O/T Need Reassurance

[emms]

I hope this finds you all doing well!


This is an off topic rant, so please ignore if you want! I am completely stressed out now. I have never felt like this. I am the executive chairperson for our town's First Annual Charity Gala...an event for 525 goverment officials and political heavy weights. I am practically planning this by myself and now, after 6 mos of planning, it is 2 weeks away. I am so stressed I have not slept (more than 2 hours) or eaten (more than a bit or two) in about two weeks. I'm overwhelmed to say the least, as this is the first year for the event. I cannot breathe, my heart is constantly pounding, my tummy is doing flips (not to mention the d*), my memory is GONE. I just don't know how to deal with this!


The next stressful thing is I am a closing coordinator for a construction company and I have 14 closes between now and the end of the month. This is in addition to the Ball...(the comittee was origianlly lead by my boss, and he now, in regular form, has made it part of my job desciption to do it all). My first two are today and one of them is about to go to hell. This is just crazy.


Next stressful thing is my relationship is disingrating in front of me. Maybe it's because I've been far too preoccupied with work?!? I have not spoken to my significant other in a week and I don't know if I want to. I'm just so overwhelmed. He doesn't work in a stressful atomesphere and doesn't understand why I don't just quit. I can't quit without having something to go to.


If anyone has any suggestions for coping with any of the above, please let me know. Thanks in advance for any and all replies!


Wow. I know this one is all over the place, I just needed to get it all out. Thanks for reading!


Mara

[jesskali]

Wow--sounds like you DO have a lot of stressful stuff going on right now! I honestly do not have a lot of advice because I'm experiencing some major stress in my life right now and I'm having a hard time coping also. I could tell you to do all of the relaxation techniques, but you probably already know about those and it probably wouldn't change your situation a lot.

Concerning the ball--I would just outright ask someone for some help. You shouldn't be expected to plan the entire thing and surely there is SOMEONE who could assist. As for your relationship--I think it is difficult for someone who has a low stress job to truely understand what you are dealing with. Maybe you could start looking for another job? I don't know you're entire situation, so that is a lot easier said than done.

One way or the other, I hope everything works out for you. When all of this is over, try to relax and do something nice for yourself!

Jess

[emms]

Thanks, Jess. If you need anything, please let me know!


Mara

[bexcelica]

hey emms, i think you should just continue truckin girl... do what you gotta do and youll be stronger afterwards. if it is making you too stressed out, make surer you find a little while for yourself, or maybe your sig other. either way, make time for YOU and what makes YOU ahppy. good luck and if you need anything aim: bexcelica, email [email protected].

[eekelsey]

Hi there,
I'm new to the forum, I actually just got up the nerve today to google this
phobia and I was scared the word for it was going to freak me out
haha...I'm doing really well reading about it, and I'm glad to know there
are other people who have this random thing affecting their life... but I
don't know how many of these topics I can explore since *it* seems to get
mentioned a lot... I'm all for openness but I am NOT READY to hear any
graphic stories about this.

I'm also a little different I guess because I mainly get upset thinking about
other people getting sick... I can't relate to the story in the FAQ about the
boating club lady not being able to help in a crisis, because, haha, I would
NEVER get on a boat. Waaay too much chance of someone else getting
sick.I may be able to control myself, but some of the statistics I've read
today about how often other people get sick compared to me has actually
almost reinforced my particular type of this phobia.

But, I DO know about event planning!I am an lobbyist's assistant and I
plan events like the one you're discussing all the time.The best thing to
keep in mind about these events is that even if they don't go off perfectly,
no one ever notices but you.There aren't enough name tags, or
someone mentions at the last minute that there is some long-winded
legal protocol that prevents you from doing something you were planning
to do in the program, or a speaker talks f-o-r-e-v-e-r...The main thing
to remember is that legislators and politicos are normal people, and
really, they just like to talk and be recognized (as in, make sure if
someone has a title they get it! Some people think you can call both
Senators and Reps "The Honorable" on a name tag, but this is just for
formal letters and the Senators get pissed!).You will be fine!