3 am panic attacks, help

[luna33]

I am seriously freaking out. There is a lot going on in my life right now and I am not handling it well at all. My husband and I have been talking about moving, and started looking at houses to explore what's out there, and we found the perfect house, but it is sooo expensive, and kind of far, but he's pressuring me to buy it . .. but now that this is happening I don't want to move and am very worried about the money. And our house isn't even on the market. And the preschool I found after 8 months of searching would be 45 minutes away from the new house. I can't pull my daughter out of it once she starts because I had to pay tuition in advance ($4000) which is nonrefundable after school starts unless a replacement is found. I signed her up at another school close to the house today, but I don't like that school, it is way more expensive, but close to the house . . . but it starts Monday, and I'm sooo not ready. And it's far from *this* house.


All this is making me positively ill. I am nauseous all day and can't sleep, and am up all night (like now) horribly ill and depressed, and having panic attack after panic attack. In the daytime I'm so sick I can't play with my daughter. But I know moving would be good in the end. I just can't deal with it now, and with changing preschools. Please help! Thanks!

[tcsarah]

My advice would be to have a good long talk with your husband about all your concerns. If he realises how much all the worry of buying this house (hey, and most people would get stressed out about buying a house that was very expensive, what with the worry of keeping up with payments etc). If he can see how much it is effecting you, surely he will ease of with the pressure.


Make a list of all the pros and cons of buying the house, and if the pros outweigh the cons, try and go ahead with things, concentrating on how good things will be when you are settled in your beautiful new home. Have you been to see your doctor about your anxiety and depression? - since you are suffering day and night I think you really need to tell him/her, especially since it's now effecting your time with your daughter. Maybe a short course of pills could help you through this stressful time.


I've been in the same state as you many times in the pastwith no let up day or night from anxiety, depression and panic attacks. Those times were hellish but I survived, and came out the other side that bit stronger. It helps enormously to share your feelings and worries with other people, especially ones thatknow exactly what you aregoing through,so I do hope whenever you are feeling anxious and down you will keep coming here to vent your feelings. We will try and give you the words of encouragement and support to help get you through the sticky times!


Good luck with everything, please keep us up to date with how things are.


Tracey x

[SimplyMe]

Like Tracey said, moving itself is stressful then adding in the school issues and expenses and no wonder you feel this way. I agree also that a heart to heart w/ your husband should help. Then even if you do decide to go thru w/ buying the other house you will at least have his support and he can be there for you. I'm sure you'll make the right choice and try to remember that there really aren't "wrong" choices. If it turns out the move is a mistake then you move again if it turns out not moving is a mistake then there will be other houses and you can move then.