in need of some friendly tlk and advice

[rhi*]

[img]smileys/smilies_07.gif[/img]heya, i dnt post on here very often, but an incedent happened to me this morning and has made me very upset.


i came downstairs 2day and i was stood in the kitchen when suddenly my mum starts running to the sink and is sick right infront of me, it took me totaly by surprise and i ran straight upstairs shaking, (it turned out she hadnt been sick bcause of an s.v, she had a raison stuck in her throat and it made her sick) wen i ran upstairs my step dad decides to shout upstairs to me


"ur not ill ur mum is",


this rly upset me as he knws how scared i am of it, so i shouted back


"dnt u fink i alredy feel guilty enough? its not my fault im scared, u just had 2 make me feel 100 times worse then i already am feeling dnt u?"


and then he went to work with out spking to me. my mum spoke 2 me after and she asked me if i was ok, i sed i was fine, she sed tht lez (my step dad) was sorry if he upset me, and i burst in to tears and said how much he had, and then she turns around and says


"well me n him were just worried bcause what if u were in the house by urself with one of us, n we strted choking what wud u do then?"


im soo soo soo upset at what she n him hav thought nvmd sed 2 me, theyve hurt me so bad even finking tht, im hardly gone fricken stand around and watch one of my family die from choking on something!!! [img]smileys/smilies_06.gif[/img][img]smileys/smilies_07.gif[/img]ive been so upset all day from this, ive just come home and thankfully my mum hasnt sed n e thing to me about it, but i rly dnt wana c my step dad, i dnt want them to apologise 4 it bcause i dnt want them to think its all ok and im okwith bcause im not! [img]smileys/smilies_06.gif[/img][img]smileys/smilies_16.gif[/img]


they can both see how upset i am about it, i hate it wen ppl fink im being stuped bcause of this stuped phobia!!!! they have fears and no one finks there stuped!!! [img]smileys/smilies_07.gif[/img]i wish ppl wud frickin fink about what they say [img]smileys/smilies_16.gif[/img]


im rly sry for moaning on for ages, i jus rly need to spk to some ppl who no how i am feeling, i feel like i am the only one right now [img]smileys/smilies_06.gif[/img]


rhi xxxxx

[SimplyMe]

I'm sorry you've had a rough morning/day. I can see where you would have been scared and upset about your mom and step dad's words. It's so hard when the people we care about don't understand. On the other hand, they probably didn't mean anything hurtful, whent hey said the stuff about if they were choking. It sounds like they just arent' aware of exactly how the phobia affects you. Maybe when you are feeling a bit better you could sit down w/ them and explain that if one of their lives were at stake you'd be the first one to help and maybe educate them on emetophobia and how it affects you. I do know how bad it feels when people think you arent' capable of anything because of this phobia but usually a bit of explaining helps. Hope this helps you andt hat you are feeling better about this. We are always here if you need to vent.

[bexcelica]

im sorry too that you had a bad day. im sure that they wont fret over it, and itll be okay. its not your fault that that kind of thing upsets you so much, i would have done the same thing. i promise you that. and when my dad was sick and had to go to the hospital, he almost passed out - he was staggering around and what not- thank god i didnt see that because i wouldnt have been able to drive him to the hospital - luckily i was asleep... my mom was hme too. thank god. anyway, just saying i know how you feel and youre not alone

[tcsarah]

It was an upsetting morning for all of you. Your mum must have been in a bit of a panic, your step-dad too, if she thought she was choking. People say things without thinking when they are upset, I guess for that moment they were thinking about themselves and not how you felt. It is also very difficult for people to relate and understand just how scary it is having a phobia if they themselves don't have phobias. They probably don't realise to what extent your phobia really does upset and effect you.


You are right to feel hurt by what was said to you, I would have been the same. But know it wasn't said deliberately toupset you, the people who live with phobics do get frustrated with us at times and can say hurtful things. It's best not to dwell on it, either try and forget it or sit them down and talk to them about how they made you feel, and try and make them understand more about just how severly this phobia effects you.