help!

[bexy's dad]

Hi Im Bexys Dad


I have just sent my doughter to school in tears because one of her lessons today is P.E. and the last lesson she had one girl said she felt S*** .


If any body talks about this subject she has to laeve the room we recently went on holiday while we were on the plane the stuerdess came along and asked if we had any s*** bags in our seat pocket in front of my doughter. If she could have opened the door to get of the airoplane she would have.


Bexy is only 12 so she is not alowed to use this site but I may let here read the posts and if she has anything to say I will monitor her replys.

[norrok]

howdy bexy's dad


im kinda confused on the question, but i understand how she feels, on the emet side, just talk with her about it, try and calm her down when she thinks she is going to v", and expect alot of sick days of school :P - i think what made my phobia worse was working/going to school with people that felt ill and/or v"ed in the office/college grounds.

[ontariogirl]

I understand. I remember being in public school at her age and if I heard a student saying she felt sick, was sick or came back to school after being sick the day before I would bolt!! I would just leave the school. This is very hard on your daughter. You can console her and tell her that everything will be ok but in the mind of a emet she won't 100% believe it.
When did this phobia begin for your daughter? Have you tried to seek proper help for her? By proper help I mean a doctor who specializes in the field of phobia's.
I think back to the hell I went through when this phobia began for me (9-10 yrs.old) and thinking all I wanted to do was run away from it all. I can imagine what your daughter is going through.
Please have patience for your daughter; you see when this started for me there was no "phobia's" on the doctors mind they didn't know what was wrong with me.The doctors were losing there patience with me andmy parents to, to alittle girl who doesnt know what is wrong with her, who was teased by fellow students, who is petrified of being sick and being around anyone who was sick was a terrifying and lonely time.Now that this phobia is well known around the world parents can be well informed about it. With your daughter being so young there is a chance for her to beat this. Show her your love, be there for her and if she wants to be alone give her some time. But please look for some help for her, it will help her so much.

[tcsarah]

The really positive thing is, you know all about your daughter's phobia and she can talk with you about it and about all her fears and anxieties. I kept my phobia a secret until I was about twenty-one and eventually confided in my therapist about my absolute terror at the though of v*. I then told my close friends about it and now I feel comfortable telling anybody! Being open about it has been a big help to me and I certainly feel better for it. Knowing there are other people out there who feel exactly the same as me helps too.


What I would advise is to sit down with your daughter when she's panicking about things and to encourage her to talk about how she's feeling, what her biggest fears are etc. Your support and sympathy will help her a great deal. Just knowing she has you there as her 'rock' who she can tell her problems and fears to will help her no end.


Give your daughter encouragement to try and face her fears (like today when you sent her to school), but don't force her to do anything that would be tootraumatic. Tell her you are there for her whenever she needs you (you probably already have!), whenever she needs to talk you are there to listen, and you will support her in any way you can.


How lucky Bexy is to have a dad like you, good on you for trying to find more out about this phobia. Not all parents are as supportive as you about these things, I know some young people here have family who dismiss their emetophobia, with comments such as, "Oh don't be so silly", or "Pull yourself together" or similar unhelpful and hurtful comments. Being there for your daughter will give her strength to cope with her anxieties and fears, and help her fight this phobia and lead as normal a life as possible.


You may find reading the treatments thread helpful: http://www.emetophobia.org/forum/forum_topics.asp?FID=8


Tracey

[sage]

Hi,


Please be sure to to to the Treatments section and read the sticky post (or print it out - even better) entitled INFO TO GIVE YOUR DR. OR FAMILY. Also HOW TO GET PROFESSIONAL HELP.


I would not recommend allowing your daughter to come to this site, especially at her age. I find that the people who do best with this phobia come here to the site, get the information they need to be reassured they're not alone, then leave and get treated. Those who linger often cannot afford treatment programs, aren't ready to enter them, or have had bad experiences with psychotherapists (which is unfortunately very common). I hang around here to help others as much as I can. But honestly, continually reading the anxious posts on this site could make a young girl worse.


Cruise the site yourself, grab the very best information and print it out for her. Then get her (and preferably your whole family) into a good treatment program along with family counselling. Spare no expense. This illness, left untreated, can be as serious as something physical for your child - it can completely ruin her life.


Good luck to you!

[bexy's dad]

Thank you for all your replys I will hang around and learn as much as possible.


Good point Sage I will not let Rebecca look at this site it may have the oposite afect than Ithought.

[spilled_milk]

Hi bexy's dad!


I'm Anya and I'm almost fifteen...and I know exactly what your daughter is going through. For me school is one of the worst places to be concerning v*...just because there are so many kids. I've had the phobia since i was about 3, and so school has always been difficult...but through the right therapy I have learned to handle my panic attacks at school. I think that you should definitely look at the treatments sections, so that if you choose to pursue a treatment you will know the different types and start to figure out which one would be the best for bexy. The best thing you can do though, is just be a supporting dad. When I go through panic attacks and worries, if my parents are calm and rational and supportive i find that i deal with it a lot better than when they get frustarated, because it just gets me more upset. good luck!


<3 Anya--