OT: Sibling Envy

[samara's on tv]

Has anyone out there ever been jealous of their brother or sister? I'm jealous of mine...I want to BE her SO BAD! She's pretty and smart and thin and she gets to go to England next semester to study! She's always had good grades, she's popular, has a lot of friends and goes to college. I tried college and I failed miserably. I want to be like her! I want to have a boyfriend who's rich like her's is. I also envy her because she's not an EMET...she's the opposite of Emet she'll vomit at the drop of a hat to feel better. I want to be her SO BAD! But I'm just me and that's depressing. Has anyone ever felt that way?


~Monica

[shiva]

Well, I can kind of relate. My sister is tall and I can't stand being short. She's thin and I got the chubby genes. She's independent, I am not. She's educated, although I am notbecause I decided to get married at 17 instead of go to school. She has a job that pays her well. I definitely do not, but I have to keep my job so that I can go to school now and I am able to do homework at work. Also, I am able to bring my daughter to work. She has spare time, I don't. So.. I don't really want to be HER, instead I have decided that I will work on the things within ME that I can improve in order to LOVE MYSELF. Such as going to school now and being the best mom I can and doing a great job at my work, even though the pay is s*** Also, I am working hard to try to find how I am beautiful and apreciate it. I am sure that your sister is probably jealous of you as well. The grass is always greener, you know?

[*mandi*]

I am jealous of both of my sisters They are lucky they dont have anxiety problems like me. They both have jobs. Ones married with Kids. My younger sisters boyfriend is going to ask her to marry him Ive been with mine for 4 years andhe hasnt asked me yet


They are prettier than me too. They have better lives. Friends. Money. A Job. All the things I dont have. So yes I know how depressed you must feel.

[Babydoll]

well, Im an only child, and as nice as that might sound, be very thankful you have them!


I used to get so jealous because my 2 best friends used to be sisters. I would watch them and wish I had a sister so bad, because I would think there is no bond like sister's have.


please be thankful for what you have, and learn to love yourself for what you can do! trust me, your sister isn't perfect, even though she may seem that way. There are things you can do better than she can. and vice versa.


I can't say enough that If I could trade everything for a sister or brother to laugh, cry, and grow up with, I would in a second.

[samara's on tv]

Well I have two sisters and my other sister is my best friend and I always wonder what I would do if I didn't have her to talk to. I was actually supposed to be an only child because I was adopted cause my mom thought she couldn't have kids and then low and behold my sisters come along.


I know you think it sucks being an only child but I can really see the upside in that...LoL. If I was an only child god knows I would be blessed with a car...LOL!


Anyway...thanks for the responses!


And by the way...Anything I do my sister can do better...and I mean ANYTHING. The only thing she ISN'T good at is working with/around horses and I don't think she ever wants to do that...I guess it's a good thing because I can excel in it and she can't?


~Monica

[swiftette]

I'm jealous of both my brothers-especially the middle one(I'm the youngest).They both haves houses AND vacation homes and I'm stuck in an apartment. My middle brother is and always has been so wise. He never seems to make a wrong decision and me on the other hand-everything I step on turns to S**t. They both have plenty of money and I'm dirt broke and I have the responsability of caring for my elderly parents. TheyVERY rarely help out and they have grown kids where as mine are 6 and 8 so I already have my hands full enough. My mother worships my mid. brother-even with all I do for her. I feel like she's never respected me and I never lived up to her standards. I'm in a bad marriage and my dad has alzhiemers. I could really useONE good man in my life! But they're never there for me when I need them.

[s0ccer_princess]

I know exactly how you feel. Problem is, my sister is a very academic person. She got 10 and a half A*s at GCSE (A* being the highest mark you can get over here) and half an A. Problem is, the things she dislikes and is not so good at, I love.

For example I dream of being a PE Teacher when I'm older, but since my teachers know my sister, and her hatred for PE, they automatically expected me to follow suit. It's taken ages to earn their approval and prase of me, and even now they still don't see me as good at PE.

You must remember that you have your own wonderful qualities I'm sure too. You always help everyone in these forums, and that's a lovely personality trait. I'm not saying that your sister is this way for sure, but some attractive people are slightly insecure and vulnerable because they're only used to praise, and the slightest criticism could shake them entirely inside.

You're a lovely person. I know it's hard to stop comparing yourself to your sister, I spend my life trying to set myself apart as this "different person". Part of the reason I'm into PE is possibly because she isn't so good at it, I guess I was hoping it could almost be "my subject". Chin up, and remember your wualitites, of which I'm sure you have many

[aguerra29]

I agree with Babydoll. Like her, I am an only child. Of course being an only child has its financial perks. I was very spoiled. But when you lose one or both of your parents, you have noone to share that pain with. My mom passed away almost 7 years ago and what I wouldn't give to have a sister or brother to share in those memories. When my father passes (which better be in like 30 years) I'll be all alone. So, bottom line, appreciate the differences in your siblings and learn from them. I'm sure there is something about you that they are jealous about.