What is it about v*ing?????

[crazy_me_84]

Hey all,


I wanted to find out why we all find v*ing so terrifying... I'd say its everything about it- the feeling beforehand, loss of control, thefeeling while it happens, smell, taste... hmm... I'm sure theres more.


I'm trying to work out why I'm so scared of v*ing- I know its not life threatening, it doesn't necessarily mean I'm seriously ill... but why am I scared- or absolutely terrified more like?????Yes I also think its the loss of control, but whats wrong with a loss of control of a normal, adaptivebodily function? I'm trying to work this out. Maybe ifwe could work out these answers,we would be able to rationaliseour thoughts????? What is it about v*ing that makes us sooo scared of the deed? [img]smileys/smilies_12.gif[/img]. I need help to think of possible reasons... hmmm...


xxx

[nobodyknowsit]

Well sometimes traumatic events that happened before, during, or after a time we v*ed in the past that aren't even linked to the v*ing can lead to this fear...but that's about all I can say as to WHYwe are afraid..


What I fear most are the feelings that happen before and during v*ing, not so much the v*ing itself.


I have OCD, so when I feel out of control, I start praying non-stop..because that's really about all I can do to feel as though I'm in control..stupid though..


Hope this helps!

[samara's on tv]

Actually what I can't stand is SEEING the V* after I do it. Also I can't stand the feeling before hand. I remember the last time I V*ed I freaked out when I saw what came out of me...is that weird? Am I the only one who freaks out about that?


~Monica

[peachfeet]

I wouldn't mind vomiting if there wasn't the retching - yuck!

[sheri-baby]

for me i'm pretty sure it's the nausea beforehand...i wanna die when i'm nauseaus!!!!and then maybe the not knowing how long or often i will be vomiting

[tcsarah]

For me I think the major worry is what people will think of me - that they will find me gross or something. I guess it's because when I have seen people v* in the past, afterwards it's all I could think about when I saw them again and they would somehow give me the ebejeebees, stupid I know. Of course, the actual act of v* is horrid, but I have coping strategies - flush the loo or run the tap so v* sounds can't be heard, close my eyes do 'it' then flush so I don't see anything and clean my teeth to get rid of the awful taste straight afterwards!

[crazy_me_84]

Hey! thanks for your replies. I think the feelings before are probably worse than the actual deed too. its a horrible feeling not knowing when and if it will happen and how many times, how long or how much is going to come out... and also seeing it, so Monica, its not wierd. To see how much people's stomachs can hold gives me the shivers! yeh Sarah, I also think people will think I'm 'dirty' or disgusting if I v*... I mean, I would think the same and avoid that person- I'm such a wimp!


Whats wrong with the loss of control though? I still can't work it out! [img]smileys/smilies_05.gif[/img]


xxx

[samara's on tv]

All I know about loss of control is this. Through like my WHOLE life my parents have been really controlling of me. Like everything I did, everywhere I went, EVERYTHING! Now I'm on my own and I want to control every aspect of my life. I remember being in highschool and smoking. You see my parents couldn't stop me from doing it. They could take away my cigarettes, they could tell me not to smoke IN or AROUND the house, they could yell at me all day long but as soon as I got to school I could just get another cigarette. I need to be in control...I don't know why but I just NEED to be in control! That's also why I hate just RIDING In cars because I have no control over what happens...I mean what if there was an accident? I don't know what it is...I just know that I need to have it!


~Monica

[crazy_me_84]

hey Monica, its same for me too. I just need that control, in every aspect of my life. My parents were also very controlling and food was the only thing I felt I had control over... I'm working with my therapist on my need for perfection and control though, in hope that emet wouldn't be so bad if it was because a fear of loss of control... eek!


xxx

[snowangel]

For me it's losing control. Having absolutely no way to control such a terrible thing that is about to happen is the worst thing imaginable to me.

[guineaash]

for me it's the loss of control and the embarassment

[gumdropper1]

I think what people find unbearable about vomiting is what happens to their mouths in the process. I did a poll on my web site http://faq.emetophobia.net about a year or so ago, and asked the question of emets, "Would you still fear vomiting if, instead of your mouth, the vomit came out a special orifice, perhaps in your chest?" More than half of people said they wouldn't fear it at all, and the rest said they'd still fear it, but not as much. No one said no difference or that they'd fear it more. So I think that's really the key to emet.


Peachfeet, what is it about retching that gets to you? Isn't it the same as hiccups?

[crazy_me_84]

I also think the violence of v* that gets to me too. The retching is just as bad as v* itself. when my period comes, every few months, I get severe pains that leaves me retching- big time. Its sooooooooo awful and I see italmost as bad as vomiting... same as peachfeet, I hate the retching... but why?


do youall think that if we didn't have such a great need for control, we wouldn't have thisphobia???


xxx

[crystalmom]

I'm going to day the n* before, but what really gets me, the most out of it all....(gross moment)....is if it comes from boths ends at the same time and it is impossible to control. It always happened to me as a kid, and even now, it has happened to me on occasion as an adult. I HATE that. I think if I knew it wouldn't happen, I would feel better, but not cured, that's for sure!


Crystal[img]smileys/smilies_11.gif[/img]