Worsening as I get older?

[mesasa]

Hello, Folks,

I think I've always had this - when my mother was morning sick, I'd run and hide according to my father. But now I'm a mom, and it seems to be getting worse. I nag my husband and son - "Are you ok? How do you feel? Are you sure?" - all the time. I have (on at least one occasion) literally worried myself sick. I have ulcers, heartburn all the time. And now my tot just had a v. night last night. Of course, I'm doing to diagram in my head and attempting to calculate the odds on whether he had a bug or ate too much candy and whether or not me and my husband are going to be next. I can't function like this anymore. The worst thing is this: If given the choice - v. or die, I'd probably choose death. That's SO dumb, I know, but it's just how I feel. But I wasn't this bad when I first got married. He got drunk one night and v.d and I ran out of the apartment and sat outside shaking. But that was a 1-time thing. Now, from about Oct. to April, I'm a nervous wreck. What should I do?

[bexcelica]

I join you in this question. I guess we all just kinda do what we do.
We will all be worrying until April, but you knwo what? We can't stop
or skip time. We have to deal with it. My therapist said to think about
yourself at the present moment. Ask yourself "Am I hungry, lonely,
angry or tired?" If you are any of those things, either eat, find
someone to hang out with, let go of your anger, or sleep. If you are
none of those things, and are anxious, deep breathe and think of a
place that will make you feel comfortable. She said that most of the
time, we are ok. If someone else is sick, we are okay, the other person
is sick, we are not. We always just think "what if what if what if" and
not "i am okay now" because 99% of the time, we really are okay, its
just our minds playing tricks and telling stories to scare us.

[meercat]

Great food for thought, Bex :-) Thanks for sharing what your therapist said! Sounds good to me! :-)

Paula