I ate outside. I GOT A PROBLEM

[hanarky]

OH MY GOD! ok so the other day my mom tells me I have gained weight
so I start strssing the whole thing about me gaining weight is because I
dont eat right. I eat healthy as all hell.. BUT i son't eat all day (as in when
Im out) and whenever i get hom and am absolutely sure i dont hve to go
anywehre else I ea ta lot of bran flakes and vegetables..and usually pass
out after eating..
I don't know what to do they want me to eat during school and in the
morning (beafore i take the 1 hour and a half trip to school w/ bus and
subway to Toronto Downtown!!!!)
i know I can't do it right away.. tehres no way that i can eat a meal
outside my home.. ill get a heart attack!!
I am all open to suggestion.
ps: just to all up in your face heres how anal i am about my weight and
here's a long shot of me. Thank you guys!
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[chloe]

WOW! You have a fantastic body - there's no way you are overweight! I think you look very healthy.


I understand that you have a problem eating outside and I'm not sure what to suggest but you do not have to worry about your weight - trust me!

[mbs730]

I'm jealous....







Miriam

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[terified girl]

So am I!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Jenneh]

u need to build up ur confidence before u can eat outside ur "safety barriers"


try little steps at a time, and reward urself after uv completed a step.


good luck, i wud write more, bt i hav to go


Jen xxxxxxxx

[Galadriel]

Wow seriously you do NOT have a weight problem!!You have a fantastic figure!


I agree just do baby steps, and not anything big. Maybe say at first take soem crackers with you, and eat them away from home, then see thats ok, and try a bit more food, and more, till your eating mebe half a sandwich or something.

[sunshine16]

Wow yur so pretty and yur the perfect weight...yur not overweight at all!

[hanarky]

you guys are the best!!!
thank u soo much
naw i ot some flab here and htere wanna ge rid of my lovehandles but us
european folk have them for life
yeah I will snack on cucumbers and carrots and pretzel sticks.. at least ill
try
wehnever i do my heart starts racing and i start to only think of what i
ate.. ahh its kind a hard but i think im just gonna try and beat this
phobia..cause i will reach over 300 pund if i keep on stuffing myself at
night and passing out
THANKS AGAIN!! [img]smileys/smilies_01.gif[/img]

[Melikasa]

Ugh I have no figure anymore If only I could go back to a few simple love handles. Since the baby though I have not been able to lose ANY weight.
Anyways Definatly baby steps. Bring something to nibble on after the long trip. The bus rides use to FREAK ME OUT!!!! I use to make excuses like I missed it and I made sure that I had enough to make a down payment on a car when I was 16. I refused to eat breakfast and I hated knowing there was anything in my stomach especially if I had a bus ride home.
I use to eat a banana when I got there and maybe a piece of cucumber or some crackers at first break between classes and then if I felt I would be ok an apple at lunch.
Don't push yourself though because it can hinder your progress, but try light things and nothing overwhelming. Order light when you go to a restraunt or something you can get packed up easy so you can eat it later.
I was just like you though I would eat at night and not until after my competitions and practices were over if I had them that day. Of course by that time it was late and bed time. So getting yourself out of the happit of eating late and ESPECIALLY before sleeping would be a good thing.
Don't be hard on yourself for what you look like on the outside anyways. I myself am still working on that but my husband loves me for who I am no matter what and what is on the inside is always going to be more important that what is on the outside and it is wrong for your parents to even have said that to you.

[sweetfreak]

You do NOT need to lose weight. If you did, then you would end up being too skinny and bony like I am.


I am 33, 5'7", and weigh about 115, btw.

[mbs730]

Okay you are seriously making me jealous now!</font>

[mbs730]

I apologize for that. That wasnt too nice. This is just
a sensitive subject for me and to top it off, as you know I am in an
incredibly foul mood. However I think I better log off for the night
before I get myself into trouble. Take care



Miriam

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[Jenneh]

aww Miriam.


i hope ur feelin a bit better this morning. at least its morning for me!


btw.. the picture in ur avatar? the linkin park poster? i used to have it stuck up on my bedroom wall =P


and about 4 others... but AHEM anyway lol


Jen xxxxxxxxx

[sweetfreak]

Miriam,


If you saw me, you would NOT be jealous. I don't look good at all. I look disgustingly skinny. It's gross, and I so wish I could eat enough so I could gain some weight and have an actual figure like a real woman my age. [img]smileys/smilies_06.gif[/img]

[crazybeautiful]

Ah,I don't see any problem at all. We should be happy with our bodies. No matter what they look like. I finally am, and I can admit it. I have a lil stomac, but I'm not fat like I used to think. Most women do have a little stomac anyways.


