scared

[bexcelica]

hey. so this lady i know is in the hospital with terminal cancer. i
want to go see her but im so scared ill pass out or something. the
reason i say this is because shes really bad.. her eyes roll back in
her head, she cant breathe, she has tubes hooked up everywhere and she
lost so much weight. i havent seen her since she was well.. im scared.
should i go?

[japa]

Is she not conscious? If she's not, then it would just be up to you whether you want to see her, I'd imagine. Plus, she would be in a much different state, and maybe you don't want to remember her that way.


One of my professors died of cancer in April 2005, and it was mostly kept a secret. She sort of disappeared, and then the department told us she was in the hospital via email on a Saturday. We were able to drop off cards but not see her. Then, she died that Tuesday morning. I sometimes dream about seeing her one last time.


Edited by: japa

[crazy_me_84]

hey, I know how you're feeling. Like japa said, you might just want to remember her as you do now, not in such a bad way. I've been trough similar and when things had happened, I prefered to keep my memories as they were. If shes conscious and aware, she might like to see you? Its a difficult decision I know. Seeing people you know in such a bad way is such an emotional feeling. its tough but I'd say go with your heart. be brave.


xxx

[bexcelica]

well guys i went. and it wasnt as bad as i thought it would be.... it was still bad.


i thought i walked into the wrong room beczause it looked NOTHING like her. it was sad. she wasnt really talking, although she didnt manage to sing "yahoooooo" from the yahoo commercials. her eyes were rolling back in her head, not like i expected though. she was just trying to stay a3wake. i pictured like some possessed looking eyes. she isnt going to be around much lognr, but im glad i saw her. her husband nd two kids, who are around my age, were there. they were happy i came.


thanks for your suport