I can be there for my kid when he v*, and it is VERY hard. But, he gets so upset, I have to keep telling him, it's ok, let it out. Plus, being a single mom doesn't help, I don't really have the choice. Once he is back to sleep or resting, I leave the room and totally break down. Panic attacks for days afterward. You aren't alone.
There was a time when I was like you and couldn't go anywhere. I'm glad that it was pre-child though. Please don't take this the wrong way, I mean this as lovingly and supportive as possible, but for your daughters sake, you need to get out of the house. I know how hard it is. Take someone with you who is supportive and makes you feel safe. I had a bad bought of panic earlier in the summer and I refused to go anywhere. Well, there was already a planned trip for myself, my mom, and my son to go to a car/train museum. I din't want to go. I figured I would have panic attcks the whole time. Although I was anxious at first, I forgot about it quickly, and after that I had no problems going out again. There are set backs (look at my example, and I haven't been like that for YEARS), but you can and you will get through them.
Take care of yourself, and don't worry, she's already been sick, so her immunity is up!!!!
Crystal
That, which does not kill us, makes us stronger!