I am upset about this.

[jennyleigh1975]

While I was subbing today at my childrens school, my husband went and picked up his nephew at school who was sick. Guess what he did at school?!?!? He vomited!!!! I am so upset that my husband went and got him and that he brought him to our house. Luckily he did not vomit at our house before his dad came to get him. I wish my husband would have just taken him to his brothers house, they only live 1/2 a mile down the road from us. My husband even let his nephew play on the computer while he was here. I feel like my house is contaminated and I dont even know what all he has touched ect ............... Dont get me wrong, I hate for the child to be at school sick, but my husband knows how I am. I talked to his dad, and he said that the doctor told him that he had all this sinus stuff in his head, ect ............ but that he had also seen alot of the same illness coming in from our area. The fever, vomiting, and the sinus stuff. The doctor told them he doesnt think its a bacterial infection, just a viral infection. I dont know if that means stomach virus or what. He hasnt vomited since that time at school earlier today about 1 pm. I just hate all this stuff. I feel like hubby didnt respect my wishes to not bring sick pukey children to our house that arent ours. He was like, well, what if it was one of ours, and who else should have picked him up? He has grandparents right here in town for one, and secondly, there is a nurses office at school for sick children, he would have been alright there until his daddy got home. Thirdly, if it was one of my children that was vomiting, I would only call my husband or his parents, no one else. The only way I would call someone else would be if I was more than several hours away from them. I make it a point to try and never be in the position where I would have to call on someone else, especially someone else with children. I dont know what I am more upset about, my husband not respecting me in this, or worrying about my children getting whatever he has. Am I sounding too un-reasonable?

[tcsarah]

No you are not being unreasonable, I would feel the same. And I know my fiance would probably have done the same thing as your husband, giving the same reasons and looking at me like I was the most awkward, uncaring person to let my emetophobia interfere with looking after a sick child. The thing is they just don't understand how we feel as they don't suffer from it.


Last year, we were waiting for my fiance's seven year old daughter to be dropped off by her mum at our home as she was coming up to stay with us for a week or so. They were running late, then we got a phone call from his daughter to say she had v*ed during the journey and that's why they were running late. She never gets travel sick so alarm bells started ringing. When she arrived she had messy clothes from the v* and announced that she also had diarrhoea, and had done for the last two days. I was so scared (and angry her mother hadbrought herup when she was obviously suffering badly with diarrohea and sickness), but my fiance just got irritated with me and gave me the silent treatment. She was quite bad all week with diarrhoea, my fiance had to take her to see his doctor, but as luck would have it didn't v* whilst she was with us. It was one hell of a week though, and I was convinced I would catch the stomach bug she had (especially since she's a very cuddly girl and is always snuggling up to you and kissing you, bless her). I survived though!


Anyway, hope you and your family manage to avoid what your nephew has.

[shiva]

Didn't this happen last year, too? Toward the end of the school year? I would definitely be upset as well. You're just going to have to put your foot down and let your husband know that it simply causes you too much anxiety and it is not to happen again... period. Good luck with that.


I am sure you lysoled everything and that you are taking all the precautios measures as to not get sick.. If he is having sinus issues, it is highly likely that's what caused his vomiting.. especially since he didn't get sick again. Try to keep calm. But, yes.. you have every right to feel disapointed by your hubby. Sorry this happened to you

[jennyleigh1975]

Yes, this happened end of last year too. I have tried to talk to my husband about how I feel, but when it comes down to it, he's not gonna leave one of his brothers children at school sick. I think alot of how my husband is about all this stems from some things that happened to him when he was a child, he and his brother didnt have the best childhood. If his brother would just give him a key to HIS house, so that atleast if my husband does go get one of his children, he wont have to bring them to our house.

[kate1966]

Well Leigh.......it sounds as though you are really being tested here....alittle too much though...you would think that husband of yours would realize how fearful you are of this and respect your wishes...but then again...you know how men are....not like us at all...I hate like heck you are dealing with this again so soon....it sucks for sure....just clean the computer and all the doorhandles and lysol the crap out of your house and you and your kids should be fine....i hope so anyway...good gosh...this is the last thing you need now...I will be thinking of you and let me know if there is anything i can do....Kate

[jennyleigh1975]

I have cleaned what I can, my husband said all the his nephew did was play on the computer, he didnt use the restroom or anything. So atleast thats good. All I can do now is wait and hope. We are supposed to have a family supper together tomorrow night, I sure hope no one is sick, and I am not looking forward to making hubby upset and the rest of his family mad if I dont go, and I dont bring the children. Hubbys family is the kind that will mix and mingle no matter what is going around. They live on the philosophy that if you are gonna get you will .......... know what I mean. Im sure you guys know ppl like that. Of course, IF I dont go, they will make me look like the fool. Huh ............. My children are even off of school today AND Mon. I so wanted to be able to enjoy this time off .................... now I just have this thorn in my side.

I HATE THIS!!!!

[ontariogirl]

You are not unreasonable Leigh, not at all. I can really understand you especially now as I type. Didn't you go through this last year with the same kid? Spray your keyboard and mouse that is what I did. I will come back on later and see how you are!

[ontariogirl]

Why do they keep calling you guys to get this sick child? Same one from the last school year?