What to do?

[mommyof3]

OK second time trying to post this. Grrrr.... I hate when I do that...LOL. If this topic shows up twice I apologize but I think I lost it.


Anyway, today I think I met a fellow emet. I was talking with this young kid at our church about how my daughter was sick a couple of weeks ago. He interrogated me about her symptoms and looked horrified when I mentioned she had v*, until I stated that she v* even when she has a cold sometimes. He then told me how much he hates v* and that he hasn't done it since he was 7 (he's 14) and knocked on a wood door. Then I changed the subject because I could tell he was getting uncomfortable. I just feel so badly for him and would like to spare him the 20 more years of misery (I'm 33) that I've been through. So my question is, what can I do to help him? Talk with him a little more? Say something to his mother? I know there are some people here that are roughly his age--if an adult emet "found out" about you, what would you want them to do to help? He's such a nice kid.


TIA

[mommyof3]

Anyone? Bueller? Bueller?


LOL

[missy77]

i'm not fourteen,(i'm 28) but i wish that when i was foruteen i had someone that i could talk to about my emet. it has only been recently(2 week) that i found all of you that i can talk to and know that you understand. i think that you should talk to him a little more if you think that he will open up to you. i know that even to this day at the age that i am i am sometimes embaressed to tell people about my emet. he may need someone to talk to that he can relate to. his mom might not know about his phobia, so i don't think you should say anything to her without talking to him first.[img]smileys/smilies_01.gif[/img]

[gubba]

Go talk to him!! Just think if you had had someone to tell this strange feeling to at that age, who knows, maybe it would not be so bad.


What a great thing to have someone to talk to about it, and at least find out that he is not a freak. I really thought I was a nut until I met all of you guys and it was a saving grace to be able to mention it. It was almost like therapy to just unload all those fears and find others who understood.


Tell him that you too hate V* and it is something that you think about a lot and se what happens.


CONGRATS on picking up on those signs.

[kel12347]

Definitely talk to him more about this, tell him about the site, and encourage him to join and print out Sage's info for his parents. When I was 14, I wish to God that someone had figured this out and actually told me parents for me ('cause I never told them until I was 18 because I thought I was insane for having this fear), but with this kid, the best route is to probably talk to him first, and encourage him to tell his parents and get help. I hope he doesn't have to suffer for as long as some of us have.

[ontariogirl]

Tia talk to him. If he has this phobia he will be so relieved to talk to you. I wish i had known someone who had this phobia when i was younger, it would have helped me out so much. Talk to him and see what he says. Knowing that he isn't alone will be weight off his shoulders and he cant get the help.

[harmonygirl72]

Yep, definitely talk to him!


I was reading Ontariogirl's response and I was thinking, "Why is she calling her Tia? Isn't her name Paula?" Then, I looked back at Paula(?)'s post and she did end it TIA. I have racked my brain, and all I can come up with is "Thanks In Advance". Is that what that means? Sorry to go off topic, I am amused easily with stuff like that!

[x hannah x]

I'm 15 years old and if anyone had told me a couple of years agi that this phobia existed I would have been sooo grateful.

[shiva]

I don't know how you could actually help him. What I do know is that 14 was the height of my phobia. I did not eat for 3 years and I was in total hell. If I would have had someone to help me out, or even to listen to me I really think it would have made all the difference in the world to how my phobia progressed. I think that age is so important because we are forming who we will become as adults. I wonder if Sage has any good advice on how to help in this kind of situation???

[chickypoo104]

i know if i was still 14 and i had someone talk to me about it i would be so happy and grateful.i am new here and i have been suffering with this since i was 6 and i am now 22. i wish i had someone to help me when i was younger. i think you should go ahead and talk to him. i would do it for a fellow emet!!! good for you

[spilled_milk]

TALK TO HIM!!!!


I'm fifteen, and NO ONE that i know in my neighborhood or town has emet. I can talk to you guys, but no one face-to-face to share my experiences. I'm sure that if I was in his position, i'd love to talk to someone like you!


<3 Anya--

[hannah33]

I think it would have been really cool to have an adult emet to talk to in person; he might not even realize there is such a thing as emet....I wouldn't say anything to his mother-REALLY embarassing. I would try talking to him a bit, not like full-fledged therapy session beacause that would be a little creepy ( again thats just me) But why don't you get to know him a bit better- and it would get you a nomination for "cool adult of the year"
Hannah

[ontariogirl]

I saw what you are talking about harmonygirl72. Didn't really see the Paula..
Talk to the boy, if he has this phobia talk to him about it, if his parents don't know encourage him to talk to them. If he does print out information about this and give it to him or his parents. This would help him out so much if he does have this phobia

[mommyof3]

LOL yes, I'm sorry, thanks in advance. Although Tia is a pretty name.


Thanks everyone! I think I will keep it casual, but maybe try to talk to him a little more the next time the opportunity arises. I'll let you know what happens.

[ontariogirl]

ok PAULA he he he [img]smileys/smilies_04.gif[/img]