does it really affect relationships?

[wintergreen22]

i'm scared no one will understand what I'm thinkin when I have a panic attack or justget tired of me when i start to cry or when I need to leave or when I start flipping out. My mom doesn't have any patience with me and just tells me to "resolve it, Jess!" as if I could. If it was that easy I wouldn't have this problem in the first place! She acts like I enjoy feeling sick or being scared of something I can't control, that I enjoy not being able to hang out with my friends on certain days or as long as they can. Its not easy walking in to a department store or where ever I am and being terrified that someone is going to start retching. I'm scared that people that I'm close to will eventually get tired of me needed help and will eventually stop listening and begin ignoring me. I don't blame them. I don't want to miss out on anything because of this. and what if I find someone that is perfect for me but I get him all upset with me cause I get so freaked out if I'm feeling sick (which is often...do you guys feel sick often as well?) and I keep crying and panicing that he leaves cause he can't take it anymore. do statistics say that we have a higher chance of ending up alone? that makes me a bit sad... what do you think?

[ilsonchick]

I always think that i was thinking it on saturday day time when i was home alone all day! Everyone was out with someone doing something and there was me on my tod bored and no body to call up no friends ect..


I always think im going to end up alone - i cant explain the feelings of how i feel to people there that deep and off this planet when it comes to my fear and panic attacks - if i was given a choice to slit my wrists or puke up i wod slit my wrists thats how bad the emet has made me! It makes me sick (pun not inteded!) when i see people going around their daily businesses and i just cant do it! without thinking - whose feeling ill today? do they feel sick? sick enuff to be sick? am i going to catch the bug theyve got? I always think WHY ME"!!!





My bf, mum, dad and bro put on a "front" where there nice to me over it for a certain lenght of time then when thyre finally fed up with the constant everyday nuisance of me saying im scared and constantly crying they just end up snapping at me "SNAP OUT OF IT SARAH!" and im like I CANT! this feeling will never leave me why cant people understand this and respect me at ALL TIMES not when they want to and up to a point where there pissed off at me cause its not my fault at the end of the day i blame whoever invetended vomit! lol because if there was no such thing as vomit i wodnt be here now id be living in austrailian or travelling the woruld with not a care in the world with 1000 of mates! I cant even go to a theme park or on a simple familyholiday abroad anymore and its killin me.....


Im with you all the way hun dont despare!


You know what scares me the most... is when i think when im married and whatif my mum n dads dead and my husband dies then i will be alone and i cant cope on my own im nearly 20 years old and i have to have someone always near by if my rents went on holiday to a different country and left me id go crazee with fear casue there not nearby what if im sick and need them who will look afta me do u ever feel like that ? xxx

[wintergreen22]

I definitly feel like that. Especially recently since I moved out and I'm living on my own with two roomates. I have panic attacks and stomach aches before I leave the house but I'm a huge social butterfly. But why would your husband die? Unless he got cancer or something. I think everyone, even normal people, are scared to be on their own and not having thier parents around or someone else like that around to care for them, but I think its worse for us because we have the additional paralyzing fear of getting sick. To me, it's not the end of the world but its close to it! I get so scared and I want to leave my body. Its difficult because eating food can give my stomach aches and I start feeling sick, but I need to eat to live, so then what do I do? Its all very confusing. Life would be soooooo much easier if I didn't have to eat or there was no such thing has vomiting or upset stomaches. I would be so different and so much happier and life would be a lot easier.


I think that there should be a phone number that we could all call when we were having a panic attack or when we felt sick. Talking to someone usually helps me out when I feel like vomiting. But like I said, people that I do talk to are getting tired of me crying over something that they believe is stupid and irrational. I just hope that I'll find someone (a best friend or a boyfriend) that will listen and not get frustrated, pissed at me, or tired of me when I'm scared or crying or uncomfertable.


It sucks cause even when I'm hanging out with my friends at thier apartment I sometimes need to leave because I feel like I'm going to be sick and I have to deal with it by myself. I HATE THROWING UP AND I WISH IT WOULD GO AWAY!


I would give anything to live a normal life.

[ilsonchick]

Ditto!

[tomtom]

Heya all im new to this, and i dnt actually have Emetophobia myself. my partner does, and yes it affects our relationship tremendously. Shes not always able to go places or cancells on me at the last minute due to the emetophobia getting on top of her. Shes always thinking that i dnt want to be with her anymore and that i am/will get tired of her.


But saying that, i have never regretted one minute of asking her out, and she had made me one of the happyest and luckyest guys on earth. I cant tell her enough how much i love her and that im there to help her with her emetophobia and not to run away if it gets 2 much. So i guess the answer im trying to give is yes it affects relationships but they are not impossible if u both are willing to give it a try, but take one thing on board the worst things u can do is hide whats going on, and always always do everything u can to explain Emetophobia to ur partner, if my partner hadnt of explained like she did i dnt think id of understoon enough to still be with her today.


xxx

[crystalmom]

Hey all! I'm not going to blow smoke up your ass and tell you that emet has never effected my relationships. However, from what I understand you are both still young, and are so much farther ahead than I was at that age (I'm 28 now). I was at my "worst" between the ages of 18 and 21....with a small glich while I was pregnant with my son. I will tell you though, as you mature, so do the men! Believe me, if I knew then...lol! You guys will NOT end up alone. There are great men and women out there who are not afraid to confront those little skeletons in your closet. They will be there to help guide you and comfort you. Sure, there may be bumps b/c of emet, but if it wasn't that it would be something else. So relationship is perfect and I have found with my current b/f that honesty and sensitvity are released more so, than with others whom I never told. Don't worry...there are lots oof fish in this sea, all you need to do is find the right one!


Crystal


PS...you will find yourself getting better and better and being able to handle more situations, b/c of time, or therapy or whatever it is that helps you. I couldn't leave my house FOREVER, now I can't stay IN it!!![img]smileys/smilies_02.gif[/img]

[by a stream]

If i was going to hang out with my g.f (i i had one that it) for a day or night, i recon id take an anti-emetic b4 hand, just so no nausea got in the way, no matter what we got upto. Nausea and feeling like your gonna spew really spoils things[img]smileys/smilies_06.gif[/img]