Scared about work

[confused]

It doesn't bother me to type out the words so I didn't use "v*" just to let you know.


Ok, I got to type this fast because I have to leave for work in a few minutes. But guys I am sooooo scared to go to work. A girl I work with came into work on wednesday saying she felt really sick. She said that she had been 'yacking' all morning. Then she started to ask if we knew how far along you have to be to have morning sickness because she was a month late. I started to freak out and I told my boss that I wanted to work today and I didn't want to panic all day, and I wasn't going to be freaking out all day so either the girl left or I did (My boss knows about my fears) My boss sent her home because you cant be throwing up while working with food. Well the next day she comes in and announces that she took a preganancy test and she's pregnant! She said that she still felt like crap and was still throwing up. So she was soo naucious all day, and I tried to explain my fears to her, and she said 'dont worry i got a big trash can by me' She stayed for her whole shift, I even saw her eating chicken nuggets at one point, and I asked her why she was eatingsomething so heavy and greasy,she said so she'd have something to throw up .


So now I'm scared to go into work today, because she is going to be there, in fact i checked the schedule and she and i are working almost the same shifts for the next week! I CANT DO THIS!!!!! I amtoo afraid to eat while I'm around her, because that is the only way I feel like I can get through the day,but I don't have any weight to spare right now!


...I dunno, one woman I work with thinks the girl is faking, because she's a real drama queen and likes a ton of attention. All I know is that I have to leave now, and I'm afraid..

[e-lizabeth]

I'm so sorry you're having such a hard time with this, but would it help to remind yourself that morning sickness is NOT contagious at all, and that there's no way you can get sick from being near her? For many of us, it's the "will I get it" aspect of other people's sickness that's the most frightening....


Also, if she's got really bad morning sickness, she may decide that working with food isn't right for her right now and may take some time off. And the severe morning sickness may not last that long. If she's a month late by the time she finds out she's pregnant, then she's way ahead of the game and well into her first trimester. I found out I was pregnant this time (I'm 7 months) the day after my period was due and last time, the day BEFORE my period was due.

[Melikasa]

Well I know that this must be difficult for you but morning sickness doesn't ALWAYS mean she will be sick. She may work a little harder at not letting herself get sick while at work. Though personally morning sickness goes away almost as soon as you are sick. I HATED it but I did discover that as soon as I was sick I didn't feel so bad. The other thing that morning sickness is a lot worse when you don't eat. So if you see her eating 1) it is good for her and the baby that she does eat and 2) it most of the time makes one feel better.
I am hoping that she is considerate enough (knowing how you feel) to leave. She may have morning sickness but there is still time to get to the bathroom.
Like elizabeth said she may decide to shorten her shifts or take early mat leave, because smells of food often affect morning sickness. I couldn't even cook for my husband and when he cooked with spices I had to stick my nose outside into the fresh air. LOL I must have looked wierd.
It won't last forever, you can't catch it andI know you will do fine. Big hugs.

[mbs730]

Danielle I'm sorry you have to face this. I would be
freaking out too because it doesnt matter if whatever someone has is
contageous or not. If someone is v'ing no matter why, I freak out and
have to run out! Is there any way you can talk to your boss into
finding you different shifts to work????



Miriam

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[kentuckygalrk]

Aw... I'm sorry that you are having to face this. If it's any consolation at all, one of my best friends, whom I happen towork with,is pregnant too... in fact, I should be becoming "auntie" Raquel VERY soon! But anyhoo, when she was in the beginning part of her pregnancy she'd vomit a lot... she had evening sickness so anytime we worked together or went somewhere in the evening it was inevitable she'd be running for the bathroom at some point.


I actually used her pregnancy (I know that sounds horrible, but it's not really), as a means to help conquer my fear. I told myself that I knew she was sick for a very wonderful and marvelous reason and that she was so brave (as I think any pregnant woman is) to be going through what she was going through and that I would NOT allow myself to be afraid, or disgusted by her. Did it work? Well... the first couple of times I was kinda grossed out, didn't want to be anywhere near her when she returned, touch anything she touched, use the phone she used, etc... all the typical emet things. However, after the first week or so I actually got kind of used to it (didn't like it, it just didn't really bother me anymore). Ifound myself saying,who me, the crazy scared of vomit girl?!?!? Did I really just take the phone from the girl who was running to the toilet to toss her cookies and talk calmly to the customer on the other line until she could return from "doing the deed" only to ask her, face to face, when she returned if she needed to sit down or wanted any water, only to take the cup she drank out of and go get her the water myself!!! WOW!! To be honest, I was amazed that it just kind of came so naturally after the first few times. Now I'm not saying I'd go so far as holding her hair back or anything... but hey... it was quite a triumph just to get as far as the bathroom door to check if she was okay!


Her sickness faded away somewhere around the fourth month and she was fine afterwards. Then, the other day I was taking her to the doctor for her checkup (she's already 2 centimeters dialated WOOHOO!!!) and when I called her that morning she casually mentioned that she'd thrown up that morning and the morning before and prior to that like 5 other days within the last two weeks! Did I freak out.. well no... I didn'treally. I was a little anxious about it (I mean I did just get a new car and I was driving), but I put it in the back of my mind and went anyways. It wasn't til after her appt. when she wanted, anddevouredsome serious mexican food that she explained she'd been ill because of her medicine which she's taken in the past and been ill from everytime. So... had I worried... it would have been for nothing!


