This Winter lets try something different.

[hippychick]

Ok I know that winter is a stressful time with all the illness etc etc but I have to just say this. I'm utterly sick of the threads starting already about how "its going around again" or "it's that time of year again" or whatever else people say.


Firstly did the SV honestly ever go away? Not trying to scare people here but you know thats how it is.


Secondly I never EVER feared the winter for a SV, I never even noticed the increase before now I do.


I'd lie if I said I wasn't nervous because believe me I am, especially since my family is prone to the SV quite badly up here, and cos they are all close they ALL get it. But I can't cope with the influx of "Watch out its winter" threads.


I'm not sure what I am suggesting, maybe I need to take a break. All I know is I would love to see more positive threads. Winter is hard for me anyway with SAD, this is my first one in Scotland, I'm nervous as it is without the scaremongering threads. I'm sure I'm not the only one who feels this way? I'd just love to create a more supportive happy, positive enviroment over the coming months, than somewhere I dread to be.


I'm sorry if anyone is offended by this, maybe I just need to bow out over winter but I cannot handle the threads. I understand completely that those panickign need to post it here. But this winter is scary thing really gets me down every year I am here. Even in the summer it was "winter will be back soon" "my kid has a SV" "2months til winter".


Again, I dont want people to feel they cant post their worries but can we please try some positive threads too??? For my sanity at least LOL


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[emily7]

hippychick





i think your right...the winter was always my worst season and i considered the coming of spring as safety. This year I was blasted out of that thinking. I got a sv in april and my gf got one in may. I personally would like to get thru this winter w/oout the depression the season brings.





Trust me if I am the one panicking I know i will post a "negative" thread, but I want to try to do that if only its a nessacity.

[babygap5]

We should all focus our energies on eating healthy, taking vitamins, and getting plenty of rest. That should help our immune systems to make us stronger in fighting off any potential virus. I agree, no more "IT'S WINTER AGAIN, MORE SV'S!!" Instead, it should be "YIPPEE, IT'S WINTER - TIME TO MAKE THE SNOWMAN!!"





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[madisonsmom]

I agree. Instead of the 'what if's' lets talk about positive things. If I get scared if I am around someone sick though it does make me feel better when I post.

[mommyof3]

I'm sorry I think I'm one you mean; I postedthis weekabout my daughter being sick. It's just that I recently found this site and it is so nice to confide in people with the same issues. I was really having a major'freak out' lol. ButI've been trying really hard to reply to other peoples' posts because I don't want to be one of those people who visit a site and post only on their own troubles. But you are absolutely right--I don't think I would be able to come here regularly if every thread is doom-n-gloom. I will make an effort!!!

[emily7]

mommy of 3, no one is singling you out dont even worry. we are all guilty of being panickicy. I, sometimes feel i am the worst of them all. as a group we need to improve. just try to think happy thoughts!

[hippychick]

Oh no I wasn't aiming it at anyone in particular. Everyone has made these kinds of posts before. I've been here for...3 winters now I think and every year it's the same and I just....this year I am going to be struggling so I know I'll post, but I'd love some more positive posts too because I just need to try and keep my head positive you know? And it's esp hard because I moderate so I have to read the posts. Not that I mind moderating, thats cool but it means I can't just ignore them. I just feel like this winter I'd love some more balance. And thanks for the nice responses, I didn't want people to think I was saying not post, i'm just saying....can we try and have a balance is all.


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[shiva]

I think this is a great idea, hippy chick. So many people have left in the past year because eveytime they come on here to look for strength, they end up having anxiety about what's going around. I have definitely been guilty of this kind of thread as well, it's just the way our emet minds work. However, it will be a great way to challenge our little emet minds into a step in a more positive direction. Seriously, in order to grow and beat this thing we have to challenge it and our thinking everyday. I think this is a great step into the right direction.


I have to admit, when I started coming here I would read the posts where people would talk of the sv circulating and then find out where they were from to see if I was "safe". Well, that was extremely illogical since it's always out there, in every region. Doing things like I was is exactly not a good way to conquer a fear, and I want to stop because I want it to stop.


Do you think though that we should open a thread for people who are possibly like about to lose it because maybe they had one of those days where 5 people were out of the office puking and 10 kids were missing from their kids class, then while at the grocery store they saw some in the parking lot and overheard the nurses at their child's well visit talking about how it's really bad??? I mean, because I know after a day like that I would NEED to come here. And these days definitely happen. Is that bad, though? I guess the main idea would be for every one to try to challenge their way of thinking and not pay so much attention to this stuff. I dunno. I do think it's a good idea, though. I just began to wonder if people having really bad days would be losing support that way... But, I have to admit, my anxiety has worsened in the last couple of weeks since sv posts have been more prevelant here.

[hippychick]

Well I started work on re-arranging the forum. Now all emet "Will I get sick" posts will be in one forum and all other threads in the general forum. This way I think for those of use who need reassurance we can go and get it and on the days when we can't face any SV related talk we just don't have to face it. Because I absolutely want people to feel free and safe to post when they are scared, I just also want people to feel free to be here without being panicked and I think the seperation of conversations will help a lot with that.


That way everyone just takes in what they personally can handle on that day, and I don't think anyone will lose out. What do you think?

[shiva]

That sounds perfect! Great idea.

[Galadriel]

Thats a good idea Hippy Chick, for a forum to post SV worries and such, like a winter SV forum or something. One thing though I tend to just come to the General Discussion (I know I should look at the other boards more too) its just thats where most people post. Still though it is a good idea for those who want to steer clear of the SV worries and tales this winter.

[hippychick]

Well if you click Active topics at the very top right hand, you can see all topics posted since you were last here and that way you don't miss any out. I think there will end up ebing only 2 main forums, General and Experiences and.....you can look in both or one or whatever you like you know? Most people do go to general but it gets cluttered too which is no help LOL But anyway, if you click active topics you can see all of them no matter where they were posted so you dont miss out. Hope that helps.

[Galadriel]

Hey Hippychick!


Thanks for pointing that out! I am rather ignorant about things like that, and you would think that after 3 years of being on here I would have realized what that was! I didn't even think to use that!


That does sound like a good idea to have 2-3 main forums to talk in, maybe like general, experiences, and hmm one for SV related stuff? Its hard though to confine all the anxious/panic/SV threads into one forum because its emet we all deal with. Hmm...

[SimplyMe]

Great idea hippychick! maybe we could make a post for holiday baking? It's something I do every year and would love to share and get more recipes, kind of corny but definitely more cheery lol.