About eating away from home, like everyone said, take little things. I ALWAYS carry water with me and a granola bar or apple or something, now that I'm starting school again, I will bring a lunch. Except I'm opposite, I have to eat or I will feel sick and that will worry me!!

[hanarky]

ya know I just wish society would accept women the way they are in
jamaica.. (damn wha t agreat land) the bigger your ass the more men like
you ahah
But this isn't about men. this is about stupid hollywood and advertising
and airbrushed LA senza models that look like wax models..Im sure they
are good girls but damn!
Yeah If society wouldnt pressure us a lot of you wouldnt be bolemic or
anorexic.. i can assure you..
ahhh... I don't know Let's burn our bras for the cause.. YAY [img]smileys/smilies_04.gif[/img]

[mbs730]

Unfortunately society is sick, thats the bottom line. I
have a friend who suffered from both anorexia and bulimia. Very very
sad. She is doing okay now though. I am more sensitive to this issue
too because my brother is very shallow. He would have NEVER dated
someone who had any extra weight on them, and had to be a perfect 10 as
far as looks go and LOLOL look what he got! A FREAK! Hey Jenneh I had
no idea you were a Linkin fan. Cool! I LOVE Chester My husband
doesnt like my taste in music but oh well lol.



Miriam

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[Louise]

wow! you have the perfect body! you do not need to lose weight at all!


and just think, if you are in the house and eat, and you're ok.... you will be ok outside too!


if everyone else can eat outside, then i'm sure you can too!


try to lay off the fatter foods, as they tend to give you heartburn.. eat lots offruit &amp; vegetables [img]smileys/smilies_01.gif[/img]

[Jenneh]

Miriam.. i used to be OBSESSED with linkin...


but.. long story.. not nemore =P


Jen xxxxx

[mbs730]

They kinda do that to you dont they lol. Meteora and
Hybrid Theory are awesome! Anyway I am feeling better today. I have
come to terms with the fact that no one is going to be very
compassionate towards me regarding this phobia. Thats fine okay but as
long as they dont throw it in my face! Uggh. Anyway I hope you are
doing well. Take care



Miriam

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[Jenneh]

well people SHUD be understanding and considerate to you because people sympathise with someone going thru physical illnesses, so why not mental?


but yeah i cud blab on ALL DAY about peoples stigma.. but i wont =P


but we are compassionate towards you , you hav us [img]smileys/smilies_04.gif[/img]


Jen xxxxxxxx

[mbs730]

I know and I appreciate that more than ANYTHING! You
have no idea how much I do and I must say that this forum is a GODSEND!
I've lived with this phobia for 25 years and its nice to know I am not
the only one that has it!



Miriam

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[Jenneh]

yus. this forum is defenitely a god send.


i look forward to coming here and reading all ur posts and replying to as many as i can!


Jen xxxxxxx

[rachelle]

Hey all,


I definately agree with crazybeautiful. I think even though its hard we should all love ourselves for wat we are. I'm really trying hard not to hate the way I look (i think im too thin) and gradually im starting to realise that I should be thankful and stop worrying so much about how other people see me physically.


I never used to like eating away from home either, but its a gradual thing, start of slow and build up. It takes getting used to but u will do it. Just remember that eating away from home is no different or "safer" from being at home. I hope that helps somewhat.


Rachel xxx

[frankie]

from a blokes point of view you have a very nice figure...


Why do some women want to be skinny skinny... most blokes dont like really skinny girls anyway... Anyway I am sure its about self confidence rather than what blokes like.

[crazybeautiful]

I like linkin park too!!! WHOOO! Breaking the Habit and My december are my faves!

[mbs730]

Kewl 2 people already that share the same tastes that I
have Breaking the Habit is my favourite, could listen to that all
the time lol. I also love Runaway, Easier to Run, Numb, Crawling,
Papercut, OMG you name it lol



Miriam

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[Jenneh]

Numb was a good song =) and easier to run =)


they used to be my favourites.


Jen xxxx

[mbs730]

You dont like Linkin anymore Jen?</font>