I really and truly believe that you too can get through this!!! You are brave and strong! Just remember why she's ill and that you can't catch it. Perhaps you could have someone, or the girl herself give you a little heads up if she's going to be ill.Just remember it's all for the little wonder she's carrying inside her and as uncomfortable as it makes you... it's most definitely not so comfy for her either!


~Rachel

[hanarky]

The stupidest thing Ive ever heard was " SO I HAVE SOMETHING TO
THROW UP WITH" in front of a f***ing emetophobe that has explined ther
fears to therm (which takes ENOUGH courage already!!!)
ph my god that girls is retarded.. Im sorry no offense to anyone that like
to throw up with greasy nasty ass chicken nuggets while being pregnant!
damn thats just stupid
sorry sorry sorry sorrry
but damn!!

[kentuckygalrk]

Actually... from what I'veknown a numberof pregnant women.. they crave the nastiest things in the world... even during morning sickness It doesn't make them "retarded". I mean... my aunt craved pickles and fried banana peppers with ice creameven after a nasty bout with morning blahs! It's not her fault her hormones are all whacked out. As my friend put it... "It's probably the only time in your life that you canvomit and then be absolutely starving and able to eat a big meal promptly thereafter. So why not eat when you feel good... it's not worth starving yourself over" (her saying that didn't bother me at all either... because I know she can't help it)


It is pretty insensitive to tell someone who's an emet something like that, but think about it... especially if you've ever had depression. There was a time when I never felt like that... I responded to people who were depressed much like many others respond tome now, which is typically with something like "Oh, it could be worse" or "you're just being dramatic"... but I must forgive those people, because quite frankly I realize that I was once one of them... and face it, if you've never had depression, or an irrational fear of something, well then, you just don't know what it's like and you don't know how to respond.For Example, someone who's terrified of spiders will never understand how someone could hold oneor have one as a pet... it doesn't make the spiderowner stupid... he just doesn't mind bugs. So maybe it's best to just let what she said go and move on to how to deal with the situation the best you can from now on.


~Rachel

[confused]

Thank you all foryour responses. Well I survived work yesterday because the girl had called in, so she couldseethe doctor. Unfortunantly I ended up freaking out anyways because one of the guys I work with had a migraine and looked really really naucious from it, but I got through it!


I know that I can't catch her morning sickness, which helps ever so slightly. What freaks me out is that she is making NO attempt to get to the bathroom. Even after I told her about my fears, she still was just planning on using the trash can next to her (which is completely WRONG even if your not an emet because its fast food, and you shouldn't be throwing up near food, thats got to be a violation of the health codes). The bathroom is pretty far away because you have to walk all the way from the back, all the way through the dining room to get to the bathrooms, and even then they are single toilet bathrooms, so you might have to wait. Even though I can't catch it, I still have panic attacks because I used to be one of those people who would throw up every time I saw someone else do it (that was when I was really young, and I haven't done it in like 15 years). I getscared that if I saw someone else get sick, it would make me throw up, which I know is not rational thinking, so I need to get over it.... but it's SOOO hard!


Like I said in my first post, she is a drama queen and has said things just to get attention before so it won't suprise me if she was just faking. Plus her stories don't always match up, which makes me think that a lot of what she says are lies. Putting this whole morning sickness aside, I'm getting so tired of dealing with her. A good example, before all this started, she said a whole bunch of stuff (non emet related)to me in front of everyone just to make me embarrassed. Later when it was just her and I she told me that she had lied about all the things she had said and she started laughing about it.


I might not have to deal with her much longer though, because the managers are getting tired of her always calling in (she has called in a LOT like maybe 10-15 times since she started working there like a month a go) and she always has a different excuse. so her job probably won't last much longer.... plus she was supposed to start college in a week or two so I'm not sure even if she was planning on continuing working. So if I had to guess I'd say for one reason or another she probably won't work there in 2-3 weeks. So I just have to make it through that.


Danielle

[mbs730]

LOLOL
OH HONEY~~~~ My SIL is the Queen of Drama Queens and she sounds
somewhat like her!! She v's easily too and she is also pregnant.
Fortunately I havent seen her lately because apparently she was sick.
She is also a control freak and if she tells my brother to jump off of
a bridge, damn he'll do it! However she gets migraines all the time and
one night in the winter time, we all went to my parents one night for
dinner and she wasnt feeling well. I am glad she went upstairs and just
in case she did v (which she did but not while I was there) I didnt
have to either know about it or hear about it. However after my husband
and I left, that is when she v'ed (thank Heavens) but my mother told me
that she pumped up the volume more than necessary and she always pulls
this crap! She is the BIGGEST attention seeker. She also one time got
into a car accident (one more minor than the one I got into back in
September) and she was acting as if she cuold barely walk. My brother
said all what had happened was that she was rear ended, and it wasnt
that major!! Uggh, anyway yeah I know how you feel about drama queens
because one is part of our family now and I cannot stand her! My
parents dont like her either because she has done lots of damage!!!!
Ugghhhh well I will end it here before the fire starts to spread lol



Miriam

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