Can you have this and have kids?

[gladifoundthis]

Well, I hope so, since I did. But now I worry about him getting s* every day of my life. Crazy. I worry about how awful he will feel if he v*. I worry about how terrible it is for him. I worry about how terrible it will be for me if he does. I think I saw one person on here with 3 kids, so that makes me feel better.

[gubba]

Absolutely!!!!


I havea 3 year old son and he does V* a good bit, but only 2 times from an SV..Other times are choking, bad coughs, food he hates etc. I wash my hands a lot and never eat or drink after him. The joy my son brings me is far better than this awful phobia, but I must admit that I think about it 24/7. i worry each time he eats, is in the car, goes away from home, anytime we are out shopping etc. "WILL HE V*" runs through my head constantly. My husband is an enormous help when my son is s* and I cannot tell you how that helps. My husband knows how much it bothers me and he sleeps with my son when he is not well and he comes home from work when I need him to. I know he thinks I am nuts, but he knows how I panic.


You have found a great source of support here. There are other mothers who are very helpful in calming you down and getting you through those times that you need that extra shoulder to lean on.


Welcome and anytime you need anything, you can PM me or post on here somewhere. I usually check this sitea few times a day.


Enjoy your child...they don't stay young forever and soon they won't want us to be there for them anymore.

[PhilB]

I have three kids and yes, they get sick once in a while.

Believe it or not, it's not as bad with your kids as it would be for anybody else.



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[pookey30]

Well, I have two kids. My phobia is so bad that my instincs DONT kick in. One is 14 weeks old so no problem there. The other is 3 and he has v* 3 times in the past month and a half. The last time was last Friday and he did it 7 times. I ended up getting family round before he v* and then I just got in my car and left. I cant take it. I am on meds and I just want to leave for good. I love my son so much but I really cant handle him v*ing.


Hope you have better luck than me.


Good luck


Karen


xxx

[madisonsmom]

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[e-lizabeth]

I have two kids and mostly I'm okay. There are difficult times, but I wouldn't trade them for anything. However, there was a point a few years ago when I felt more like pookey does than like I do now. Please know that there is hope and that it just is not always this bad.

[pookey30]

E-lizabeth,


You were as bad as me once..... How did you get better? I'm not coping with this. My son feels S* again and I want to go.


I do love my children more than anything. I had a son last year who was born at 24 weeks and he died when he was 3 days old so my children are so precious to me. My phobia is that bad that I want to leave. This is the hardest thing I have had to think about and I am on meds now as it is screwing with me that bad.


I have an appointment with a psycotherapist but it isnt until the middle of Feb. How did you improve your situation. Please let me know.


Desperate....


Karen

[gladifoundthis]

Wow--sounds like some of you do really good with kids, but Karen kind of freaks me out. Do you want to leave because you hate the v* act so much, or do you feel so bad that your son is sick? Because that is what scares me the most--I don't want him to suffer. So far he has only done it once when he was a baby, and I had such a freak out that my arms went numb from fright, as he was so sick--he was writhing around right before he did it, and I about died. My mom had to come over.
So anyway, if some of you are phobic and have kids, then maybe there is hope for me to have more than one. I really want a girl, but I don't know if I can deal when they get sick!!

[liriodendron]

I would have an arrangement with the mother that I will do all the
boring housework if on those occasions of sick kids, that's her
department! I really don't know what the heck I'd do in the
actual situation. Seriously, I 'd probably hire a nurse to deal with it
while the kid was sick. Then I'd hire a cleaning lady to come bleach
the daylights out of the place.

[carmagnet]

Look at it this way, it really isn't that bad to people without this phobia to be sick. I have a friend who has a cronic stomache problem and Vs at lease once or twice a month. he says it is nothing to him and never has been. I asked my son last time he was sick (8 years oldat the time in fact) what he thought of it and he just told me that it was a peace of cake. nothing to be afraid of. Don't worry yourself about how he feels if he's sick. or he'll see it and it will make him afraid too.....the last thing anybody wants for their kids is to hand them a phobia like this one.