, you are all so wonderful. Thank you so much!

[pianolover]

Jen, whereabouts are you in Canada? I'm always on the lookout for other Westerners! (I live in Victoria )


And very well done with the v*! You're brave! Edited by: pianolover

[crystalmom]

Pianolover....I am a westerner....but not as far as you! I'm in central Alberta!!! Always happy to see another Canadian!


Jen...you did great! Cleaning up your own kid is hard enough, but someone elses? Whoa, big time YAY![img]smileys/smilies_39.gif[/img]


Suze....I am in thwe same position as you. I kinda let my ex deal with alot of the actual v*ing with our son. Now we are no longer together and I am DREADING the day Isaac get a sv. He's due, it's been almost two years![img]smileys/smilies_11.gif[/img] *knock on wood*


Crystal

[*jen*]

Pianolover ~ I'm in Ontario!



Thanks again everyone...seems like a very nice group here. [img]smileys/smilies_01.gif[/img]

[e-lizabeth]

where in ontario? i'm in the gta.

[*jen*]

e-lizabeth~ I'm in Thunder Bay![img]smileys/smilies_01.gif[/img]

[e-lizabeth]

Thunder Bay is beautiful but brrrr.....love your avatar, though.

[crimgoddess]

lol-


Jen, I'm originally from Sudbury, so I know your Winter pain. I've actually driven through Thunder Bay a few times- the last one being in October on my way back from California.


btw- your avatar does rock my socks


*amber*

[*jen*]

Thanks, I thought the avatar was hilarious...had to put it up!



Thunder Bay is a nice place, but yes, it's cold! Such a pain,
especially when you have a little boy who DOES NOT like getting all
bundled up.